Are You in Love or Do You Just Want to Be With Someone?

Each of us knows that person who jumps from relationship to relationship and always says he loves.

It's really hard to understand how one can "love" so many different people so often.

But it can be assumed that it is not love, but only the fear of loneliness. I mean, that's right. Not?

In a way, yes. But you can't measure love by any calculations, love is something you can only feel.

What if what you feel is not true? But if you are so afraid of loneliness, or are you so tired of not feeling a connection (no matter how fleeting) that anyone who comes close enough to make you feel safe gives you the feeling that it is your soul mate?

You know those past relationships, the kind of relationship you remember and it makes you exclaim, "I can't believe I told him I loved him!" How could you say those words to someone who is not your type and with whom you would never want to be seen again?

The rejection is simple, it was not loved, it was the need to be with someone.

It is extremely difficult for someone to give verdicts when it comes to what someone else is feeling or not. However, there are some basic things you can take into account if you want to know if it is love that you feel or just masked loneliness.

These are the kinds of things you would like to show your friend because if we were, to be honest, you would rather not go to a wedding where the only thing the bride could say about her future husband would be that "it's always there for me." If you are unsure of the reasons why you are in a relationship, take a look at the list below and see where you fall into love or attachment.

Love is passionate. Attachment is apathetic.

When you love, there is a flame in you. It may be a hell of rage, a sweet glow, but there is always that flame. You can only say that love is love when you feel something.

When you just feel attached to someone, you don't feel anything like that flame towards that person. You may have moments of slight irritation, restlessness, and a mixture of other feelings, but nothing resembling the radiance within love.

Love = lack of selfishness. Attachment = self-centered

True love is all about the other. When you love, you put your partner's needs above your own needs. Everything you do is for him and carries a small part of you inside.

Attachment is just about you. Do you want someone to be there for you, do you want someone to support you, or do you want someone to help you in one way or another? Don't take care of that person, just take care of yourself.

Love is freedom. Attachment is possession.

Loving someone is great because you don't have to be constantly with your partner to feel affection, to understand how he feels, or to feel safe. You love enough to trust the bond that binds you together

When you are attached, you feel as if the only time you're okay is when he's with you, you can't stand being away from each other, and when you're apart you always wonder what he's doing. and especially with whom.

Love will give strength to both, attachment is biased

When you feel true love, it is as if you receive wings to fly to new heights, you are given new energy and a sense of freedom, you share your dreams with your partner and at the same time, he shares his with you.

When we are dealing with attachment, there is only a power struggle, you are the one who decides and does everything you can so that you are never left out. The only decision that matters is yours.

Love has no time limit. Attachment is limited

When you feel true love, it happens all the time, it doesn't matter, when you love someone you will always love him, no matter how it ends in the end. Attachment does not work that way, attachment has a deadline, an expiration date, attachment is not real because neither of you can grow in that attachment, because where it is the beginning is already the end.

When you are in a relationship it is never easy, the things that matter require effort, true love is beautiful and it is a remarkable thing. Just because you haven't found true love yet doesn't mean you won't find it, just be patient and try to reevaluate yourself and your relationships. If you have an attachment relationship, let it end so that you can both be open to living the wonder of true love.