A Chicago MBA on Food Stamps
Fortunes Reversed and Reversed Again
It didnt take long for my descent from brilliant graduate student with a newly minted MBA from top-tier school University of Chicago to being on the bottom rung of society. Suffice it to say that I ended up alone in my grandmother's house in an exclusive gated community - divorced, my mother died and my grandmother in a nursing home. Sleeping during the day and awake all night - I was in a reverse commute with everyone else in society. I would go out to New York City all night and come back in the subways at 6 am as the go getters were already arriving for their jobs in the city. Those of course were the jobs that I had interviewed for many times over. I imagined a career in advertising, and I had made it to the 3rd or 4th round of interviews in all the big firms - Leo Burnett, DDB Needham, Chiat/Day. But nothing ever clicked right. It was a recession and these desirable jobs were much sought after by everyone. Here I was an ex aerospace engineer trying to break into the hipster world of advertising based on my Chicago career office arranging a few interviews. I relied on those big ticket interviews that everyone was doing, and didn't network enough. You know networking the way career experts suggest that somehow you can like a social butterfly keep contacting all these strangers and keep them interested in your career desires. It's a strange mix of being pushy assertive and self absorbed which I was never good at much to my peril. Once the glamorous company presentations with shrimp cocktails were over, I had no other interviews to fall back on. So there I was alone in a big house with nowhere to go but to waste time and revel in my abandon. All or nothing was my credo. Since I didn't get a job, I would descend into poverty by spending all my money in strip clubs till it ran out. Not the most prudent retirement plan.
Then it happened - at this lowest of low points - I met the love of my life who saw beyond the problems I was having. Imagine the Superman movie theme as he slowly regains his power. She got me organized to search for a job and I eventually got a job back in aerospace instead of advertising. She had had losses in her life too, which is why she was so understanding. The normal rules of dating didn't apply to us, and we fell in love by our own accord. But we didn't stop there, we had married and had 3 children, including 2 poor souls we adopted from Romania. Who would have thought that my life picture could change to the upside again? Now we were a family of five living in that house and I was no longer out of synch with the world.
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The Architecture of the Unstoppable Mind: Why 99% of People Fail and How to Be the 1%
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