10 Clues to Find Out if Your Relationship is Serious

Are you looking for clues that this is a serious relationship? You've been dating for a while, you think everything is going well and you're both feeling really good, but you don't know where you are? It is a sensitive moment because you can't simply ask at once: "where are we and where are we going?"!

As a girl/woman, it is very difficult to ask such a thing, because you are afraid not to scare him and not to give him the impression that you are forcing him, that you are pushing him and that you are dreaming with open eyes at marriage!

As a boy/man, you avoid asking such a thing too soon, because you lose confidence, and especially, you are afraid that she will think that you want more than you are ready to offer… So, nothing more useful at the beginning of a couple than a few indications that this is a serious relationship or, on the contrary, that you are still just having fun and you will find out later if there will be more…

10 clues that this is a serious relationship:

Index no. 1 - messages and phone calls.

How long have you been out? About a month, a month, and something? Well, have you been sending good night and good morning messages lately? Without looking at it as an obligation, but out of a simple desire to wish the other good night or a good day!

In addition, on days when you don't see each other, do you even have a phone call, or do you avoid calling him/her so as not to make him/her feel "cramped", checked? If you talk on the phone often and feel the need to do so, it is more serious than just fun.

Index no. 2 - "I love you".

Of course, such a statement may simply come from the language, for example, after sex, when you feel great, but it may not be very sincere. Or it could be, on the contrary, said before sex, just for sex! But if you said or have already been told "I love you" and the answer was more than "thank you very much", then it may be the beginning of a serious relationship.

Index no. 3 - while you are together.

When looking for clues that this is a serious relationship, nothing is more obvious than the time you spend together and what you do. Do you feel the need to see each other at least once every two days? In the last two days without seeing you, do you miss them? The other person misses you too - hints that yes: phone calls, messages, a hug when you see each other plans alone?

Another very important thing when you meet: do you still feel the need to impress, conquer and hide certain less pleasant aspects about you? Or have you already become extremely comfortable in the presence of the other and at ease - as if you have known each other for a long time? If you already feel that you can be honest and do not feel the need to flourish certain aspects to impress the other, then you are already on the road to a serious and lasting relationship - congratulations!

Index no. 4 - what do you do together.

Another clue that this is a serious relationship is what you two have been doing together lately. Are you always looking for new places, ideas that will impress the other one? Then you are still in the stage of romantic encounters!

Or have you already formed a certain routine: certain places, your place,s and certain activities that you share (a series, a game, a sport, dancing)? If you can already say that you two have a certain bar where you go, a certain favorite restaurant, and a certain favorite evening activity, then you already have a stable relationship! Which is perfect - you don't have to worry about finding new ideas, new places, new activities and you don't have to worry about boring the other one!

Index no. 5 - gifts.

Have you ever given yourself a gift? Watch each other carefully what kind of gift the other person is giving you. It's the clearest thing for girls: if they offer you common things that girls are known to like, like jewelry, flowers, candy, perfumes, then they wanted to impress you, but they don't know you very well yet and they don't know you. he shook his head.

But if he offers you weirder, out-of-the-ordinary things - albeit sometimes horrible ones, such as an alarm clock "because you're always late" or a custom-made a foolish thing- then, even though the gift isn't to your taste, you know he struggled to find something out of the ordinary, something that suits you - from his point of view.

So appreciate the thought, not the object! For boys, the same idea: if she gives you the usual gifts (T-shirt, DVD, book, whiskey bottle, perfume), then she didn't bother to look for something special… Once you start a serious relationship, you want to surprise the other with a gift made from the heart, which may be made by you (only the first months of the relationship, don't worry)! One more thing: do you receive a greeting card on which he wrote something nice and intimate?

Index no. 6 - friends.

One of the clearest indications is that this is a serious relationship: when you get to know each other, you go out with them several times, and they seem to have talked about you. When he introduces you to his / her friends, introduces you as a girlfriend/boyfriend", takes you by the hand and kisses you in the face with them, and insists on going out with them, then he has serious thoughts. First of all, the boyfriend-a-friend meeting is also a test (they will analyze you), but it is also a statement that the intentions are serious.

Index no. 7 - family.

A moment that is not necessarily pleasant, but necessary, if we are talking about a serious relationship: the moment when each one knows the other's parents! After a few months, this moment cannot be avoided - unless one of you wants to continue the relationship for a long time.

Otherwise, you will need to get to know the other parent for at least a short visit of a few minutes. When she or he proposes this, it means that he has already talked to them about you and so it is a good sign!

Index no. 8 - sleeping together.

Sex, like sex - it's great, you're just getting started. But a sign that this is a serious relationship is when you start spending nights sleeping together. At first, you usually have sex with each other at home.

But when things get more serious, you will get in the habit of staying overnight with one of you at home, waking up together, and having breakfast. If he (or rarely, she) is still in a hurry to run home after sex, it's not very serious yet…

Index no. 9 - personal things.

When do you feel like you have a serious girlfriend (and in some cases, a serious boyfriend)? When he starts to bring some personal things to your house (apart from the necessary ones like a toothbrush or a hairbrush)!

When you see him bringing a set of underwear, a pair of slippers, a hood, a towel, a candle - then you already have a serious relationship! And if you don't mind them (except for a vague feeling of fear which is normal), if you don't want to get rid of them, then you have a happy relationship!

Index no. 10 - vacation.

And the last clue is that this is indeed a serious relationship: the first vacation - even if it's just a weekend - in two, alone! When you first run away somewhere, you withdraw from the rest of the world and enjoy the intimacy of the couple for a few days - you have a serious relationship!