What Does It Mean When You No Longer Have Butterflies in Your Stomach

When you no longer have butterflies in your stomach, when you no longer feel trembling all over your body just at the sight of your loved one, when you no longer have that intense hunger to see him/her and touch him/her, when your heart stops tumbling only at a touch, when you no longer dream with his eyes open (and closed) at him/her all day and all night… then you find out if your feelings were real !!

Although the moment when you stop fluttering in your stomach may seem like the end, it is a possible beginning - a beginning of a more "down to earth" relationship, of a stable relationship, based on deep feelings and not on passing emotions.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that when you no longer have butterflies in your stomach, everything ends, don't make the mistake of believing that the disappearance of those emotions and dream moments means the disappearance of love.

The truth is that you can't feel that state of grace for long: it is identical with the beginning of the relationship, with the novelty, with the phase in which everything seems wonderful. The person you love seems perfect, unique, and great and nothing can change your mind - except the passage of time…

The idea is that when you no longer have butterflies in your stomach, you start to look at the relationship and the loved one as they are and not as you dreamed and idealized them. We all go through this: and some make the mistake of considering that if that state of grace, that stage of thrills and stirring emotions has disappeared, then there is nothing left.

Some people always try to live in that state - but because they can't have the same person, they will always look for a new person to fall in love with.

But when you stop fluttering your stomach, you don't have to say in horror and disappointment that it's all over: you have to look at what's left between you! What's left thereafter you feel no more butterflies, no more tremors, no more shivering?

The question is: is there anything left? Do you still feel connected to your loved one? Do you feel anything about this? Do you still want him/her? Do you still want him / her next to you? Do you still think you are the right person?

A fire that burned to leave only the ashes behind? No matter how sad you are because you no longer feel all those stirring emotions - because you can't help but regret - you have to know how to see behind them, to see what was and is in reality between you.

If you no longer feel anything, you no longer feel connected to the person, you no longer feel that you know him/her - then from the beginning, there was nothing deep between you, and all your butterflies were simply caused by the given chemical reactions in the brain. of physical attraction and compatibility.

You fooled yourself that you loved, while you only reacted to the attraction and carnal desire. You fooled yourself into meeting the one and only person who was attracted to you with irresistible power. the trick…

Or a fire that revealed something deeper, a fire that still burns smoldering? But many times, when you no longer have butterflies in your stomach, you still feel a connection between you and your partner - you still want to be with him… you just can't help but regret and sigh after those intense, dreamy moments, from the beginning.

Well, you have to have the strength to accept that those moments are long gone - and because they were so wonderful, you have to be grateful for them. Do not run after what is no more and do not think that without those moments everything is empty.

Think of your partner - the person you see most clearly now because you took off your pink glasses, the person next to you that you only now really begin to know because only now do you realize that he is not ideal and perfect!

Then you can build a relationship based not on idealism, desire, dreaming, but on knowledge, appreciation, trust, and involvement. The phase of falling in love is devastating, passionate - but the phase of love "calm, good" is what will last.

Butterflies in the stomach are not the same as love - if the former pass, love remains, or you can feel the first ones without there being love! And when the butterflies take flight, then you will find out if your relationship makes sense and if the love was genuine.

Now you can see in reality what you have to offer your partner and if he/she has something to offer you. Now is the time to know if there is a deep connection between you or everything was an intense fire that burned quickly.

Now is the time to find out if you are happy with this person, even though you no longer live in a wonderful story, but in reality… When you return to everyday life and no longer dream of fairy tales and adventures, day and this life seems beautiful to you just because you have the right person with you - then you know you love.