marriage
Marriage is not so much a word as it is a sentence–a life sentence.
Marriage
Marriage is hard work. Please don’t be fool at the illusion Hollywood portrays about this picture perfect life. You know the one; Prince Charming for a husband, the perfect housewife for a wife and the most respectful kids and The nice little dog that seems to just be a friendly people person. Oh and let’s not forget the the husband and wife seem to never argue and they seem to always have it all together? Oh is that the dream you were looking for when you got married? Well wipe that dream out of your head. In fact forget it ever existed. Because in reality a true real life marriage consist of two people who are more than likely difficult to deal with to each other and the more than likely are flawed to know end but for some reason these two people just can’t leave each other and they genuinely love each other so they marry each other and find out shortly after getting married that those problems that used to be small problems all of a sudden become huge problems. Now you find yourself agitated and hating your wife or your husband’s guts because everything they do seem to be so magnified. If you are like me you wondered over and over again did you make the right decision? Well yes you made the right decision. You made the decision to make a commitment to the one person in the world who was willing to make a commitment to you. Now the both of y’all are finding each other’s flaws and you are focusing on the wrong the other person has done or the hurt they have caused you and you are overlooking to what extent have you done wrong and to what extent have you caused hurt to the other person. You know how you may sit and cry to yourself but do you stop and think how something you said or did may have caused your wife or your husband to cry or feel hurt? I bet you thinking the same thing I was thinking, what could I possibly be doing to hurt this man or this woman’s feelings right? Well believe it or not you may be doing things that would otherwise be no biggie to you but to your husband or wife it is detrimental. I know this because my husband has told me I say and do things to him that I find to be not that big of a deal and he swears I hurt his Feelings but then he will turn around and say some of the most nastiest things to Me and then think everything is cool. So in that sense I feel like we could learn to be more sensitive to the other person’s needs and feelings. My husband will say I hurt his feelings when I tell him to not touch me (especially if I’m sleeping and he sticking his finger in my ear, that annoys me to no end). For some reason that hurts his feelings. Although it’s no biggie to me, it may truly hurt him just like when he talk about how I eat or anything concerning my weight that really hurts me to the core because I am trying to work on breaking my habit of over eating. It’s really a struggle for me and I want to lose the weight and stop overeating. Moral of the story try to be careful of the things you say and do to your husband or wife because you never know how it may make them feel. Also don’t judge them for whatever they are doing especially if you know you have something that you do that is not right, and I will leave it at that.
By Tequila Boykin5 years ago in Humans
Marriage
We as women have been there more times than we can count (and the occasional man), but we complain and that complaint is that they are not helping us, or they act like a man child. I love my husband dearly but I do the primary cleaning, cooking, and dealing with the kids. While that was agreed upon with me staying home, it doesn't make it any less frustrating when I need help and he just does his own thing.
By Tierra K Esterline5 years ago in Humans
Does my husband love me? Symptoms don't love you anymore
Does my husband love me? Does that sound like something you've been wondering about lately? It can be difficult to know exactly how your partner feels if he or she is uncomfortable and loyal to you. Men are known for their closeness when it comes to expressing their feelings and that often leaves their loved ones confused and unaware of the relationship. There are ways to see if he still feels as close to you as he did when you were married. Once you know the signs that he no longer loves you, you can decide what your next move should be.
By Robert McKissick5 years ago in Humans
A Trepidatious Beginning
The airport was blindingly lit from sunlight shining through the glass walls and ceiling. The icy air conditioning made her shiver after the warm spring day outside. Among the milling people, she was nearest the doors where the passengers would appear. She craned her neck to see him. They had talked online for two years and video chatted daily, but this was their first real meeting. Living over 2,000 miles apart had made it difficult to get together. There he was. Tall with blonde, curly hair and eyes echoed by his baby blue t-shirt. She held her breath and waited for their eyes to meet. Chris smiled and walked towards her. “Anna. I worried you wouldn’t come.” They embraced. She melted into his powerful arms. There was no enemy that might attack her, either in the real world or her own mind, that could overpower his strength and fierce protection of her. “My dad drove me,” she informed him. He was astonished. He thought her family would reject him, but they greeted him warmly. They arranged to meet for lunch and parted ways at the mall. The couple walked and discussed what they had planned for that day. “Are you sure that you want to do this?” Chris asked. “Absolutely. I can’t wait to be free. They’re so busy with church, I’m just a bother. You’re the only one who really cares about me.” Anna feared that if they did not get married immediately, her parents would find ways to keep them apart. Chris had told her about his ex: how she had been a vulnerable teen with an abusive stepfather. He swept in and carried her away to safety. Sadly, she returned to her family and cut him out of her life. She now lived a depressing life without him. He was a hero, and now he was Anna’s champion. Chris replied, “I don’t want you to be hurt. Ever. Especially not by anything that I’ve done.” He looked away. “You could never hurt me,” she persuaded. “Believe me, it’s better this way. They’ll never approve of us getting married.” A minister’s daughter marrying a recovering alcoholic from Las Vegas that she met online in a depression support chat room? Not a