How to Get Rid of Jealousy

Want to know how to get rid of jealousy? Does this emotion bother you too often and do you have a habit of suspecting your partner often without him/her doing something that deserves to be doubted?

You can't stand the thought that maybe where he/she is, there is another person of the opposite sex who can make advances, who can try to seduce him/her… And you can't do anything! It's not true - you can do something: you can work to have a good, harmonious relationship and give the other enough reason not to look at other people!

Before giving some advice on how to get rid of jealousy, one important thing to mention: a controlled, moderate jealousy is normal and even healthy! When you are jealous, it shows that you care a lot about the relationship, that you want your partner, and that you compliment him!

But when jealousy is hard to control and intense when confused with possessiveness and obsession, it does a lot of harm - it's like looking at your partner as an object, which only you own and control !!! Uncontrolled jealousy is like a plague that slowly spreads over the couple's relationship, destroying harmony, trust, and peace… But sometimes, even if he/she doesn't give you serious reasons, you can't help but feel that way…

How to get rid of jealousy:

Realism. Think clearly and rationally: do you have reasons to be jealous? What are those reasons? Do you still talk to a colleague? That he looks at the street from time to time for attractive people? That he's talking on the phone with someone and not telling you who? These are not real reasons, but pretexts that let you imagine what is worse and release your frustration! Until you have an objective, concrete reasons to show your jealousy, keep it under control.

Emotion control. Emotions are difficult to control because they currently control reason and logic. You start to tremble, you blush with anger and all you feel is that you want to explode. But why such reactions? Because jealousy controls you, instead of you controlling it! Try the following mind control exercise: personify jealousy. Visualize her as a small, ugly, smelly monster approaching you ("the green-eyed monster").

Learn to feel the moment the monster approaches, your reactions before you have a jealousy attack. After that, imagine hitting that ugly monster with a big sword and killing him (or running away, depending on your preferences).

Imagine how the monster's unpleasant smell slowly disappears and clean air stays in its place. Inhale and breathe deeply, recalling a happy, intimate moment between you and your partner. Do you still feel jealous?

Get rid of the scripts. Our minds are constantly building mental scenarios about what is, what can be, what will be. But, unfortunately, it is like many human minds to build the most pessimistic scenarios! Try to control these scenarios, realizing that you (you, not someone else) are creating them and you can change them.

Many of what we imagine are just fantasies. So, when she/he calls you and tells you she's late, don't jump to "who is she, what is she doing, have a coffee with X", but think "the project isn't over", "the car broke down", "It's traffic." When he/she seems distant and does not talk to you, do not immediately jump to "think of someone else", "saw someone", "is no longer attracted to me", but think rationally: he is tired, stressed, he needs peace, not me asking nonsense ". Usually, the simplest explanation is the real one - not your elaborate scenarios, in which a stranger seduces your boyfriend/girlfriend…

Make sure you are loved and assure the other that you love. No, not by obsessive phone or e-mail, office checks… Checking, you only acknowledge your lack of confidence in him/her and offend him/her! No, make sure she/he knows how much you love her by telling her nice gestures, understanding, sex.

And if you give attention, appreciation, affection, understanding, you will receive the same! The important way to get rid of jealousy is to enjoy a beautiful relationship, without many quarrels, without frustrations, without intense dissatisfaction.

Trust yourself. How do you get rid of jealousy? Learn to trust yourself, strengthen yourself, and appreciate yourself. Learn to see for yourself what others see and stop focusing on flaws! We all have flaws! Avoid constantly comparing yourself with other women/men and appreciate yourself! As he looks at you, so does he/she!

Do you have any vulnerabilities? Work on them and improve what doesn't suit you in your physical appearance or your personality. Otherwise, those vulnerabilities give rise to fear - the fear that your partner will find someone better! To help you trust yourself, make a list of everything you like about yourself and read it regularly.

And to work on yourself, make a list of the flaws that bother you and what you can do to improve them. Don't stop here - put on paper a whole plan of activities for personal improvement with their schedule and get to work. The more you trust yourself, the more you get rid of the irrational fear that the other person might find someone better.

Trust your partner. Values ​​trust in the relationship. Work for a better relationship and show that you respect your partner. The first step in showing respect: try to trust him/her! Has he given you practical reasons to not trust him so far?

Then why offend him/her without trust? You have to do one thing: if you show him how jealous you are, if you show him you don't trust him if you check obsessively, you hurt, offend and annoy the other person. In turn, he will eventually lose his respect for you if you can't control your jealousy.

One last tip: you will probably never get rid of jealousy permanently, but you must, for your good and that of the couple, learn to control it and "kill" it! When jealousy overwhelms you, learn to focus and remember so many happy moments in your relationship. Remember: when you show them that you are too jealous, you show them that you are weak!