Why You Will Never Know Another Person Completely

Sometimes people make mistakes, and those we consider close are not what they seem. In a sense, it may even seem to you that you have no choice but to accept that it is impossible to know a person completely.

The English poet John Donne once said, "Man is not an island." We all live on the same planet. However, as much as we may not like it, our loved ones do not always behave according to our expectations or desires.

We all love predictability. We have expectations from other people and we hope they will not disappoint us. You are confident that your family or friends will react in certain circumstances in a certain way and that you can always count on them.

"A man is not born once and for all on the day he is born, life makes him born again and again - many times - to be reborn again" - Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

The reality is that it is completely impossible to know another person. At least not so deeply and not so well that you can get into his mind and predict exactly what he will or will not do.

People can change

One of the reasons you can't get to know someone is a person's tendency to change. We all set new goals, move forward, become more mature, and even change some of our character traits. Although many believe that the personality of an adult does not change.

However, if you accept this idea, then it helps you to avoid a whole series of disappointments in life. People change under the influence of their experiences and life situations when they have to rethink things and even principles.

Research at Nathan University in Michigan Hudson has led to interesting results. It turns out that many of us are dissatisfied with our character, and so we would like to change our personality, which implies the need to work on self-doubt and change certain qualities to be satisfied with our new version.

Such a process of change often means separating from certain people and sometimes upsetting loved ones. By choosing the path of self-expression, you will inevitably surprise at least more people with your decisions. Even you can be surprised yourself!

It is impossible to know another person well because you see him the way you want to see him

People often complain that they can't get to know someone better. This usually happens in times of bitterness and disappointment caused by unwarranted expectations.

But we all inevitably make mistakes. At some point, each of us may disappoint a loved one or behave unpredictably. And this is far from the only factor to consider.

In some cases, you may not know a person because you leave no room for new acquaintances in your mind. You can simply reject everything you don't want to see.

Sometimes people create in their imagination a certain image of absolute and unrealistic perfection. They make too many assumptions, which makes them idealize another person, creating in their head a beautiful image that they want to see instead of their boyfriend or girlfriend.

Only accept this uncertainty

Renowned psychologist Lewis R. Goldberg says that character is not always distinguished by the reliability and rigidity required to predict one's behavior. There are many other small and imperceptible aspects - invisible variables that are not under your control, which makes this impossible.

Therefore, yes: you can never know another person well enough, no matter how close you are. The best bet is to trust him. Only accept this uncertainty.

As you know, in this world you can't be sure of anything. Enjoy the present and agree that life is synonymous with change, suspense, and surprises.