When he realises it'll be too late

Where do I even start? I know many of you reading this have been through this and some may still be going through it. I can tell you it gets better but you're not going to believe that. I didn't believe it myself. All you can do is try your best to get through each day, try your best to get out of bed every morning, and look after yourself, until you're no longer numb from the pain he caused you and you can start living again. Because let's be honest it doesn't feel like we're alive right now. The person we pictured having a life with left us with no explanation, we don't know how to act, it feels like a part of us has died and there's nothing we can do about it because they made it pretty clear that they're not coming back any time soon. And so what do we do? We cry, and cry, and cry. We don't want to eat, we can't sleep, we don't want to go out and face the public and we don't want to interact with anyone. We just sit home all day long wondering what we could've done differently that might have stopped them from leaving. But see that's what we're doing wrong.

HE left you, HE disappeared on you with no explanation, HE made the mistake leaving you and not appreciating you and it's a mistake he'll live to regret. So why are you sitting in the dark, alone, wondering why you weren't good enough? Did you not give him everything? Did you not try your best to please him and cater to his needs? Did you not put your all into making him happy? I know you're answering all these with yes because you loved him, you still do. But if you were giving him all of this and he still left then what exactly are you missing out on? Someone who was too blind to see the amazing women stood right in front of him.

Eventually you'll remember who you are, you'll have your confidence back, you'll have your voice back and you'll know exactly who you are. It may take months maybe even years but you'll get there eventually and you'll start to better yourself. The sadness from missing him now will turn into anger and put that anger into your working on yourself and focusing on something you're really passionate about. For me, it's writing (hence these posts), gym and sports, so find yours. Whether it be cooking, dance, boxing, it may even be something you used to absolutely love but stopped because of how you were feeling. Whatever it is, find it and start it straight away. And every single time you feel like you're about go into a depressive stage, dive straight into that passion. No matter what time it is or where you are, do it. It'll help you massively and it's not just a short term solution, you can do this forever because I promise it works.

However, I'm not saying you can't miss him or have a cry from time to time because that's natural, it's bound to happen and it happens to everyone. A huge part of your life was ripped away from you and you had no say in it at all so understandably there's always going to be a part of you that misses him and wants him back, but just remember the person you want back no longer exists. He changed and you know that but because you were so in love you refused to see it. Now that you have a clear mind you know that he isn't what you want anymore and you know that you deserve so much more, so please listen to yourself.

Soon enough time will fly by and you'll see yourself flourishing into this strong women you never thought you'd see. Think about the past and let it motivate you to carry on and do even better. Not for anyone else but for yourself.

As you're growing into this person you've always dreamed of being he'll start to realise where he went wrong. You gave him you're all and he didn't appreciate that but now he's woken up. Reality has hit him in the face and he now knows that you were the best thing that could've ever happened to him but he treated you like you were nothing and for what? For another girl? For his immature behaviours? Whatever the reason was, he wants you back but it's too late because you don't need him, you never did. Your happiness isn't determined by him, he just added to it until he didn't. So when this happens, make sure you let him regret it, whatever happens after that is up to you but make sure you don't let him walk all over you again. You don't deserve to be put through that again, that's not how love is supposed to be, so think wisely and always put yourself first in these situations.