How to Know Someone Likes You through Their Text Messages

Communicating with family and friends is part of your day-to-day grind. The emergence of smartphones is one of the reasons why sending messages has become more accessible.

However, the person you're communicating with is a factor as to how you structure your message.

In fact, there's a huge difference between how someone texts when they show romantic interest in you and how they text when you're just a family member, an acquaintance, or a friend.

One might agree that the way a person communicates via instant messaging is a craft that they eventually master on their own. It allows them to formulate a simple and easy-to-read message based on what they think and feel.

Even so, this alternative may not be the most ideal way to express how you feel to someone, especially when it’s something that requires more than just words (and in this case, words on a screen).

It’s so easy to misunderstand or misinterpret someone’s intentions based not just on the way they convey their message, but also the medium used to do so.

But if you want to know what to expect from a conversation, the signs will be there.

Like with any other regular activity, the way you talk and behave (and sometimes, even the way you think) will change when you realize that you’ve developed romantic feelings for someone. The same thing applies when you’re sending them a text message.

Take note that being able to put together a well written text message is just as hard as deciphering a message that was sent to you - to know if they feel the same way.

As such, here are a few indicators to look out for:

The conversation hardly ends.

It’s normal to want to keep talking to someone you’ve taken an interest in. Although there are people who continue to respond even as you finish discussing a certain topic - either because they’re bored or they genuinely enjoy talking to you - there is a fine line between that and knowing if they like you more than you think.

This is especially apparent when they openly ask questions to get to know you more.

There will be signs of intrigue when you tell them something about yourself - notice the way they respond and their choice of words. You will also notice a change of tone when you don’t reply to them right away.

The key is to observe how consistent they are in keeping the conversation going. Whether they reply fast or come up with a certain topic to talk about, you will know if it’s more about talking with you than just talking in general.

They want you to get to know them too.

Otherwise, how else would you know if they’re someone you would want to spend time with, let alone relate to?

This also applies when they take an interest in the things you like (movies, books, food, etc.) just so you have more to talk about. They can share their thoughts and even give you recommendations.

Simply take it as another way of prolonging the conversation. Apart from listening to what you have to say, they want you to hear them out as well - as it is also during these instances that they are able to convey hints that they like you in a romantic sense.

Lengthy messages can also be considered. This is so you have more than one aspect of their side of the conversation to address or respond to once it’s sent. As a result, the conversation keeps going.

They don’t leave the conversation hanging.

Even if it takes hours or an entire day for them to respond (because they were busy at work or they had to run an errand), they still make it a point to keep you in the loop. They want to continue where you left off.

Whereas some people no longer reply to messages that were delivered hours ago, thinking it’s no longer as exciting or relevant, those who like you will sometimes take every opportunity they can to communicate with you.

In other words, they want to spend time talking to you when they’re not attending to important matters.

What you need to take note of is how consistent their efforts are in wanting to talk to you - you know, so you can take the hint.

They want to know how your day went.

A simple way to let someone know you care is by asking how they are doing, wouldn’t you agree?

It doesn’t even have to be every single day. When someone wants to show you that they care, they will do so in the subtlest of ways. Asking how your day went is just one of them.

Other times, they will ask about a concern you mentioned to them a few days back. Or if you say you ran out of coffee at home, they offer to buy you one the next day or have one sent to your office through a surprise delivery.

The key is to see what may be considered as trying to go beyond your boundaries - how they perceive and respect your personal space. If they know what to do to cheer you up and when to do it, you can bet that they put some effort into it because, well, maybe that’s how much they like you.

They make you feel that you’re a part of their schedule.

Have you noticed that even when you know they’re at an important meeting or event, they still make time to send you a simple “Be right back” or “Talk to you later”?

It can also be that every time they get off from work they send a quick “What’s up?” or “How have you been?”

It’s as if you’re a part of their daily routine. This all points to the usual gestures one makes when they want to win you over by making you feel valued and important.

Again, it might not be every single day, but you’ll know when they’re going out of their way to send you a message just so you know that they’re thinking of you.

There is a sense of togetherness.

We tend to feel good when people show interest and appreciation in doing the things we like together with us. It’s like we’re a source of inspiration for them because they learned something new and exciting.

This can work when you haven’t met each other in person yet or you’ve already established a relationship as friends.

Say you like Thai food, but they haven’t tried it yet. They take a chance and say they want to go to this Thai restaurant in town. They might also ask for your recommendations.

This also applies to things you haven’t experienced yet. The goal is to make you feel comfortable in their presence (virtually), to show you that you can count on them. In turn, you get excited to try something out together with them in the future.

Most importantly, you feel that there is never a need to prove a point. Even though you might not like the same things or share the same thoughts and ideas, you know that there is value in your relationship through the conversations you share.

You learn something from them and they learn something from you. You can also take it as their way of trying to build rapport.

You’re both comfortable with each other.

Once you’re past the stage where you choose your words carefully just so you don’t give the wrong impression, it’s normal to start opening up to each other.

Familiarity has been established, and so you start talking about personal experiences that you wouldn’t otherwise share with people you don’t trust or feel comfortable with.

If you’ll notice, it’s like there’s a pattern from what they’ve been doing at the beginning. They take baby steps in getting you to feel safe with them. Because if you didn’t, there would be no reason for you to continue texting with them, right?

They ask to call or hang out.

Of all the indicators mentioned above, this is probably the most obvious one.

After exchanging text messages to a certain extent, you’re bound to meet up and hang out. Unless you’ve been communicating long distance, there is no way to build a genuine connection with someone if you don’t see each other in person.

As such, they finally took the next step in determining whether the relationship you established through texting will remain the same when you’re together physically.

This is also an opportunity for you to find out if you like them all the same.

From Texting to Forming a Newly Found Relationship

In today’s generation, most romantic relationships start online. The rapid increase of different social media platforms makes texting seem outdated. Either way, the information we’ve provided applies to all forms of instant messaging.

With that being said, it’s not unusual to build a relationship with someone through this medium. One might even say that it’s a more comfortable way of getting to know someone before having to go through awkward moments that are often inevitable in a face-to-face encounter.

This is where you’ll also take note of their body language to see if the way they’ve portrayed themselves via text messaging is the same as how they are in person. In other words, this is where you confirm their intentions.

Regardless if you like them or not, you might find yourself asking what a person’s actions or choice of words mean when you feel like they’re trying to tell you something. For all you know, they’re trying to tell you that they like you.