The best test of marriage: sleep

Love, if not put into practice to dress, eat, count money, sleep these real life, is not easy to last forever.

Love is beautiful, is romantic, and marriage is realistic, is daily necessities.

Whether a relationship can last depends not on what you did before marriage, but on what you did after marriage.

In short, the success of a marriage, the truth of a relationship, is hidden in the details of life, hidden in the small things.

And sleep is the best test of marriage.

01. Good couples have bedtime chats

Read a survey:

Reminiscing about the past, looking forward to the future and making romantic remarks before going to bed can help strengthen the relationship and promote marital stability.

If you think about it, it is.

Because marriage is about interaction.

It is not a one-man show, but a dialogue between two people.

A good couple has something to talk about before bed.

In the recent hit TV series The World, there is a memorable scene.

Zhou bingkun's father retired and came back from abroad.

Having not seen her wife for several years, and facing a husband who would never leave her home again, Chow's mother was extremely happy.

Before going to bed, she was still chatting excitedly with her husband.

I'll tell you a funny story.

Chunyan her mother said to me ah, her home TV rarely open, why, she wants to save TV programs, with her old man together to watch.

And if I've been saving for years, I'd like to tell you...

If you've seen the show, you'll know that bedtime chats are almost routine.

After worrying about the day and the children's house, the time before bed became their own.

They will talk about their daily life, talk about new things at work;

Occasionally, Zhou's father would take Zhou's mother's hand, look at each other, and say: "You have worked hard."

When zhou dad is about to leave, Zhou Mom will not give up, reveal sad.

Although there is no earth-shattering love, there are only flatly light company and waiting.

But in Zhou mom and Dad, I see the best of love:

Depend on each other through half wind and rain, until finally leave still arm in arm.

Heard a sentence:

"No matter how tired and busy I am during the day, as long as I can talk to you before I go to bed, everything is not so hard anymore."

Indeed, no one's life is easy in this strange world.

Everyone is very busy, very tired, for life, for work.

When relieved of the busy and tired of the day, chatting with your lover before going to bed is a kind of relaxation and comfort to life.

A good couple will talk about everything before bed. They will talk about the funny things during the day, what they are thinking and what they miss about each other.

And that's what happens in a long marriage.

A good relationship is not afraid of being woken up

Some people say that a person loves you or not, depends on his subconscious actions.

The one who loves you, even asleep, but when you need him, will still get up in the middle of the night, carefully take care of you;

And those who do not love you, not only do not want to get up in the middle of the night, but also blame you for waking him up, angry with you.

This reminds me of a story I read on the Internet:

The blogger is a freelancer who often stays up late editing videos and has irregular meals.

Once, she was sitting in front of the computer processing work, suddenly stomachache uncomfortable, pain she rolled on the ground, sweat big big to go out.

She called her boyfriend's name and asked him to accompany her to the hospital, but he just answered in a daze and did not get up.

She called several more times, but her boyfriend still did not move. He mumbled, "Don't be so pampered. Just drink some hot water."

At that moment, her heart was cold.

The story goes like this:

She took a taxi by herself, went to the emergency room by herself, received fluids by herself...

In the corridor of the hospital, after much thought, she decided to break up.

We always say it's the details that beat love.

But actually, no. It's the details that show the true colors of love.

As star Chen Yihan said in a variety show:

"My husband is the kind of person who gets up at 3 am to pour me water without complaining."

You see, this is the person who loves you, who is willing to take care of you, even at three in the morning, in his sleep.

You know, a good relationship is not afraid of being woken up.

He is more worried about you, your health, and your well-being than he is about being disturbed in his sleep.

Sometimes I wonder, what is true love?

When young, always eager to love with vigour and vitality, will be moved by the romance of the moment, so that it is unclear who is the one who loves you.

To a certain age to understand, love is not to see vows of eternal love, but details, is the action, is the morning porridge, is the midnight water.

If you wake someone up from a deep sleep, he will not lose his temper, but will bring you tea and water and take care of you, then he really loves you.

Meet such a person, must remember to cherish.

In a good marriage, people sleep together

Actress CAI Shaofen and her husband Zhang Jin, had an agreement: at any time, do not separate rooms.

Because, the division, means the distance, means the heart and the heart of alienation.

And once the heart is estranged, it is difficult to get close again.

This is why, after CAI shaofen gave birth to her little daughter, Zhang Jin would rather sleep on the floor, would rather not rest well, but also want to sleep with her in the same room.

After all, people who live on the same channel can catch your mood changes and see your hard work and efforts.

Rather than sleeping in separate rooms, each dealing with his own business, not to disturb each other, but also not to interfere with each other.

Over time, the marriage broke up.

Consider this:

You sleep in one room with the kids and your husband in another.

In the middle of the night, the child woke up, crying. You have to get up for nursing and carefully put the baby to sleep.

And this scene, who knows how many times to repeat.

But the man who had been the closest to him did not know.

He can't see how hard it is for you to take care of your children, and he can't read the fatigue behind the dark circles under your eyes.

In the same way, you can't see the life he fought for, the night he endured, the injuries he suffered.

You, in their own world secretly sad, blame each other do not understand.

So, there are conflicts, there are arguments, and the marriage is in jeopardy.

They say you're married when you sleep together.

And sleeping in separate rooms is not only about the bed, but also about the feelings and marriage of two people.

Slowly, two people under the same eaves, have become the most familiar strangers to each other.

I remember Mr. Lin Yutang once said:

"Marriage is like a carved ship. It depends on how you appreciate it and how you steer it."

Marriage is a two-person practice, not a solo struggle.

A good marriage is one heart in bed.

You see my pay, I understand your deep feeling, and then the strength to a make, jointly manage this section of marriage.

After all, sleep for one is rest, sleep for two.

The happiest thing in marriage is to be with someone who loves you, understands you, and loves you.

04.

According to a study by the University of Hertfordshire in the UK:

Ninety-four percent of couples who cuddled up to each other said they were happy in their marriage;

And 68 percent of couples who slept farther apart were satisfied.

How you sleep in a good marriage really matters.

He does not love you, do not understand you, spoil you, in fact, you know better than anyone.

And a true love you, is want to sleep with you for a lifetime.

The rest of my life is so long, and the people who love you together, eat to the old, play to the old, sleep to the old.