Wrong Reasons to Stay With Your Partner Even if You Are Not Happy

Wrong reasons to stay with your partner - when your relationship no longer offers you what you want, you are no longer satisfied and you no longer love your partner, you can still choose to continue this relationship for a while, for unjustified reasons. A breakup is never easy, especially in the case of a long relationship… But staying with the wrong partner for whom you (no longer) have feelings is a big mistake.

You should know that, in general, almost any reason to stay with your partner is wrong, as long as you no longer feel love and you are no longer satisfied with the relationship! No matter how hard it is for you to step aside, this is the only way to end up in a relationship that you no longer want.

In vain do you look for excuses and reasons to delay the step - if you no longer love, if you are no longer satisfied and if the relationship no longer makes sense to you, it should not be prolonged… So, when you know for sure that your feelings are dead and you need something else, because you no longer want the relationship, it is best to overcome the fears and end it soon, prolonging the relationship complicating everything.

Wrong reasons to stay with your partner:

Habit: Over time, you have adapted and become accustomed to each other, so much so that being without the other is hard to imagine. The couple's relationship has put you in a comfort zone and getting out of this area is not easy.

Although the relationship does not make you happy and satisfied, you are so used to it that losing your daily stability is a difficult decision to make. And even if you know too well that you no longer love your partner, over time a certain attachment has been born. You are attached to your partner and you are especially attached to the relationship, security, stability, comfort that it offers you.

It is the universal tendency of man to get used to the things present in his life and his difficulty to then give up habits: we adapt and get used to even negative things, which hurt us (for example, we get used to conflicting relationships and end up we consider them normal).

Fear of novelty and change. Apart from those adventurous and eager for novelty, man is often resistant to change. He does not feel most often prepared for important changes.

Life is comfortable and pleasant as long as you feel safe, safe offered by routine. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, the prospect of not being with your partner can scare you, especially if you are not an independent person.

Fear of loneliness. Here's one of the most common misconceptions about staying with a partner you no longer love: You're afraid to be alone. What would you do on your own, what would you fill your time with, who would you see?

What if you don't meet someone else for a long time? If you are left alone, longing for closeness and affection? But how good is it to stay in a relationship that doesn't satisfy you anymore, to stay with a partner you don't love, just because you're afraid to be alone? Although the prospect of loneliness is not, perhaps, very attractive, a period of loneliness, without any couple relationship, can do you good.

For a man, to be truly happy and to know what he wants from his life, must learn to be strong, independent, to have his own goals, and to know himself. When you are afraid to be alone, you are not an independent person, but you tend to always connect with others, to rely on others, to define yourself through others.

Fear of the consequences of separation. Another wrong reason to stay with your partner is the fear of consequences: the fear of the discussion itself, the partner's reaction, what he will do next. You never want to play the role of the "bad guy" who leaves a person who makes him suffer.

And it is never easy to prepare for such a discussion and the possible reactions of your partner. Will he cry, beg, get angry? Sometimes, the fear of starting such a conversation and breaking up can make you delay this step for a long time, even though you know it is inevitable and you know that you no longer want your relationship. So what's the point of postponing?

Are you doing any good to your partner by hiding your desire to break up and postponing this step? No, you'd rather hurt him - he/she may think that everything is fine and that your relationship is a happy one, and you let him / her live with that impression until you take your heart in your teeth and say… Although hard, you have to know that the more you procrastinate, the more you complicate things.

And you should know that your partner will never be ready for separation if he still loves you (so there is no point in postponing the separation and trying to make it clear by signs). No matter how noble your desire is not to make your partner suffer, he/she will still suffer. If you feel that you no longer love and that the relationship no longer makes sense, finish things as soon as possible, without letting the other person living with an illusion.

The material advantages gave by the couple's relationship. And another wrong reason to stay with your partner: the material advantages, as practical as possible. Especially if you depend to a certain extent financially on your partner, a breakup will create many practical problems for you.

And especially if you share an apartment, problems will arise. But can you stay in a relationship that you no longer want just because of the material advantages? What kind of person do you become if you live with someone you don't love because of the material things you receive? "