My Boyfriend Can’t Stand My Friends

Wondering "why my boyfriend can't stand my girlfriends"? Don't you understand how they may not like it and why it is still mean to them? It's not always that he can't stand them - rather, he can't stand to be around them too long! Nothing less fun for a boy/man than to spend more than 5 minutes in the company of two or more girls (except for group sex parties)!

Why doesn't my boyfriend support my girlfriends?

Lack of interest. The problem is not that they don't like it, but that they are completely disinterested in it! And the more you talk to them about them or insist on seeing them, the more they will dislike them!

Men are not interested in a woman for whom they have no sexual interest (except, perhaps, those women who have a similar profession or hobby and with whom they can talk). And logically your boyfriend doesn't look at your girlfriends as potential sex partners (you wouldn't want that either) and so he's not interested in them, what they say, what they do…

Blah, blah… He can't stand what you're doing. It seems to him that all you do is spend hours talking about nothing and gossiping or spending huge sums on shoes or dresses! And he doesn't understand that and he doesn't like it either, especially since he insists on going out with you too, to get to know them better…

"Evil" influence. If one of your best friends doesn't have a boyfriend, she is the only one at the moment, your boyfriend may be afraid that he "converts" you, that he calls you to the city in search of men and draws your attention to them! One may think that you would not be interested in another, but that your girlfriend takes you to places where you meet many men.

Quarrels. When you blame her and argue with her, do you happen to say, "Z agrees with me, and she says you're wrong and you're a pig"? Well, then don't expect him to like Z! If you let him know that your friends are criticizing him, he will have every reason not to like them.

Privacy. A sure answer to the question "why does my boyfriend not stand my girlfriends": because he knows that you talk to each other about everything, including your sex life: how many times you have sex, how it is, how long, penis size, orgasm mimicry, etc.! And it seems to him an invasion of his privacy - he's right too! So logically he doesn't want to spend time with girls who know so many intimate and embarrassing things about him (except, as they say, if it's a threesome)!

Boys? Does your group of friends consist only of girls? Or do you have a boy in the group, who also comes alone for meetings: a colleague from college, work, etc.? In this case, you don't even have to ask "why my boyfriend can't stand my girlfriends": he can't stand my friend! Your boyfriend can't understand why a boy would go out with girls in the city and he imagines that all he wants is to put you to bed.

What to do:

Do not insist. He doesn't spend too much time on them or telling them anything about them - he just doesn't care! Don't carry him around town with the girls unless at least one other boy appears, one of their boyfriends. And yet, he doesn't insist too often if he doesn't seem interested.

Don't use them as an argument! When arguing, don't use your friends' opinions in your argument, for example, "and Z thinks you're a donkey"! Refrain from making comparisons with your girlfriends' boyfriends: "Z told me that her boyfriend always surprises her, not like you." Then, when he sees Z, only good things will have nothing to say…

Don't gossip about them or criticize them in person. Between girls, there are still tensions, quarrels and you can sometimes be tempted to criticize one of your girlfriends "how stupid/insensitive it is because". That's enough - for your lover to hear you say such things once so that it would seem normal for him to criticize them too! He won't understand why you're allowed to say bad things and he won't…

The place. Assure him that when you go out with the girls, you are not hanging out, but go to a quiet place, where men do not swarm around the girls! Tell him it's welcome to come and convince himself if he still thinks you're out in town in a brothel !!

For him: why is it good to get along with your girlfriend's girlfriends:

Pretext. If you criticize his girlfriends and tell them how annoying they are, give your girlfriend a perfect excuse to quarrel - when something doesn't suit her, she'll have another argument to show you how piggy you are: "You love me so little, so you can't even get close to my best friend "etc. and so on

Help. The most precious help, when you have to look for a gift for your girlfriend: one of her friends! If you get along well with one of them, you can call her anytime and ask for ideas or even practical help with shopping. And go straight to the point, because friends know their preferences and sizes perfectly. In addition, after an argument, if you are close to one of her friends, nothing is more valuable than her opinion and advice. When you make a big mistake and your girlfriend is extremely upset, a friend of hers will be more successful in softening her than you.

Reciprocity. You can't expect her to be crazy about your friends if you criticize her friends! Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person.

However… Be careful of the opposite: you have to like her friends, try to talk to them (or pretend a little), but you should never show too much appreciation and admiration for any of them. Then you will like it too much for your girlfriend, that will be doubtful… and the last thing you want to do is wake up the green-eyed monster.