Pains of Betrayal

One of the hardest and most painful events anyone could go through in life is betrayal. Betrayal comes in many forms but betrayal of the one you love is the most painful. What do we lose when we are faced with such an event? We lose money, property, objects, and time. The one that sits the heaviest in our hearts is losing that very person we trusted, embraced, and loved. The trauma is deep and the recovery is a long road full of highs and lows, triumphs, and struggles. Losing that loved one hurts but there is another loneliness that digs deeply into the very heart and emotional thought process as a consequence of this loss.

Imagine the closeness, the bonds you made with their family members, mutual friends brought in from the relationship and the bonds that your lover had with your family. When the one you love betrays you it is often followed up with and built up with lies. Often we are told to not think about it, ignore what has happened and move on. Forget what they said about us because karma will get them. But when those lies affect our lives in every way, losing your own family members because the lies were built up over a period of time. Losing friends and the members of their family. You now enter a loneliness that is very difficult to escape. Lies spread extremely fast and we desire nothing but the truth to be revealed and that desire makes for unstable thoughts, emotions, and reactions. It is as if you are trying to stop yourself from drowning, calling out for help but everyone ignores you, does not want to listen, leaves you to your suffering. This is the true depth of loneliness and the depression that flows within while we silently cry public fighting tears and when nobody is around the fight stops and the sobs and tears of pain and loneliness pour out uncontrollably.

Yet we are told everything will be ok, the truth will be revealed. However the damage is done, the doubt is established and even if the truth does come out, that very doubt and speculation will always remain in the opinions of the individuals who believed the lies. The loneliness is still there, the pain remains, the depression still grows because still nobody listens.

This is exactly why the victims are so desperate to have their story heard and to have the truth come out directly from the source of the lies and betrayal. We are told the truth will set us free. The cheats and liars may finally tell the truth so that their minds will be set free, but the victim will forever be damaged and never free of it. Those lies will follow them leaving the victim with trust issues and often force the victim to need to defend themselves from speculation and attacks.

Never give up, always move forward and find a special someone who will listen to your pain, struggles, and tragedies. Avoid the people who only want to listen just so that they can use all of your pain against you. Find that person who will listen because they care for you, love you, and genuinely wants to be a part of your healing and. To those of you who have been through this before and to those of you who have been fortunate enough to never been through it, lend some compassion and give a few minutes to listen. You never know, that brief insignificant moment of time you give could end up being the most important moment in the life of the victim living in loneliness. It could be a life you save.