8 Lessons Most Women Learn Too Late

We all want to better our lives but learning how to do this, is not always easy. Women always strive to achieve power, money, and success but many still don’t feel fulfilled even after completing them. Humans tend to learn many life lessons a bit too late thus stunting our personal growth and development. Below are 12 lessons women tend to learn a bit too late in life.

1. Attitude Remains Everything

Many women struggle to stay positive even in the face of a headache or a bad morning. Women tend to learn too late how having a positive mindset amid challenges can help them accomplish great things.

Multiple studies have confirmed that a change of mindset can motivate one to achieve greater things. Positive thinking and interventions will help a woman increase their resilience, and enhance their quality of life. A high quality of life will eventually lead to greater satisfaction.

2. You are Responsible for the Way People Treat You

We have all been undermined and disrespected under different situations and we might feel like nobody treats us well. But the truth is: that you are often responsible for the way people treat you.

You must set boundaries, but when you refuse, people will find it easy to disrespect you. A study reveals that individuals disrespected often usually have cynical views about human nature and this leads to treating themselves and others with disrespect.

3. Actions Always Speak Louder Than Words

According to psychology, the unconscious is very powerful and that is why one’s behaviors will always betray one’s true sentiments. If someone’s actions don’t align with what they say, then they will likely do the opposite of the things they say. Women often end up in relationships that drain them instead of inspiring them because they follow the words and not the actions of others.

4. It’s Always Okay to Say No!

As a woman, you should never feel bad about saying No, in certain situation. Setting boundaries is part of living a good, authentic life, unfortunately, most women learn this lesson too late in life.

According to a recent survey, 65% of women compared to 49% of men, admitted to having difficulties saying no. One wonders why it is so difficult to say No and set boundaries. A survey reported that roughly 63% of Americans consider themselves “People Pleasers”.

People pleasing is the number one reason why many find it difficult to say “No”. Over time, being a people-pleaser will lead to devastating long-term consequences on our well-being, making living more difficult for us.

5. Validation Should Come from Within

Many women put themselves in a difficult situation because they seek validation from people. We can hardly live without the opinion of others hence we tend to keep them around even when they are toxic to our wellbeing.

Keeping toxic people around you is toxic, for instance; a survey indicates that people in a relationship with psychopaths often experience aggravated physical and mental health issues. These experiences are quite similar to those experiencing PTSD, depression, and other violent crimes.

6. Don’t Feel Bad About Putting Yourself First in Certain Situations

People often think you are selfish when you put yourself first all the time, but investing more time in yourself is often the best step towards investing in people you love. Research have shown that individuals who lack self-care do suffer worsening mental issues. So, never feel bad about investing in your self-care and improvement and being selfish from time to time.

7. Failure Will Always Bring You a Step Closer to Success

Failure is not the end of the world, how you look at the situation matters. Women who ruminate over past failures often suffer the most and several studies have shown refusing to let go aggravate symptoms of depression. For this reason, learn to take failure in stride and let go of its grip on your mental and physical state.

Maintaining positive emotions will open you up to new ideas as you learn from your previous failures. This does not mean you should disregard your negative emotions, you need to learn from your mistakes to avoid repeats. You should create a balance between negative and positive emotions to avoid being overwhelmed by negativities.

8. Relationship Should Replenish You, Not Diminish You

It’s great to be in a relationship but when you constantly find yourself angry unmotivated and depressed; it’s a sign that you need to start putting yourself first. Unfortunately, most women do not learn these lessons until they notice symptoms of depression from toxic relationships.

Healthy relationships should build you, motivate, and inspire you not dim your energy levels and drain you mentally. Pick your friends and partners wisely before it’s too late.

As a woman, you should have the mindset that you are in charge of your success. Whether you rise or fall depends on the decisions you make. Never feel bad about putting yourself first sometimes, and it's okay to say No; especially when you are being exploited.