Are You Ready

Are you ready to be happy? Happiness comes from within. The misconception is that other people bring you happiness. Here's the thing, It can be influenced by others. You have the ability inside you to be happy through anything. Unfortunately, the challenge is in the keyword "anything".

You wouldn't expect to be happy at a funeral. You can be, but it's not a bad thing to mourn. In fact, we have various emotions because it's in our human nature to cry when we feel sad, be upset when we're angry, and etc.

Many people already know how to find something to help influence them to be happy. The challenge is being happy all the time even when you're poor, single, homeless, in a dispute, ect. You can simply switch to a more positive outlook with a series of techniques that allows you to condition your mind to immediately block the stress out.

1st step: You need to be ready to release and say I've had enough! This is where anger is useful because it's being used as a motivator to target the negativity.

2nd step: You need to come to terms with everything from your past and accept that you learned from them. Even if it wasn't your lesson to learn, take note that someone else needed to during that moment and you were set there as an example.

Keep in mind that even when you feel like you've done nothing wrong, check to make sure whether or not you're responsible for getting involved in that situation. For example, if you're the loyal one in relationships but keep getting hurt, it's possible that you keep holding onto the same person but through other people. It's time to raise your standards.

3rd step: Understand the importance of self-value. Nobody deserves to live through pain. Why should you? Despite the recent argument pointing out that it's unnecessary to have to love yourself first, I disagree. In my personal opinion, it is crucial to love yourself before you "should" allow someone to give you their love. Loving yourself means you appreciate your self-worth and you will not allow disrespect to bring you down.

Valuing yourself also helps build up a guard so that you wouldn't be caught off guard and fall into a trap being treated as worthless.

Once you rely on someone else to lift you up, you also risk allowing them to bring you down.

Self-respect and self-worth gives you an incentive to prevent from falling in that trap.

4th step: Learn patience! It is important to allow things in life to show up naturally whether that's through hard work or letting God / time to bring in the blessings.

When you're going through a transition, especially, for example, adjusting to being single right after a breakup, entering into another relationship immediately risks the negative cycle to repeat itself. You also chance yourself to become the person who you just left. By not allowing yourself time to heal, your rebound may become the victim that you once were and you lowered yourself below your own standards.

All in all, how you choose to react to the obstacles thrown your way will mold you and your mental strength will be affected, which will then affect your emotions and eventually affect you physically.

We already have every feeling within us because we were born with emotions and those obstacles in life thrown at us make us feel certain ways. Happiness is a feeling that we were born with also. It's already there! That is up to you to decide when to enjoy it.