6 Myths About Silent People

Many of us have rather strange opinions about silent people. There are many reasons why a person may avoid communicating with you - may be shy or simply dislike you, or maybe overwhelmed daily by millions of thoughts that will exhaust him or her if he or she begins to share them with others. Jul.

Those who do not understand the real reasons for this usually try to present their assumptions about why silent people behave in this way.

Here's what people usually think of them:

1. They need your help

People think that silent people want to be more talkative, but they fail. To do this, they lack self-esteem or confidence or cannot find the right words. And, perhaps, if you take them by the hand, you can lead them through the muddy waters of communication and save them from suffering.

Many people feel quite comfortable without talking too much, and this has nothing to do with a lack of confidence or lack of basic social skills. Maybe they feel comfortable until someone mentions that he is not very talkative and then tries to lure him into a conversation that would be awkward at best.

Before you decide to "help" someone who doesn't speak as much as you would like, maybe you should at least try to understand the real reasons.

2. They lack social skills

Of course, there are exceptions, but for the most part, quiet people cannot be said to lack social skills. They behave quietly because they are following other people or because they are thinking about other things, and their minds are connected there.

3. They lack self-confidence

Again, this assumption does not characterize silent people. Not all silent people are shy nerds who are afraid that you will laugh at them when they start the conversation. And not everyone underestimates themselves.

For example, a person may be silent because of self-doubt and overconfidence. Some people may avoid communicating because they think they are smarter than others, or because they think their conversation isn't smart enough.

To assume that someone is silent just because they don't have a very good opinion of themselves is ridiculous. He may consider himself superior to you.

4. They want to be left alone

When a silent person is in the company of noisy or extroverted people, he looks like a white crow. And most people around them will believe that this person wants to be left alone. However, this is not entirely true.

Introverts often behave quietly, not because of what you might think - not because they want confidentiality, but because they feel a lack of energy.

5. They're mad at you

A person speaking at a meeting will feel the need to give a vocal reaction, while a quiet person will behave like a stranger - that is, if everything is in order and nothing has changed since yesterday, then the silence and absence of any actions will become a normal reaction.

In such a situation, people around him may think that he is upset because of them, but - all these assumptions are based on projection. Even if someone reacts differently, that doesn't mean something is wrong with him.

Each of us faces our situations. We are all unique beings who are simply trying to coexist on this planet.

6. They are smarter and deeper

Some people think that reserved people are smarter, deeper, more independent, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverted people. But, of course, even if there are such cases, it cannot be generalized, some think that this assumption was "launched" even by those introverts who have resentments towards those who misunderstand them.

Introverts may not understand why extroverts need to talk so much, have so many friends, go to so many social events, but this is not wrong, just as being silent is not wrong. It's just different for each of the two camps.