Is It Just Attraction or Is It Love?

Have you been seeing each other for a while and wondering where things are going, if you have a future, or just "have fun together"? Some would say it's pretty easy to tell if a relationship is starting to get serious or not, but it's not always that simple, especially when you don't even know what you want or when one (or both) is afraid of commitments.

First of all, a good tip is not to become obsessed with the stage of the relationship, where it will lead; are you okay with him or her? Perfect! Is that what you want? Wonderful! Would you like more? Okay, but you can't make these things happen overnight or be exactly the way you want them to be.

14 signs that your relationship is getting "serious":

♥ Talk (almost) every day - whether it's a phone call, text messages, you're used to keeping in touch every day, at least saying good night; when you already have your day, things have progressed quite a bit.

♥ You know your daily schedule very well - you know all too well that when you only see someone "for fun", they can spend a day, two, three days, having no idea what he or she is doing; but when you already know what the program is, it's a sign that you've come a long way.

♥ Don't feel pressured to wear a "mask", look and be as attractive as possible - when you feel more comfortable around each other when she lets him see her without makeup in fluffy pajamas with bunnies, when he or she has no problem staying home with her in training and she doesn't run away in the morning to brush her teeth before kissing her, etc.: then you have become intimate, you allow yourself to behave as naturally as possible…

♥ Wanted and unwanted stories about you - no, not only interesting and positive things but also about personal problems, embarrassing moments, your fears; when you have the confidence to share such details, it is no longer just an adventure, just a "casual" relationship.

♥ You've known each other's best friends - no one would want to go out with their closest friends and current partner if they didn't feel anything! Especially if it happens many times and if you tell each other about those friends ("gossip in a couple")!

♥ In the morning no one leaves quickly - stay and relax talking in bed, then eat breakfast: a clear sign that it is not just a "momentary thing" because it means that you are not together only for the action between the sheets…

♥ Leave some personal items at the other person's home - step 1: don't mind using the other person's toothbrush or hairbrush after a night together; step 2: bring some necessary items to the other and no one is bothered! Step 3: Next

♥ You said "I love you" - yes, sometimes people make statements in intense moments without being entirely true; but if you have said that you love each other, it is most likely true. How long love will last is another matter, but it is a sign that the relationship is meaningful.

♥ The relationship is or becomes exclusive - if you know that your partner does not (anymore) see others and does not want this, then it is quite clear: he only wants you…

♥ You see each other for over a year - as an almost universal rule, no relationship that exists for fun and time-filling lasts more than a year at most; why would it last so long if there isn't a certain connection?

♥ Connection - refers to the fact that you have come to know each other quite well, to be able to anticipate the wishes and opinions of the other, but even to share the same ideas, thoughts.

♥ Interests - it is not so important to have the same interests and hobbies; but it is a sign that you have become involved if you spend time doing activities that you both enjoy; moreover if he or she begins to be attracted to your interests, he or she has become seriously involved in the relationship.

♥ You got over the first ugly quarrel - the first really serious conflict is the occasion when many "casual" relationships fall apart because there are not enough things to bind the two partners; if you have passed this step brilliantly, it is a sign that you are making a good pair.

♥ Make plans for the future - no, don't talk about what you do in a year, or move in together, because if you did, you would know for sure that you have a serious relationship. But even if you plan to do something in a month or two, this is a sign that you are still seeing each other then, that no one sees a "deadline"…

Perhaps the most important idea is this: some of us lose too much time thinking about where we are going, waiting for a certain completion, and during this time we forget to enjoy the journey. It is not the point of destination that is the only important thing, but the road to it, which brings us joy.

And in case we do not reach the desired destination, we would at least know that we had a pleasant journey, from which we learned and through which we experimented!