chance. They probably thought she was destined to be a pastor’s wife like her mother and grandmother, but she refused. The church had taken enough from her, she would not sacrifice her marriage, and her future children’s father, to it as well. “As long as you’re certain,” he replied. A short walk took them to City Hall where they applied for a marriage license. The woman issuing it asked where they would get married. They looked confused. “We thought we’d do it here.” She replied that City Hall only issued marriage licenses, a minister would have to perform the marriage. There was one nearby, however, that might be available. They thanked her and walked over nervously. What if he was booked up? What if he refused? Would their entire plan be ruined? He was available that afternoon! It would allow time to meet her parents for lunch and come back. They encountered another hurdle when they returned. “Where are your witnesses?” the receptionist inquired. “Witnesses?” they asked, shocked. Two witnesses were required to carry out the marriage ceremony. Anna slumped in her seat. They would have to reschedule and convince two friends to participate without informing her family. “The couple scheduled after you has arrived. You could ask to borrow their witnesses.” The receptionist offered the astounding suggestion. They asked the couple and their witnesses if they would consent to this. The witnesses happily agreed to participate in both weddings. After the minister pronounced them man and wife, they kissed for the first time. Leaving the chapel, Chris took Anna’s hand in his. Her heart thrilled. She could conquer anything life threw at her with this man by her side. His motel was a few minutes from where she worked as a live-in nanny. She did not stay there on their wedding night, not wanting to confess to her employers yet what she had done. They would not approve and she feared they would tell her parents. In the morning, her employers invited the couple to join them for lunch after church the next day. Anna decided to spend that night with Chris. He was her husband, after all, and there was nothing wrong with spending the night with one’s spouse. He would leave the next day to return to work so it was their last chance. She could not go home with him as she had to give and fulfill her two weeks’ notice first. They waited on the edges of their seats in the motel lobby for her employer to pick them up for church the next morning. His face was difficult to read. Anna presented their marriage certificate to prove she had done nothing wrong by spending the night. “I thought it might be something like this,” he sighed. “Please don’t tell my parents,” she pleaded, wringing her hands. “Chris and I will tell them together.” He agreed. After church, they sat through an awkward lunch. She gave her two weeks’ notice before her father picked them up to take Chris to the airport. Her husband would return in two weeks so they could tell her parents together, then she would leave with him and say goodbye to her current life. They were also taking a family friend for his flight. He met Anna at the back of the van. Taking her hands in his and meeting her eyes, he said, “I bless your and Chris’ future together.” Her eyes grew wide. She asked him, “How did you know?” His clear face became disturbed. “How did I know what?” he asked. Now she was confused. “We got married. Two days ago.” She could see from the look on his face that she had misunderstood his blessing on their future. Now her mother was at their side and they could say no more. He hugged her goodbye with an apprehensive look. The two men disappeared into the airport together. Her heart tore in two as she was wrenched apart from her beloved. She knew that it would be a difficult two weeks but she had no concept of just how dreadful it would be. A week later, her employers fired her – effective immediately. They felt they could no longer trust her with their children due to her irresponsible behavior. She moved back home and waited fretfully for her husband to return. Somehow, her parents found out what she had done. They confronted her, but she refused to confirm or deny anything until her husband was by her side. After a week of high tensions, her father again drove to the airport. When they returned, the new couple and Anna’s parents sat together. The room felt claustrophobic. Her heart thundered in her ears as she struggled to maintain control of her emotions. She waited for the castigating that she knew was coming. Her father started: “We thought that he was coming back to ask our permission to marry you.” Anna scoffed inside. As if they would allow that! Her mother continued, “We were prepared to say yes, and to bless your marriage. You have stolen that opportunity from us. You’ve robbed me of the experience of helping my daughter prepare for her wedding, of your father walking you down the aisle. You think that this only affects you, but whose doorstep do you end up on with two children in tow if your marriage doesn’t work out? Ours.” Facing Chris, she continued, “It’s as if I spent 19 years – Anna’s entire life – working on a precious painting to be presented to someone very special. I was preparing it for you. Instead, you broke into our house and stole the painting. You’ve broken our trust in you. You took from me the chance to GIVE that precious work of mine to you. Nevertheless, you are married now. We bless your marriage. You’ve chosen a hard way to start a life together.” Anna reluctantly received an envelope from her mother, assuming it was an angry letter, expressing the difficult words that her parents couldn’t bear to speak aloud. “Here is the value of the shares in my company that I gave to you for Christmas ten years ago. We figured you could use the money to set up your new home.” It was equal to six months of nannying wages. Anna’s mouth dropped. She had expected to be verbally cut to pieces and disowned. Instead, she was blessed beyond measure. She anticipated anger at the embarrassment that she had caused her family but did not think that her parents cared that much about her. The many blessings when she was expecting the exact opposite wrecked her defenses. “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” Anna bawled. She had misjudged her parents and drastically changed the course of all their lives with her ignorance and presumption. I would have given anything in that moment, even my life, to go back in time and undo the biggest mistake of my life.
