When You Close Your Eyes in a Relationship and You Don’t Want to Know the Truth?

When do you close your eyes in a relationship? When you prefer not to know the truth, do you prefer to be lied to, do you prefer to remain blind, do you prefer the illusion? Sometimes, even though you feel and even though there are some signs around you that something is not going well in the relationship, you choose not to see, you want not to know. You try to fool yourself and believe that everything is the same, that everything is fine.

A mistake that can hurt you a lot: when you close your eyes in a relationship and refuse to notice what is wrong, to notice what is happening, when reality can no longer be ignored you will face a shock. Because you have tried for so long to ignore, to convince yourself that everything is fine, the moment you face reality will be harder.

We all sometimes prefer to be blind, hoping that if we ignore a problem, it will somehow solve itself… Unfortunately, things never go that way. Ignoring a problem does not mean its disappearance: it only means postponing the moment we face it. And it means that we will never be ready to face her, because we tried our best not to see her, not to think about her…

When you close your eyes in a couple's relationship, preferring the illusion?

When you feel that the feelings of your partner have changed, but you do not want and can not cope with this reality. You notice that something has changed, that he has moved away from you, that he no longer says "I love you" and other little words of love. But you don't even want to think about the possibility that your partner may not love you anymore.

You calm down and calm down, telling yourself that this is how things work in a longer relationship, that it's okay for the relationship to get a little colder. But somewhere inside you know too well that something is not normal, that something in the relationship is wrong; you just don't feel able to accept that, so close your eyes and hope.

You hope that everything will be fine in the end and you hope that it is not about the disappearance of love. "Love me, love me, say that you love me / Fool me, fool me, go on and fool me / Love me, love me, pretend that you love me" - the words of the song. Although you know that it is best to confront your partner and ask him/her what is going on between you, you prefer a sweet lie, which at least makes you at peace…

When you suspect that your partner cheated on you. If you notice certain signs that indicate a betrayal of your partner, you can choose to close your eyes. Especially when you know that you would not be able to forgive him for such a betrayal, that you would not be able to get over the cheating, and that, if you know, the couple's relationship will be destroyed, you can choose, more or less consciously, to stay blind to the clues. Find an explanation for everything that makes you suspicious and continue the relationship as if everything is as before.

But, apart from the concrete clues, when your partner cheated on you, especially in long relationships, you feel that something has happened. You can't annihilate that premonition, that intuition. You have, however, how to pretend very well towards yourself, to fool yourself by finding other explanations for what you feel, and to close your eyes. As an abstract question and in principle, many would say that we want to know if our partner is cheating on us; as a matter of fact, many of us will never want to hear that truth.

To be able to pretend that nothing happened and to continue - which is quite easy, as long as you are not put in front of the accomplished fact, as long as you do not have clear evidence. You hope that your suspicions are exaggerations and imaginations of your jealous mind and you drive away from the doubts from your mind and soul.

The couple's relationship is far too precious, far too necessary, so you choose not to find the betrayal that would destroy it. According to the proverb "what you don't know doesn't make you suffer", you choose to be blind to what your signs show. The fear of such a change, of facing such pain, of facing the end of the couple's relationship is much stronger than the desire to know the truth.

When you just don't get along with your partner. When you close your eyes in a relationship and fool yourself that everything is fine between you? When you no longer understand each other - either you quarrel more and more often and you don't get along, or you just don't feel good together anymore, you don't feel close to each other anymore, you connect.

You feel that something is wrong with your relationship, you feel lonely even if you are with your partner - or you feel that it irritates you. But you better ignore the fact that you have a serious problem in the relationship, you prefer to think that "everything resolves itself in the end", that "in any relationship, there are such problems".

True - in any long relationship there are issues such as quarrels, misunderstandings, distance, the need for time and space for oneself. Sometimes, if the partners are too close to each other for a long time, they will start to get irritated, angry with each other, and feel suffocated. Yes - in any relationship such problems occur; but the solution is by no means to close your eyes to these problems, to hope that they will solve themselves, to think that if you do not accept that there is a problem, it does not exist!

The solution is to be aware of the problem, to look for its causes, and of course to discuss with your partner this and about the possible ways to solve it. Closing your eyes in a relationship only means postponing the inevitable - because in all situations, at some point, you will have to face the aspect you want to run away from so much…