Body Confidence

Everyone has been through it. Everyone is going through it.

The worry of you looking too big or too skinny in an outfit, your reflection in the mirror not agreeing with you that day, not looking curvy enough or muscly enough, the constant reminder that you will never be able to look like all those Instagram models or celebrities. Figuring out that no matter what you do or what you eat, you will never be perfect enough for that one person: you.

Over the years the pressure within society to become this idea of having the 'perfect body' has increased. Boys and girls self esteem is decreasing due to this idea that there is some ideal person in which everyone loves and aspires to be.

We see it everywhere; in movies, on TV, in magazines, even in books you have the tall thin skinny girl who everyone idolizes, and the bigger girl who is picked on because she isn't 'good enough'. Yet the biggest culprit of it all is social media, a place filled with goals and lifestyles that you just can't reach.

Growing up, people would make comments that I was 'too skinny' and should 'eat more' or that I looked anorexic, even though I just had a really really fast metabolism and never really gained weight, and still don't.

These comments people would make really hurt me and lowered my self confidence to the point where I would start hating my body. I was in this continuous battle to look and become a certain way, and from time to time I still do now.

Everyone deals with body confidence issues, our natural instinct is to dislike ourselves as we are not the perfect image we have constructed in our heads. There is no such thing as an 'ugly' body or even a perfect one, It's how we chose to love ourselves that defines who we are, and as people we should learn to encourage others and uplift them.

Us as humans are brought up and taught to love ourselves, not HOW to love ourselves. The art of beauty is such a powerful thing and there is something about everyone that someone else would love to have. Whether you're tall, thin, thick, curvy, big, muscly, skinny, short, no matter how you are, or who you are, YOU are the only version of you, and YOU are defined on how you vision yourself, not others.

So wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and see what a rare one of a kind person you are and in the famous words of RuPaul; If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love someone else?'

Vee xx