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People Who Complain All the Time Drain Your Energy!

It's better for you to know how to stay away from them

By Connor BradshawPublished 4 years ago 3 min read
People Who Complain All the Time Drain Your Energy!
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There are many problems in our lives. Of course, our relatives and friends have them, and we often have to listen to their complaints about something or someone.

On the one hand, this is natural, people somehow want to release tension, to talk. But on the other hand, constantly listening to someone's complaints drains us of energy.

It is normal to be empathetic and empathize with relatives and friends when they need it, but constantly listening to complaints is simply harmful to ourselves.

You must be capable to to identify such situations, knowing how they can affect our lives, and being able to handle them properly.

How do people who always complain affect you?

Such people curse their lives, pretend to be victims, complain about anything and everyone, but do nothing to change the situation, to change their lives.

He uses (knowingly or unknowingly) these complaints as a means of manipulation, the purpose of which is to make us feel guilty, compassionate, compassionate, and, at the same time, to burden ourselves with responsibility for what is done to him. happen.

Even if you help or give them advice, being exposed to their presence is enough to steal a lot of your energy.

Even if you can't see this, your brain is undergoing some changes as a result of the emotions generated by the situation another person is going through. Frustration, guilt, and sadness alter the brain's hormone-releasing processes. This increases the risk of developing:

  • Emotional imbalances
  •  Difficulties in solving problems
  •  Concentration problems
  •  Negative thoughts

How do deal with people who always complain?

In life, things don't always go the way we plan. Many times, we have to deal with unwanted or unexpected situations. However, there is no point in falling into frustration and sadness. Negative attitudes prevent you from dealing with problems and moving on.

The energy you consume by crying for pity must be used to overcome difficult situations. Therefore, it is necessary to avoid becoming an eternally dissatisfied person.

1. Keep your distance

Whenever possible, stay away from such people, because sometimes they will try to manipulate you.

The less you listen to their complaints, the sooner they will realize that they will not "penetrate" you with their negative feelings, you will not waste energy on it.

2. Make them understand that they have to deal with their problems

Even if you listen when he complains, it is necessary to tell the person that his problems are caused by his negative thinking and attitude.

In addition, be careful not to be affected by the situation the person is going through. Guide her to take steps to solve her problems.

3. Don't show your weakness

Since you are dealing with a manipulator, you should not show him the willingness to solve his problems.

Of course, you may experience a feeling of empathy, but try to control the situation. That way, you won't feel the need to help solve problems that have nothing to do with you.

4. Set boundaries

It is your right to ask a person not to share with you all his tragedies and problems. If you are tired of listening to them every day, tell them that you are not interested in these things and that you do not want to be the shoulder on which to shed tears.

Do you have a girlfriend or relative who complains to you all the time? It's time to act!

Don't play them, otherwise, you will feel that, for some reason, you have left a lot of negativity in your life. Empathy is important, but keep in mind that sometimes people will take advantage of this weakness of yours. Be with the people who need it and don't mess with people who refuse to solve their invented problems.

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