Don’t Let the Storms of Life Overwhelm You!

Most people have a life full of difficulties and worries, but you certainly already know this. You know that life can be unfair at times.

None of us will be able to walk all our lives without difficulty, and some of them will inevitably be incredibly difficult.

No one can have a life without difficulties, and some of them can be extremely difficult and have serious consequences, but you can get over it and learn certain lessons from them.

This is how things are: you can learn something useful in any situation, no matter how bad it may seem.

The Harvard study

The so-called "Harvard study" is one of the longest academic studies in history and has studied the lives of several hundred people over 75 years. Researchers have tried to find the answer to the question, "What is the secret to a happy, meaningful life?"

The results turned out to be very unexpected - as it turned out, their level of wealth and their "success" by society's standards practically did not influence how happy the study participants felt.

George Villan, a well-known psychologist and one of the scientists who worked on the experiment, studying a huge amount of data, came to the following conclusion: The happiest people of all the participants in the experiment were the ones who knew how to find something useful. and valuable even in the darkest situations.

The ability to accept and overcome unpleasant events in life, according to Dr. Villan, has "a significant positive effect on social interactions and general well-being."

Based on the results of the study, Villan advises keeping a "test log" and writing down all the problems and trials you have to go through in your life.

Dr. Villan argues that the happiest people in the world when something goes wrong in their lives, ask these four simple questions:

1. What life lesson can I learn from this?

Usually, you see the problems of your life as annoying at best and, at worst, as something that can completely change your life. But regardless of the situation, it is worth asking one but very important question: "What life lesson can I learn from this situation?"

And no, that's not the answer. No matter how gloomy this life situation may seem, you can still get something out of it.

Imagine, for example, that you were suddenly fired. Is it unpleasant? Very. Maybe even catastrophic if this happened exactly when you have financial obligations.

But when you find yourself in a job loss situation, fully realizing that this has happened, and you need to look for a new one, ask yourself a few questions. Ask yourself, "Was this job exactly my calling?", "Should I change my line of business?" "How can I tell myself better next time?"

Give honest answers to these questions. They will probably surprise you a lot.

2. How can what happened to me make me stronger?

Considering trials as opportunities is one of the strengths of a person's personality.

Whether you realize it or not, the difficult life circumstances you have successfully overcome can strengthen your character in a way that nothing else can.

If you can recognize this truth, you will not only be able to pass any test, but you will also discover in yourself such hidden abilities and power reserves that you were not previously aware of.

3. What benefits can this situation bring me?

Take a look at another typical example of life's difficulties: let's say your children have matured and "run away from the nest" by going to another city to study or simply moving away from you. It is sad? Surely. You love your children and they will always be a part of you, wherever they are.

But if you stop and try to look at the situation from the other side, you can understand that, in reality, it can offer a lot to your children, as well as to you.

So, your children will be able to enjoy adult life and understand what to fight for, and you… For the first time in many years, you have the opportunity to dedicate your free time to your favorite hobby or to travel, which you have long dreamed of.

4. Can I take this situation to help someone else?

Here is another example for you: military wives, who have to resign themselves to seeing their husbands not as often as they would like.

Unpleasant? Oh, very. However, women who have been married to the military for a long time often spend some of their free time teaching women in the same situation, what to expect from long periods of emotional and psychological absence of husbands, and how to cope with the psychological stresses of such a life.

Only those who have experienced the full spectrum of negative emotions that "cover" them away from their loved ones can help those who find themselves in a similar situation.

"Persistence is not the same as insensitivity. Persistence means that you feel what is happening to you - every blow, every fall, every wound. But no matter what, keep going. "