Is it worth your life?

Before I start my story, let me give you my introduction. I am Disha, currently studying BA in English (1st year). I was always skeptical about a few rituals or beliefs that our society tends to hold, or many people captivated themselves around this phrase. MARRIAGE. What do we actually get from this term? An eternal love story or a permanent torment stamp on our fate? I will try to cover up all the points of view I have regarding this phrase.

Let me clear one thing out before I state my opinion regarding this; I despise marriage. Now you might ask why? Well, people around me who are married are having exceptionally different outlook regarding their lifestyle after marriage. If I had to explain it in a mathematical term- out of 10 couples around me, six says they are not happy with their marriage, while the rest 4 say they are fortunate with their new life.

Now those who approve of the marriage idea will obviously point out that 4 out of 10 are happily married. But there is a catchword that still exist… majority wins, and the majority shows six6 people being dissatisfied or unhappy. But why? Let me share my stories for which I banished that word from my life.

There is a neighbor of mine who is a divorcee and has a child who’s most probably a grade 2 student. She married the love of her life despite the many obstacles she faced. They were married for 9-10 years, and the man ended up divorcing his wife, whom he loved once. He now cusses his ex-wife, although he was the one to propose to her at first. Were all those he promised before marrying were just an act? I know that lady; she is one of the sweetest and caring soul, and she doesn’t even shout at anyone even if her tolerance limit exceeds. She tried to convince her ex-husband to consider his decision again just for the sake of their child, but he didn’t listen.

Another failed marriage I witnessed is one of my close relatives; she didn’t want to marry because she never liked the idea of leaving your parents and stay with the groom’s family. I don’t know if it is a brown tradition or it applies everywhere; every bride has to live with their in-laws home after marriage. Well, her family was, of course, against her thoughts and arranged her marriage with someone she never met. At first interaction, it seemed like he was a nice guy. He was soft-spoken, kind, and most importantly, a good human being.

What? You thought I was praising him or why I was finding flaws in a man whom I addressed as a ‘good human being’? All the words mentioned were his acts and nothing else. He did this only to impress us and so that the marriage rituals quickly ends without any hesitation. Sounds filmy? I felt like that too when that relative cried the whole time during the time she called us and inform us of everything that he does with her. Starting from verbal abuse to physical assaults; he was a monster in disguise. When my family confronted him, he had no remorse towards that as if it’s something everyone does.

Her body was full of bruises, and many places had burned; maybe he used some metal-like substances and kept it on flames and used on her; shame on those people who indirectly or directly encourages the abuse of women.

I can state many more reasons but the time and the words are limited. However, not every relationship includes such nightmares. Some actually found their true love in an arranged marriage, some before they comprise themselves into the ritual. I am not saying that one should not embrace themselves into this ritual unless both souls willingly accept to hold hands forever, promises to help each other no matter what circumstances they have to face in the future.

People will have different opinions regarding different topics; here’s mine. Sufferings and Eternal love both exists in the phrase; now, only those who heartily love their better half will be together for the rest of the time they will have. Otherwise, just for the sake of society and their words, one shouldn’t ever include themselves in something they will never find peace from that.