By Anna Quigley5 years ago in Humans
Lust into Love
It all started July 1, 2005. I was a front desk clerk at a local motel in a town called Copperas Cove, Texas. I worked the second shift so it was always relatively calm and slow which gave me plenty of time to read, relax and dream about the future I wanted for me and the 2 young children I already had. I was completely drawn into a Dean Koontz book when this blond haired, blue-eyed, tan man walks into the office. He was looking for a suite to fit him and his crew, who were in town doing a swimming pool. To sum up the chaos of the next 30 minutes lets just say that due to mistakes made by first shift I checked them into a room that was already occupied, then checked them into 2 rooms that housekeeping had yet to clean, and finally got them in rooms that were clean and unoccupied. I was completely mortified and apologetic and luckily they found the humor in it all. About 30 minutes or so after getting them properly checked-in the blond haired, blue-eyed handsome man came back into the office. He introduced himself as Jim and we began talking about all sorts of things. I had never in my 23 years had a conversation that was so vague but intimate in my life. Before he left he asked me out to dinner the following night and I agreed. So when I got off work at 11 pm the next night we went to the only place still open at the time (which was Chili's) to talk and get to know eachother. I wanted to be honest and upfront about my wants and expections before we even ordered drinks so there was going to be no misconceptions. I bore the ugly truth of my being a control-freak, a walking medical bill, and the fact that my kids would always come first. He in turn told me that he was looking for someone who could be supportive and give him children of his own. With terms being accepted and acknowledged on both ends we ordered drinks and our meal and talked the whole time about our families and our lives. I lived way out in the country so when he took me home we parked in the middle of the driveway, put down the tailgate, talked and looked at the stars. I was completely in lust with this man.
By Dominique Bowen5 years ago in Humans
Affairs At The Office
I often sit and listen to wives say things like “All my husband do is go to work and come home”. Im not sure if that gives them a sense of security that because he is at work, he is being faithful. It does not happen that way. Especially if he has been known to cheat before. He still is. Just at work. Eighty-five percent of affairs start at work. You probably have a work sister wife and don’t even know it.
By Peace in Pieces5 years ago in Humans
My BFF
Jed, I just wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for making our lives together so perfect. You have given me and our kids a charmed life and me staying home and raising them has been incredibly hard but it has also been a gift and something that I wouldn't change for the world. You are my best friend, the one that knows everything about me and the person that I trust with my life. I never expected when I met you at work as a teenager that my world would be forever changed. You were the fun guy, the guy that could make anybody laugh and the one that everyone wanted to hang out with, nothing about that has changed. You were known as the eternal bachelor, and then you got a crazy idea and married me! You are charming and chivalry is not dead with you, you have been opening doors for me and offering me the last bite of cheesecake since the day we met. And it's not just me, but you treat all women with that level of respect and I admire that about you. It has been a pleasure to not only be your wife for the last almost 20 years, but also your plus one at some of the best concerts that I never would have gone to on my own.
By Amber Nelson5 years ago in Humans
My spouse is my best friend. Second Place in Best Friends Challenge .
We often hear people say their spouse is their best friend, and probably never question why. I am going to share today why my husband is truly my best friend. When I take away our children, grandchildren, romance and sex I can honestly say we are true friends. I met Michael Preston Sr. when I was 17 years old and weighing about 97 lbs. I had been picked on and laughed at by a lot of guys and told that nobody wanted me because I was skinny. Whenever a young man did express an interest in dating me, I pulled away. I subconsciously believed that eventually, he would tell me I was not woman enough because I did not have a lot of curves. The first time Michael came to my house we were sitting on the living room couch and he asked me to stand up so he could see how tall I was. In my mind I am thinking, "Here it comes, he's going to tell me that I am too skinny, so I decided to beat him to the punch.
By Cheryl E Preston5 years ago in Humans
Things to Consider for Consulting a Marriage Counseling in USA
Marriage is like an institution or you can say that marriage is a peaceful and beautiful bonding that needs utmost nurture and care. A couple in a marital relationship can often engage themselves in some sort of disputes but such disputes cannot be the reason for calling it a day. If you feel that your marital relationship is in serious trouble then what you can do is consider opting for the service of marriage counseling in USA.
By The Love Nest5 years ago in Humans
Marriage now and Marriage then…
The moment someone asked me who I would like to model my marriage after, I began to ask myself if I’m really ready for marriage. This made me consciously decide to go for counseling — something very unusual in this part of the world. From my parents to my siblings and even friends, there was no relationship or marriage worth emulating. Everyone had that “I am enduring” vibe.
By Saidat Ibrahim5 years ago in Humans
