It Gets Old

In today's society we grow with different milestones. Life lessons are learned and you continue to use what you were taught for the next level. I am real big on growing and ever changing, but for those who are not, don't you think repeating the same thing over and over again gets old? Like don't you get tired of the same patterns and repetitions? I know I do 🙋🏽‍♀️. So I don't understand when I see that things are still the same over time.

For example, If I knew you years ago and we reconnect, I expect to see some changes since time has past. You should also see changes from me as well. I am not exempt. So when I see that some people are still in their "Player-ish" ways and expect that someone like me would not find out or notice it is beyond me. Or if someone is still childish, messy, nosy, and we are well into our adult years, I just don't understand. Even the pathological liars that just lie to stay face or just because, not knowing that I already know the truth. I just wanted to see what type of person you really were. I just don't understand why we still hold on to these traits, like for what?

I don't expect for anyone to be perfect, because we are not. We are all human at the end of the day, but I do expect to see someone trying to become a better person. If a result of my actions causes a reaction that is life altering in a way that I did not expect my life to go, I am going to evaluate my actions and work on them. But if I continue in my actions and keep getting the same reaction, why am I still constantly and habitually doing this to myself, as well as others? Have I not learned my lesson?

How many times will we allow our bad habits to become our way of life and say we are "changing", but not really... We just say that we are changing for the better, just to get some likes on a Instagram post. How about instead of us "saying" we are changing, we actually act on it and do so. Actions speak louder than words. I don't have to tell you something that I'm actually doing, it will become evident when you see it. I guess you can say "move in silence" and show us rather than tell us.

Sometimes isolating yourself from comfort is key. If I stay in the same environment, with the same people all my life, are we really growing or are we still doing the same thing we always do? Are we secure with ourselves enough to grow amongst our peers and become individuals, not followers? People you are comfortable with can keep you stagnant and sometimes the right comfortable people are gonna push you towards greatness. Evaluate who those people are and make the necessary adjustments. Everyone in your circle should not be the same.

As far as dating, do you like repeating the same patterns? Are you expecting a particular type of companion? Are you ready to receive that type of companion or are you still with the games? When is there a serious point in your life that you actually value the person you are entertaining and not just for the temporary release? Why waste that persons time? If you know your true intentions, be up front with them. Especially for my adults out there....you are too old to not say what it is or not.

On the real, I love friends and family, but it irritates the heck out of me when I don't see growth. When you out grow something or someone, it just doesn't fit right. It will always be some type of friction until the growth matches each other, however that may look like. So I choose to discard old things that ultimately does not fit within my life. It does not mean we can not revisit each other in the future, but we can not allow interference with our growth.