How I Discovered He Is on Facebook Dating Behind My Back

Chapter 1: A Cold Alaskan Love Story

My name is Eleanor Gerario, a 29-year-old nurse from Hope, Alaska—a small town where everyone knows each other, and dating options are limited. I’ve had Facebook since 2017, but mostly used it to share family photos and keep up with friends. I never imagined it could be a dating platform.

Then, in 2022, I received a friend request from Henry, a charming wildlife photographer from Anchorage. His profile was filled with breathtaking shots of Alaskan landscapes and rescue dogs he volunteered with. After ignoring his request for weeks (I was cautious about online strangers), I finally accepted.

Our conversations started casually, talking about northern lights, hiking trails, and our shared love for dogs. Within a month, we exchanged numbers. A year later, we were officially dating. Life felt perfect… until a single notification shattered everything.

Chapter 2: The Mysterious Facebook Dating Alert

One evening, Henry’s phone buzzed while we were watching a movie. The screen lit up with: "New match on Facebook Dating!"

I froze. "What’s that?" I asked, trying to sound casual.

Henry quickly dismissed it. "Oh, must be spam. Facebook’s always sending weird stuff." He deleted the notification before I could read more.

At the time, I believed him. I had no idea Facebook even had a dating feature. I assumed it was some group or event notification. But the seed of doubt was planted.

Chapter 3: The Truth About Facebook Dating

A week later, my best friend Rachel mentioned she’d met her boyfriend on Facebook Dating. My stomach dropped.

"Wait, Facebook has dating now?" I asked.

Rachel laughed. "Yeah, it’s been around for years! It’s like Tinder but connected to your Facebook profile."

Suddenly, Henry’s "spam" notification made sense. If he had a Facebook Dating profile, he was actively looking for other women. But how could I prove it?

Chapter 4: The Failed Phone Check

I tried checking Henry’s phone when he was in the shower, but he’d locked his Facebook app with a separate password. His search history was wiped clean. I even created a fake Facebook Dating profile myself, hoping to stumble across his, but the algorithm never showed him to me.

To find out if someone is on Facebook Dating, check if their Facebook app has the Dating feature enabled (look under the menu tab). You can also create a profile to see potential matches. Since Facebook Dating is separate from regular profiles, it's hidden. For extra help, use tools like Spokeo to search their email or phone number—this might reveal hidden dating profiles linked to their identity.

Frustrated, I Googled: "How to find someone on Facebook Dating without an account?" That’s when I discovered Spokeo.

Chapter 5: The 95-Cent Revelation

Spokeo’s reverse phone lookup promised to uncover hidden dating profiles linked to a phone number. For less than a dollar, I could get answers.

I entered Henry’s number into Spokeo’s reverse phone lookup, paid $0.95, and waited.

The report arrived in minutes:

✅ Active Facebook Dating profile (linked to his secondary email)

✅ A Bumble account (username: AlaskaAdventurer)

✅ Proof he’d been active on both apps for two years, since before we even met

The dates didn’t lie. While I thought we were building a future, he was still swiping on other women. I couldn't believe that he cheated me. So I searched his name and email on Spokeo to confirm it. That is, I entered his personal email in Spokeo's Reverse Email Lookup. And I was surprised to see the results. This time the results were even more detailed. Now I was sure that he was cheating on me.

Chapter 6: The Confrontation

I didn’t yell. I didn’t cry. I simply texted Henry the Spokeo report with one question: "Explain."

His reply? "I can explain." (But he never did.)

When I pressed him, he claimed he "forgot to delete the apps" and "never actually met anyone." But the evidence showed otherwise—regular activity, new matches, and messages exchanged.

Chapter 7: The Aftermath

I ended it that night. Blocked him everywhere. Returned his favourite hoodie (the one I used to sleep in) by mailing it to his ex’s address—a petty move, but it felt good.

Later, Rachel helped me check his Facebook Dating profile again using her account. His bio read: "Looking for someone adventurous. No drama."

I laughed through my tears. The irony.

Why Spokeo Worked (When Nothing Else Did)

1. Facebook Dating is hard to track—it doesn’t appear in regular searches.

2. Spokeo’s reverse lookup bypasses privacy settings by tying phone numbers to hidden accounts.

3. $0.95 is a small price for peace of mind (compared to $30/month services like BeenVerified).

Final Thoughts

Henry wasn’t just cheating—he was living a double life. Thanks to Spokeo, I uncovered the truth before wasting more years on a liar.

Now? I’m off dating apps altogether. Maybe I’ll meet someone the old-fashioned way—in person, where lies are harder to hide.

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(Names and some details changed for privacy.)