About Open Couple Relationships, See What Rules Must Be Accepted From the Beginning

Open Relationships - Does It Work? Can a relationship in which the two partners love each other and want to stay together, but offer each other the freedom to meet other people intimately, be a harmonious couple relationship?

There is no general answer: if we manage to get rid of our preconceptions about what is "normal", we can accept that for some, an open relationship can be a recipe for success, as long as they are really happy.

Open couple relationships are those stable couple relationships, in which, however, the partners agree that both should maintain intimate relationships with other people. In general, we would think that such a situation only leads to resentment, jealousy, communication blockage, and insecurity - but it all depends on the perspective of the partners.

When both partners separate their feelings of love from physical satisfaction, they can sometimes stay happy together and get satisfaction from other parties. The reason? Infidelity occurs at some point in so many relationships - almost always as a desire and often as an act. In an open relationship, you don't have to hide your desires and cheat - everything is on the plate!

About open relationships:

Love vs. variety. Two partners love each other - but what happens after a while, when there is a desire for novelty, for something different, to get rid of monotony? Two ways: either partner chooses to ignore that desire, focusing on what they have together; either they get it wrong, even though they still love each other.

Can love satisfy a person, make him never want anyone else? For some, yes - love and partner are all they want from life. For others, no - although they love their partner from the bottom of their hearts, they live with a certain dissatisfaction, with a need for variety, for novelty.

Cheating Vs. freedom. So what do some people do when they love their partner? They end up making a mistake: cheating. But can't there be another solution? When both partners have spent years together and feel the need for variety, does not an agreement to have an open relationship eliminate the betrayal of deception?

To hide, to deceive, or to say honestly that physically you need variety? Does this agreement work - for both partners to have physical relationships with other people from time to time? It would seem that for some it is the solution to stay with their partner because they have a good relationship, but to get the desired satisfaction outside of the relationship, without having to hide.

Some make this agreement right from the start; knowing that they are not ready to have a single intimate partner, that they still want to have the freedom to experiment, they agree that they can have other relationships…

Partners who make this agreement value sincerity - they want to be open to the end; I want to stay with my partner, but to have freedom (that's why a rule of this kind of relationship is to say when you have an intimate relationship with someone, without hiding it - of course, without details)…

Feelings vs. sensations. But an essential part of an open couple relationship is the separation between feelings and physical relationships: you love your partner, but love does not physically bind you to him. To be able to have intimate relationships with others, but to remain strictly physical - without developing feelings for others.

You only love your partner - the others are just adventures without any emotional involvement. Here's the key: not being able to relate to the intimate physical relationship with feelings. Otherwise, one of the partners, although initially agreeing with the open relationship, will feel betrayed; or one of the partners will develop feelings for an occasional partner, destroying the relationship…

Reciprocity in open relationships. Another problem: a true open couple relationship implies that both partners agree, that both want to experiment with each other, and that both have this freedom.

A relationship in which only one maintains relationships with others is not an open relationship - it is a relationship in which the partner who remains faithful allows the other to "escape" for fear of being abandoned! This is a step towards disaster. One cannot speak of a relationship that can work unless both partners truly agree with the agreement.

What about jealousy? Jealous partners cannot maintain an open relationship, this is clear! If you feel jealous, betrayed by the fact that the other person wants to have physical relations with others, then such a relationship has no chance. And the truth is that most women and men are jealous. ours (how does he so easily accept the idea of ​​sharing with us)…

What about fidelity as a value in a couple? The reality is that open relationships are a solution for some because they no longer trust fidelity. As an idea, it is a beautiful concept - but concretely, life brings us daily evidence that fidelity is often just an appearance, that even those who love each other fall prey to temptations…

So an open relationship can work for some: they love each other, they want to be together, but they also want to remain free to live, without reaching the situation where they feel bound hand and foot…

But for others - probably for most - a relationship like this has no chance: because the mere image of the couple's partner with someone else is far too painful and confusing to be accepted; the simple idea that we can keep love and maintain the relationship, but at the same time we can have relationships outside the couple, is too out of the ordinary.

In the end, we are left with the truth that what works for some will not work for others - we should not think in terms of what is normal or not but in terms of what makes us happy and satisfied or not!