How Does a Relationship Grow Over Time

How does a couple's relationship grow - how does it evolve and change, what stages does it go through, from the beginning to the old age or… separation ?! We can easily imagine that a relationship goes through its stages in the same stages as a man: childhood, adolescence, maturity, and old age (when it gets here)…

And it is normal, even beneficial for the relationship to change - although some partners are afraid to complain about the changes in the couple…

How a relationship grows - the couple's childhood:

It is an age of "innocence", the age of beginnings, the age of romance and idealism! As a child, as a couple, the partners discover, explore, know and dream… As a child, they are interested and fascinated by the novelty represented by the partner, the relationship, and look with enthusiasm and idealism at the other.

The partners look at each other with the eyes of a child - they idealize and see only what is good… It is the period of "butterflies in the stomach", of exciting novelty, of dreams, and simple happiness. The novelty is the one that stimulates all the emotions you feel during this period - everything is exciting because it is new.

But it doesn't take long and things change - with a mutual acquaintance, the partner begins to be seen as he is and not as we dreamed, and if he passes this first test - to begin to know the other - the relationship closes, consolidates…

How a relationship grows - the couple's adolescence:

The couple's adolescence is a time when mutual acquaintance will continue - partners will discuss things more and more intimate, more personal, until they know almost everything about each other.

In the couple's adolescence, the "couple's identity" is formed and consolidated - who you are, what kind of relationship you have, what you want, and what you expect from each other and the relationship…

It's a time of experimentation and madness - try the moon and the stars, have fun, explore yourself intimately - there is always something you haven't done yet, make nice and romantic surprises! It is also a passionate period - intimate life is great, it is intense, it is still new - it is what is called the "honeymoon" of the couple's relationship.

It is the period in which, after you get to know each other and strengthen the connection between you, you ask yourself the first questions about the future of the relationship. And with adolescence comes the first crisis (s) - the first quarrels that can break up the couple or make them stronger (many of them related to the moment when you finally see each other with more realistic eyes, when you see your defects and shortcomings).

How a relationship grows - the maturity of the couple:

Well, the couple who successfully endured the crises of adolescence will reach adulthood. You already have a past together, you have experienced almost everything that was to be experienced, you know almost everything possible about each other, you know who you are as a person and as a couple, the relationship is solid and based on a routine of the couple. Passion subsides - the end of the "honeymoon", which can scare or disappoint some.

But love still exists, if it existed from the beginning and if you knew how to strengthen the relationship - but it is a calmer, less crazy, and passionate love. Slowly, trust, knowledge, appreciation become more important than carnal passion - nothing bad in this, because a relationship will not last or will not be harmonious if the partners are not friends, do not know each other, do not support and do not have to trust each other.

You know each other well and not only - you have subtly influenced each other, so now you are similar in some respects, but you also have ideas, values, principles, gestures, expressions, common taboos…

Maturity brings things together, flows in a calm and safe rhythm - you have formed a couple of routines, common habits, and much of the common daily schedule. This routine can be a cause for concern or disappointment for some - where is the passion, the spontaneity, the drop of madness?

They are no longer characteristic of this period - and they must be! Sure, no one would stop you from going crazy - but the relationship itself has advanced to a calm, stable stage - it's what might be called "real life welcome": no idealizations, no childhood dreams, without crazy experiments.

What matters in the relationship are the feelings of love (although she is no longer passionate, she is now stronger, more real), the trust, the respect, the sincerity - and the compatibility of the partners, their ability to live happily together.

Passionate or romantic gestures are less - but you have a support that you know you can rely on at any time, a boyfriend and a friend. Crises will also occur in adulthood - as a man sometimes goes through the crisis of "middle age": often, when it comes to a dramatic change in the couple, such as marriage or children…

The crisis of the couple's middle age is related to the phase in which partners may have small doubts - this is the phase in which they decide: all or nothing. If you resist these crises, you will become even stronger and you will slowly reach the "depths of old age"…

How a relationship grows - the couple's "old age":

No, it has nothing to do with the age of the partners - a relationship can reach this stage in its evolution in four or five years! It is the age of wisdom - when you no longer have to worry about the disappearance of passion or the mundane daily routine but accept them as they are and realize that… is good!

Living with your partner gives you everything you need - and you don't need anything new or adventurous, but something real and safe… It's a time of gratitude and gratitude for what you have - of enjoying life together as it is.

If you have passed well the phase in which you realize that the other is not exactly as you dreamed if you have accepted it as it is, if you have passed through the other crises that have appeared - then you will reach the stage where you understand that no romance, madness and intense passion form a real couple relationship - but living together, compatibility, attachment, trust, appreciation.

You've been through a lot, you've known each other as you are with flaws and qualities, you've forgiven a lot over time, you've had a good time and a bad life - here you can say you're really happy together and that the relationship yours is stronger than anything!