humanity

For better or for worse, relationships reveal the core of the human condition.

How to turn around a bad day
I bought a lavender-scented candle on the way home to help create a relaxed atmosphere that I desperately needed to unwind after a terrible and emotionally draining week at work. I rummaged in my purse for my keys for what seemed like forever.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
The Art of Positive Self-Talk
As a transformation coach, the most important challenge I face is to create sustainable change for people. This requires teaching them powerful and simple technologies that they can bring into the real world and use to make significant progress in living happier lives.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
How to deal with a broken heart
I clutched at my chest for fear that my heart would somehow burst out of it. I feel like I'm dying. I closed my eyes and prepared myself for death. It must be more painful than that.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
5 Steps to Designing Your Life
Recently, I have observed that many of us feel that we are reacting to life rather than creating it Maybe some of us get stuck in a job that we don't think is challenging or fulfilling our potential. Or, we always feel left behind -- the demands of running errands, tasks, and bills keep us playing catch-up. Some of us struggle to find a meaningful balance between family and career.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
Reasons that made Queen Elizabeth II great
On the 8th September 2022, Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth died peacefully at the ripe old age of 102. On the 10th September, I made my way into London, to see the ascension of the new King. It made it to St James Palace and had a good view of the ceremony. It was here that me and many others sang the new national anthem. It felt new and unfamiliar in my mouth. For so long had I been used to sing God save the Queen that King sounded so strange. Even now when I think of King Charles, I automatically think of historic kings. But I still sang it and ushered in the new monarch. Don't get me wrong. I love Prince, now King Charles. He shares many of my interests and even started a charity which is greatly helping me right now. But after all 28 years of my life under Her Maj, and me expecting her to live into the hundreds like her mother, I still feel a great sense of surrealism.
By Neil Marathe3 years ago in Humans
A lesson in vulnerability
I know I should say something, but the thought of opening my mouth scares me. I sat in silence, suffering alone. The longer I waited for him to notice me, the more excited I became. Feelings of anger, insult, and rejection spread through my body, heating up every inch of me from the inside.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
The Art of Separation and Surrender
When I walked into my local yoga studio for a class on that blustery Monday night, I was not in the best of spirits. A series of questions, large and small, ran through my mind. I felt depressed, helpless and, most of all, lost.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
Why is space important in relationships
If my life had been perfect, I might never have learned anything. Or at least not something important. I used to have a naive view of relationships. I believe with all my heart that if two good people get together and make a real effort to be kind to each other, then everything will be fine.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
How I learned to meditate
The first time I meditated was about six years ago. Like many people, I was drawn to meditation - the desire to feel calmer and happier. I was a medical student at the time and my life was too stressful and busy.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
How to move forward and stop repeating the past
We live our lives according to the patterns of the past, replicating the systems and dynamics to which we have become accustomed.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
Three lessons I learned from traveling alone
Six years ago, I took one of the boldest actions of my life. I traveled alone halfway around the world to Ubud (Bali), Indonesia. In June 2008, I was 27 years old and had never left the United States, despite my constant desire to do so.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans
Are you afraid to give up your struggle?
My mother, an unwavering spiritual woman who was always looking for a way to deepen her understanding of herself and others, recently attended a meeting at our church where she served as a prayer practitioner.
By gaozhen3 years ago in Humans