Relationship: When Is It Worth a Second Chance and Why Should We Forgive Our Relationship Partner?

When is the couple's relationship worth a second chance, when is it a good choice to resume a relationship, to reconcile with your ex-partner? Sometimes, after a long relationship that ends, the partners fail to move on, to get over the breakup, so in more or less time they begin to contemplate a possible reconciliation. The mistake is that they are only guided by emotions and fail to look at the situation objectively.

Is the couple's relationship worth a second chance? This is the question you must answer before you can reconcile: and not just emotionally driven. Honestly, was it a harmonious relationship? Was it a relationship that made you happy? You broke up because of a problem, a problem that seemed unresolved, but now you see that problem can be solved together? Do you think it's worth trying again - more importantly, trying harder?

Whether or not the relationship is worth a second chance is an answer you need to find - before you try again, to reconcile, it is good to think about some things about the couple you have formed. . Reconciliation between ex-partners presents a great risk: you can only resume what you have just finished, go on the same path that has already led to a breakup; in other words, you may end up in the same deadlock again: because you broke up for a reason…

On the other hand, after a while apart, during which time you have thought about what you have had and lost, you have a chance to enjoy a new beginning: this only and only if you try harder if you are aware of the points. weaknesses and strengths and if you make changes in your relationship.

It is not enough to reconcile: the period in which you were separated must have shown you what works, what does not work, and how important it is to try to improve the relationship… After a period of separation, you have a chance to change the relationship to resume the same path, but value and strengthen it.

When the relationship deserves a second chance:

When the breakup has only shown you how much you need each other. When time without an ex-partner showed you how important the relationship was, how happy your partner made you. If the breakup makes you both suffer, then reconcile - rational advice, because what is the point of staying apart if you both suffer because of it ?!

If you have problems, they can be solved together, as long as you want to be together again. When you miss your ex-partner and you know that he/she feels the same way, then take a risk and try again. One question: do you miss the person and your relationship, or do you miss having a partner and a relationship in general? (or different major)

When you are confident that you will be able to solve your problems. The couple's relationship is worth a second chance only if you are both aware that you will have to talk and reach certain ways to improve what did not work between you.

Warning: reconciling yourself, hoping that the problem will go away, only ignoring it will lead to failure!

If there have been constant quarrels - you need to find ways to improve communication; if there was a need for something else, an appreciation and affection that he did not have in the couple - you have to change some things and do not forget to give your partner what he needs; if he has been deceived - you must be sure that there is forgiveness (to truly forgive means not to bring the past into the present).

If, however, it was a major incompatibility (needs, expectations, goals in life), then probably nothing you would try can guarantee a new beginning: when two partners are not suitable, nothing can be done.

Resuming the same relationship, without any change, will most likely lead to another end. Do you know what you need to do to be a harmonious couple, a happy couple, a stronger couple? Have you realized, after the breakup, how much you want each other, how much you need each other and how important it is to show each other affection and appreciation?

When the relationship does not deserve a second chance:

When the force of habit tempts you to reconcile. If you had a long relationship, you became so familiar with your partner, so used to your relationship, that it brought you stability and emotional comfort, that you don't like this change. You want to be with your ex again because things were simpler and safer that way. But is this a sufficient reason?

When you think about it, "I can't think of anything better." Do you want to reconcile with your ex just because you don't think you have a chance to find another better partner? Have you gotten used to your partner and now you are afraid that you will be left alone, that you will not find anyone else or that you will find the wrong partners? This is not a reason to resume a couple of relationships either!

When you can't get over the problem that led to the breakup. With confidence, will, and patience, many couple problems can be solved together - even the serious ones. But sometimes one of you does not have the confidence, the will, or the patience to try. Sometimes you can't forgive; other times, you don't want to change things that should be changed; and other times, you don't trust that it can be better…

When you idealize your ex-partner. The couple's relationship is not worth a second chance if the reason you want to reconcile with your partner is the fact that, since the breakup, all you do is paint your relationship in beautiful colors, to be nostalgic for the past. Do you think that the relationship was wonderful, that your partner was perfect and that you would do anything to have him again?

You're just distorting reality - now that you don't have what you used to have, you tend to falsify the past and imagine it more beautifully than it was. Give the relationship another chance only if you are fully aware of the fact that your relationship, even if it made you happy, had problems - problems that need to be faced!