Don’t Know if You Feel Attraction or Love ?!

Sometimes it can be hard for you to figure out: is it attraction or love ?! Have you finally met a person with whom you can have something special or have your hormones temporarily gone crazy? Out of the desire to have something special, we sometimes fool ourselves: we think we feel something real, but after the first shivers of desire pass away… we don't find anything in that person anymore, only from what we would like…

Love involves attraction - you rarely love someone you are not attracted to unless we are talking about love for mom, dad, brother, grandmother, cat! Conversely, physical and sexual attraction does not imply love at all: you can go crazy for a person, want and dream obsessively - but there is nothing else there…

You usually realize after having sex with that person and when you reach that stage of acquaintance and closeness, whether it is something more or not. But how can you find out more quickly if it is an attraction or love, without risking getting too caught up in an unnecessary relationship? Answer the following 7 questions and you can better understand how you feel!

7 questions to find out: is it attraction or love?

1. What first attracted you to him/her?

When you first met, what did you think? You felt something special - that was the first impression (the first impression may turn out to be wrong, but it says a lot about that "chemistry" between two people). What did you like and what caught your attention: a word, a gesture, a look? Or rather something from the physical side: a cleavage, a back, breasts, muscles, stature, etc?

This is not a conclusive test, but it clarifies what you admire most about that person - and if you are attracted only by physical aspects, then you have an answer…

2. Do you often think, since when did you meet that person, about him/her?

Do you happen to think about him/her without anything special reminding him/her? Do you dream with open eyes at your next meeting and make plans: what to wear, what to tell him, where to go? Or are you rather calm and not feeling that anything has changed in your life?

3. Do you miss him/her?

A classic symptom of the love patient: longing! Did you see each other on Sunday, and now it's already Tuesday and you missed him/her madly? Clear: you're in love! When a day or two of separation seems like a year, it's more than just a physical attraction.

And when you just broke up with him/her and you want to see him/her again, it's even clearer. One more thing: do you feel the need to say good night to him every night?

4. What do you like most about doing together?

It's a question you should have had more than two or three meetings with him/her. The answer may be clear to you if it is about attraction or love, but you must already know him/her a little to be able to answer. If the first answer is about sexual activity, you know where the scales are.

If, however, it is more than that, you simply like the closeness, to talk to him, to hold his / her hand - such sweets are classic signs that you have fallen in love with love (but I do not exclude thoughts about sex )!

5. Are you genuinely interested in talking about yourself?

Everyone likes to talk about themselves, about life, worries, preferences, family, friends! There is no person more interesting to us than ourselves! But what do you do when she/he tells you about herself? Are you curious/curious, do you want to find out as much as possible, or are you bored, solemnly approving, waiting your turn to speak? In every relationship that goes through two encounters, we reach this stage: when the two meet and tell each other their lives.

Are you interested, when he speaks, do you ask him more questions or do you just listen out of courtesy? If the only reason you listen to him/her is for your turn to talk or to get in bed together, you realize what it is: attraction or love…

6. Any future?

See you - by no means soon - but will you see him/her in the future? Don't answer: it's too soon for such thoughts! Because lovers are rarely realistic! So, if you are in love, you make your dreams come true, you imagine what it will be like in the future and you see that a lasting relationship with him/her is possible and desirable.

If, on the other hand, it seems to you that certain mismatches would prevent you from being together for a long time, or if you haven't even thought about such a thing for a second, you don't have much to do with Cupid!

7. Butterflies?

Do you experience, at least a little, the pleasant but also annoying sensation of butterflies in your stomach before you see it? Before the meetings, you have emotions, you have thoughts, you care a lot about what you wear, what you tell her, what will you do? No matter how many relationships you have had before, with someone for whom you feel something - apart from sexual attraction - you will still feel a thrill…

Even if you are a love expert, a new person for whom you feel something real still it makes you tremble at first with enthusiasm, joy, fear, not just physical desire! But when you kiss, how do you feel: just sexual desire, or something else, a more intense joy combined with fear?