See How Monotony Affects the Couple’s Relationship and Especially Their Personal Life

The monotony in the relationship and life - has it happened to you to live every day waiting for something to happen, to start a new day already thinking about the next one and hoping that maybe it will be better, different?

The same with the monotony in the couple relationship: you live every day together following the same routine, without anything interesting, nothing new, nothing different happening

Monotony in relationships, but also in life, is often the hardest enemy to fight: because it gradually settles and becomes normal. You don't see it when it appears and you don't even think long to escape from it, because it's part of your life.

You get used to it and maybe you even feel comfortable because you know what you are going to do, you know how it will unfold every day in a row, nothing catches you unprepared…

The monotony in the couple's relationship appears quite frequently at a certain moment: when the couple has grown up and the partners already have a stable program created, they have a routine of living together.

Those who live together every day wake up at one o'clock, have breakfast, go on their own business, meet again in the evening, have dinner, watch a movie; on weekends I go out in certain places; in some evenings they have certain activities; on holidays I go to certain locations.

But even partners who do not yet live together follow a certain schedule: they meet on certain days of the week and do certain activities, they go to certain places… A changeless often

About the monotony in the couple's relationship:

Monotony occurs due to the couple's routine. But it is not the same as the routine. The couple's routine is beneficial: we need stability in the couple's relationship, and the routine gives us that stability, the feeling of security.

We know that we will be together, we have a common schedule, we have common activities convenient, we could not be sure that we have a person who loves us. Routine, though trivial, helps us, but monotony involves a dose of boredom and a desire for change - when we feel the desire or even the need for something to happen! We want a change, we want to do something, anything - something new!

The monotony in the relationship is intertwined with the monotony in life. Maybe you are tempted to blame the couple's relationship for your banal and repetitive life. But most of the time, it is not the couple who is the main culprit: it is what you do in your life!

Everything, including the relationship, seems so dull to you because you have become accustomed to sitting comfortably and living every day safely in the activities you know, always the same. Life as a couple is trivial because your life is like that!

And the couple doesn't stop you from making a change, bringing a little something new into your life - on the contrary, it can be easier and more exciting to make a change with your partner! It's all about wanting and having the urge to get at least a little out of the "warmth" offered by your daily routine.

Without a partner, are you sure your life will be interesting all of a sudden?

Are you bored with your partner - or are you just bored? Think first about your life and what you do with it - your relationship may be okay, but your life may be poor.

Look for what you lack in the first place and not the couple's relationship; look for what you want to do, look for what would give you the feeling that you are not wasting your days; and if you feel that you are not wasting your days, that you are doing something, then the relationship will seem more beautiful to you.

But the first step is the hardest - get rid of apathy by deciding to do something, to live your life, not to let it go…

The monotony in the relationship and life is a sign to get up and do something! If for some time you feel like you're going through every day waiting for something, like every day you hope that the next one will be more interesting, if every day seems dull and empty - it's time to do something!

The routine in the couple and life, as mentioned, is normal and even beneficial, giving us stability, security, and confidence. On the other hand, if the routine gives rise to monotony, to acute boredom, to the feeling that you are wasting every day doing nothing, that you are both wasting your days - say "ready!" and make a change.

From something small - like starting an activity together, going on a vacation for two, to something big - like reorganizing your personal life and life for two.

Resist the monotony in your relationship by doing small things that bring diversity into your life together. From meetings in new places to short trips or romantic weekend getaways to finding new activities, to group meetings - you don't always have to stay in pairs, to small surprises made to your partner, to new ideas in the bedroom…

If you enter one week you break your couple's routine with a small change - like a date in a new beautiful bar and not at home - then things don't suddenly seem so boring… With a small change, you will see that you can avoid boredom!