Are You Ready
To Have What You Want?
The main focus has always been, "what do I have to do to get what I need?" We have conditioned ourselves to accept that is more important than "What do I have to do to get what I want?" Therefore the idea what we want is thrown out of the equation because we constantly have to remind ourselves "Is this what we need?" A lot of times we face consequences by jumping ahead to get what we want. Businesses where you can rent luxury items are havens for what we want. Overpriced luxurious items that often times we end up missing payments on, after only 4 months, tends to make us regret going for what we wanted. Next thing you know your credit score is shot.
The funny thing about your credit score is it's just a grading system for our finances so that we can get what we want. What we need doesn't necessarily need a credit score. We can get everything we need within the right environment and for the right amount... That also applies to what we want too. It's all based on the idea of what you're willing to put in. The more money you have, the more you can pay off your debt, build up your credit, and be able to afford that Ferrari or yacht you've only dreamed about. Whether your means comes from years of busting your ass at your job to climb that ladder towards CEO or fighting your way (Escobar style) to build your own empire, it takes determination, hard work, and you got to be able to use your knowledge to the best of your ability. One wrong move can move you right back down the ladder.
Not all of us were born with a silver spoon in our hands.
The point is, focusing on what you want, regardless of what you need is not a bad thing... As long as you're willing to put in the effort.
What if I told you that You can apply that to your love life as well.
"Wait... What?"
I said what I said. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone that you want... "But still be that person you need?"
Yes! Why can't we have both?
"Not possible in reality."
Bullshit! Yes it is. Go for a generalization and not set for specific.
Chances are, you're not winning over Megan Fox. Definitely not as long as she's with MGK. But do you want someone who looks like her and has a killer body?
What are you willing to do to fit into that class? The first thing is to make sure you fit period. If your overweight and dress like a slob, and you don't feel like you should do anything to change yourself? Then you don't deserve anybody you want. You can wait on finding a woman you need, who accepts you for you.
The entire idea I'm pitching here is to provide you with an opportunity to find the "type of person" you want. I'm not giving you a guaranteed for "the person" you want. In fact anything I say is not a guarantee, but a logical idea that gives you a chance to take advantage of your shallow side by understanding you have to be able to play a role and become that role yourself. Nobody should be forced to fall in love with you because they have to accept you for you. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a certain type of look but you have to be willing to look a certain way too.
"How do we know what beach babes like?"
Umm... Well... If that's what you're going for then I'm going on a whim here and just assume they like muscular guys named Brad who live in a condo on the beach and has his own gym set-up outside for his daily public display of repetitions. Does Brad sound like a douche? Probably, but that's just a stereotype. Not everyone who has that chiseled beach body is a douche. Brad might be an outstanding guy who values his health and wants to look good. There is nothing wrong with that. We need to stop punishing ourselves and each other for wanting to be attractive or even set our sights on someone who is attractive.
Whether you believe in a higher power or not, the truth is we were designed to be attracted to one another by our looks. Everyone has their own preferences. You just have to make sure that if you're going to be picky with your preferences, do you match their preferences?
Who knows, there might be some beach babes who want a guy that's overweight and looks like a slob, best of luck on finding her.
The ticket lies in your level of confidence which is where you're going to have the best chance of getting the type of person that you want. If you have too much confidence then you just become egotistical which is what happens to a lot of people who believe they have the perfect body and need to be worshiped like a god. Which is why vanity is considered a sin.
If you do not have a preference for a specific type of person you want or need then this does not apply to you
Regardless of the examples I'm providing, whether it's material items or a certain type of person, you have to be willing to put the work in. Not everybody qualifies for an exception. Instead of waiting around to see if you are that exception, set your mind to something and work towards it. Get a job, your own place, maybe a gym membership. Build yourself up including your health.
Keep your options to a generalization and not to a specific. You could do everything in the book to try to win somebody over, but you might just not be the person they want even if you want them. Some people really don't value looks. But if you do value attraction in a relationship, the chances are, the type of person you want does too. All in all, it's best to make sure you have what you need first and then work towards what you want. When you put forth the effort to work towards it, then you should be able to have what you want.
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