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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Why your partner's happiness comes second.
People-pleasing is a common behavior in individuals. It comes from our need to be included in a part of something bigger (or smaller) and ultimately our need to experience a sense of belonging. It’s a product of our biological history because our ancestors needed to remain a part of their tribe for their survival. Yet, in current times, people-pleasing can cause us more harm than good. Especially when it means ignoring ourselves.
By Ashley Beeby6 years ago in Humans
Fix Yourself Instead of Hurting People
There is a quote I keep seeing go around that says "do whatever the f*ck you want, just don't hurt people". It shouldn't be hard for everyone to live by this. There are way too many people who treat other humans as if they're disposable, and they're only around for their amusement or satisfaction. You don't have the right to use anyone, and considering the feelings of others and how your actions affect them should always be among your top priorities.
By Tone Breistrand6 years ago in Humans
The Non-Violence Force
We have to learn to walk away from violence. We have to resist fighting one another. Aggression is only oppression. Passiveness can cause agitation. There are many people that we meet in our walk of life that challenge us. They challenge our character demanding us to act in ways that are not right. They challenge our thoughts to think of things of hurt for our neighbor. They challenge our interpretation of who we are and where we come from. Nobody is immune to the challenges in our lives. We must find the courage to choose non-violence.
By Distinguished Honorary Alumni Dr. Matthew Primous6 years ago in Humans
Life Is Too Short To Waste It On People Who Suck The Soul Out Of You
You judge a man by a season, and he will give you a reason to commit treason. When I met my mother at the airport for the first time, I was afraid of what I had to be if I'm around her. I made a system, I only let people in that had the same scares as me.
By Loading...6 years ago in Humans
Lost Light
Everyone is born with a light inside of them, some brighter then others. As we age depending on choices we make and incidents that happen to us this light dims. Sometimes people steal our light. You can almost feel when this happens because you start to feel empty. Your moral almost disappears and you are emotional shut down. You feel as if you are floating through life an nothing makes you happy. I’ve had many people try to steal mine. Once a man almost succeeded.
By Nikki Latourette6 years ago in Humans
Reality of love
I have spent years watching love stories fantasizing on how I would meet my future husband, if it would be like the movies, if my heart will jump out my chest and the world would just feel still around our love, but reality strikes and it becomes more of a trail and error never really getting what you wanted. In this day and age love is pretty non existent men, just want to have fun and women fall into their self-absorbed hole not really knowing their worth, thinking that this is all they deserve or all the love they can get and so they settle. We are sold on the fairy-tale, but we are gullible enough to fall into the trap, hoping for more but never finding it because in many ways we prevent it. A lot of us say we want the good guy, that we want to laugh, but we want to feel safe and then we do the complete opposite because our attractions what we really most desire is passion and passion we typically find in the complete wrong guy, the type of guy that gives you excitement that gives you danger but always turns out to be a disappointment. This is because once in a girls life there is always a disappointing transaction or a moment that puts her self esteem a step lower and because of that small moment we begin to think we are not good enough or we don’t deserve a good person because once again we are not good enough, but the key is loving our self-first. How to do that well that’s still a question I’m trying to find the answer too how are we supposed to love all our scars and all our flaws to be able to love someone else, when you look deep into it is worth it just for love? will love truly give us the perfect happiness we see in the movies? or is this just what we tell ourselves to get through. Every moment in life is a mild stone is a step forward to us being able to figure life out itself but never truly understanding the message that is given to us, but we are told having a career finding love, starting a family, is the key to happiness but what is all of that without truly loving yourself everything always leads back to you. So you have to accept your scars try and love everything about yourself to the wrinkles under your eyes, to the stretch marks you have on your body, to your insane thoughts everything about yourself and then only then will the possibility of true happiness knock at your door. Maybe just maybe the knight in shinning armour you always dreamed of may knock at your door, because you may finally be open to love true love the type of love that has flaws but the flaws you love.
By zosia budzinska6 years ago in Humans
Catfishing
So catfishing has been around as long as the internet. It usually happens on dating sites and on social networking sites. So what is catfishing? Catfishing is the act of talking to someone online and tricking someone into thinking that you're someone you're not. This can be for so many reasons.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Why Arguing is Good for Us
Arguing is hard. Arguing is frustrating. And arguing is essential for our political health. If you haven’t been running, or to the gym in a while, during that first workout or first run you want to quit. You are frustrated, exhausted, and suffering. You start to discount what you are doing as valuable. Does this really matter? At the end, when you see how many calories you burned, you might even consider it a total waste of time.
By Steve Llano6 years ago in Humans
6 Years
Six years ago I met a guy who set my entire being on fire. I’m a preacher’s kid, so up until college I had never really experienced much other than drunken theatre party kissing, and I was too self-conscious and inexperienced to do anything about my raging sexual desires (it's always the quiet ones I’m telling you). I’d had crushes, child-like obsessions, but never had I experienced a mental and physical awakening than I did when I met him. Something in the way he looked at me, spoke to me, hell, the sheer fact that he wanted me made me both excited and terrified. Most of all, it made me addicted to him. I wanted him, I wanted his brain, I wanted his conversations, I wanted his laugh, I wanted his smile, I wanted his love. The sad part about it was, he was broken. Recently shattered and shut down to anything other than sexual desires, things that I was too nervous and not at all versed or confident in. I wanted time, he wanted action. He also wanted my friend, newly met as well, also recently broken, well versed in her sexual desires. They clicked at a speed that I could not keep up, nor was I at all happy about. It became a silent battle between me and her, frenemies to the tenth power. Passive-aggressive conversations, silent glaring, a battle of wills as we fought over his attention. Secret nights in the study room, slowly opening myself up to him mentally and physically in the hopes that he would choose me, that he was patient enough to work with me on my fears and my nervousness. Hope that he would take care of my body like he said he would via text, or the late nights when it was just us. It wasn’t enough. He chose her and I found out via Snapchat from a party that I wasn’t even invited to (we had the same friend group mind you). I was shattered. I had fallen for him in the time I was fighting for him, and seeing him hold her, kiss her the way I wanted him to hold me, it hurt more than anything I can remember. The very guy who told me he didn’t want a relationship, the very guy who took my virginity, asked her to be his girlfriend just days later.
By Nichelle Rose 6 years ago in Humans
When He Needed More
We all have lessons to learn in life, and that was a hard 7 year lesson, but ready to re-start my life. Get done what I need to get done and that’s helping people, helping people who can’t speak up for themselves, abused men, woman and children, every person who needs my help and positivity, starting with my Home Town, people think living in the US should be great, home of the free, except we can’t openly write about content that is Non-Conforming, Out of the Realm of the Reality We Have Illusioned Ourselves with, I’d rather be me anyday of the week than A Mindless Conformer who has No Personality. I’m that person either You Hate Me or You Love Me No In Between. I know at this stage in life who Iam and What I’m not gonna be, and What I’ve Learned.
By Tennille Kay Dragan6 years ago in Humans
Illuminating Narcissism
This part of the series will be focused on the fact that you unknowingly got involved with a narcissist. The mask kept their true identity hidden. More likely than not, you didn’t become aware of their true nature until they showed their true colors. None of this is your fault!
By Angela Fosnaugh6 years ago in Humans
