Are You Happy Together or Just Happy for Now?

Are you really happy together or just happy for now? What does it mean to be happy as a couple and what shows you that "you're on the right track"? Many times, we are content with what we have because we think that more is not possible, that we will not find something better, that what we have now is enough…

But as long as you are not happy and as long as you are not you are both happy as a couple, it can always be more, as long as you are not satisfied with what you have!

Are you happy together?

You are happy as a couple when you do almost any activity, you feel good together! You don't need special activities, crazy outings, adventures to feel good… You feel great just sitting with each other and talking, listening to music, relaxing… Everyday life seems beautiful to you just because you have a chance to be together at the end of the day…

You are happy as a couple if you feel fulfilled - you feel as if you have found what you want in terms of relationships as if your wishes have been fulfilled. You don't feel any emptiness, an intense lack - but what you have is what you wanted! Don't sigh after what could have been and don't sigh after the old days…

You are happy as a couple if you have no regrets about relationships or loves in the past… You may have loved in the past, but if you are happy in your relationship now, you have no regrets you are grateful for the present moment. You wouldn't have time to change anything - because everything you've been through has made you who you are today and who you are today.

You are happy as a couple if you feel that the search is over - when you know intuitively that you have found what you wanted in terms of relationships when you no longer want to experiment when you are not interested at all in others.

But you know that you already have everything you want - you have the right person with you, moreover, you have the right person with you. You can't even imagine that you would break up with him/her and be with someone else - you can only imagine a beautiful life with him/her.

You are happy as a couple when you do not live in insecurity and doubts - you know that you can rely on your partner and do not be afraid that he may leave you overnight… You know that what you have is something solid, strong and that the relationship you can withstand trials - simply trust your relationship and your partner!

You are happy as a couple when the mere presence of your partner makes things seem better and easier… and not more difficult… Meeting your partner after a long and hard day makes everything better all at once, makes you safer even calmer.

And not the other way around - when after a hard day, your partner's presence stresses you out even more and irritates you… When there is a harmonious and loving relationship, being able to rely on your partner, knowing that he will always be with you his presence encourages and cheers you up is a given…

When, instead, after a horrible day you want to run away somewhere alone and you don't know anyone anymore - including your partner - then you are far from happy in your relationship…

You are happy as a couple when you do not feel alone - when you know that you have a person who will listen to you and try to understand and support you.

Think you have a serious problem that makes you overly sad and you feel unable to deal with it - do you feel that you have a partner by your side who will talk to you, listen to you, and make you face everything easier? Do you know that you have a place to retire, that you have a person who wants and can comfort you and cheer you up? Or do you feel lonely and lost, with no one to support you in the most difficult moments?

One more thing - when you are going through a crisis, who is the person you are relying on - your partner or a friend? The answers show you how happy your relationship is, how much it matters, and help you to be in a couple… Sometimes, you can be with someone, you can sit next to him/her and still you can feel so alone… Alone, misunderstood, lost…

You are happy as a couple when the better you know each other and spend more time together, the more you love each other and want to stay together longer! Sounds like a utopia? It is not - true love must pass this test well - that of intimate and real knowledge between partners and time spent together.

If after a while, you start to need more and more time alone, separated, then something is wrong (it does not necessarily mean that you do not love each other, but that you have a blockage in the relationship). In any couple it is healthy for the partners to have regular time for themselves, time separate from the other: but when one wants more and more time alone, it is not so good.

You are happy as a couple when the real world - this cruel, superficial, banal, and pragmatic world still seems good to you! When, despite all the problems, despite the feeling of banality, despite the difficulty of finding meaning, you are still grateful and you can enjoy life because you live it with the person you wanted!