Emotional Separation From Your Partner, Why Do We Feel So Alone in a Relationship?

Removal from your partner - have you ever felt alone, even though your partner was near you? Did you feel that he/she could not understand or support you? Did you feel that you couldn't open up, that you couldn't talk to him about what was bothering you, about your thoughts, problems, emotions?

It sometimes happens that we move away emotionally from the important people in our lives to the point where there is no connection, that deep closeness.

How does partner removal occur? How do two partners, from two people who love and know each other intimately, into two almost foreign people, who no longer connect emotionally with each other, no longer form that emotional unity?

Why, instead of getting closer, can they slowly move away, losing that intimacy? Why end up sitting next to your partner, but not feeling close to him, not seeing him as the one who understands and knows you, the one who loves and supports you?

About emotional separation from your partner:

Frequent conflicts, frequent quarrels started from all kinds of nothingness affect the closeness, harmony, trust between you. When you go through a difficult period, in which you often quarrel for all sorts of reasons, the relationship between you becomes tenser and tenser.

After quarrels after quarrels, it is more and more difficult for you to open up in front of your partner, to look at him as the loved one who knows you best. When a simple discussion can turn into an argument, you prefer not to discuss anything! When you no longer find understanding and relief in your partner, look elsewhere.

When you argue often, you will come to feel that he/she does not know and understand you… And so you move away from each other slowly because the relationship no longer offers you relaxation and moments of happiness, but frustration and moments of tension.

Dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction with the relationship can take you away from your partner - especially when you feel that the problem is created by the other, that it is your fault that you have a problem. When you do not try to see that certain dissatisfaction is the responsibility of both of you and that you have to solve them together, but you consider that it is the other person's fault and only his, the removal will appear.

Because no discussion leads anywhere and dissatisfaction cannot be resolved when you do not take your share of responsibility. And if you feel that the relationship is not satisfying, you will spend less time with your partner, you will try less to make the relationship work and you will escape more and more often outside to…

The separation from your partner appears, however, even when you do not have obvious problems: do not argue, there are no dissatisfactions, but it seems that the intimate connection between the two of you has disappeared. What happens?

You forgot to communicate! You forgot that a love relationship requires you to work on it, to improve it, to spend moments of intimacy together, to keep in touch. You have fallen into the daily routine and have just gotten used to sitting next to each other, without connecting emotionally. You forgot to show your feelings, to appreciate each other, and to talk to each other.

Every day, your conversations revolve around banalities: "what do we eat", "where do we go on the weekends", "we don't have toothpaste anymore", "I saw on TV that…", "X said that …", "at work…". And that's it! Do you remember the days and nights when you spent hours talking, talking about the past, present, future - about feelings, ideas, dreams?

What happened to those deep conversations, through which you connect and share your feelings - those are the ones that create a deep connection between two people, not the days spent together talking about what happened at work or in the world !!

You don't have a common ground - the separation from your partner becomes clear after a while when in fact you two have never had a truly authentic, deep connection. When you let yourself be carried away by the wave, by the passion between you, without noticing that you do not have a common ground, that you are too different, that you are not compatible at all.

Until, one day, you look at your partner and you realize that he/she doesn't understand you at all, nor does he/she know you the way you are! You look at him/her and you suddenly realize that you don't know him/her either, you don't know who he/she is.

When you have a relationship in which you do not feel understood and known by your partner, which is so different from you, in which you do not feel close to the other, although you may experience a passion, the emotional distance between you soon becomes visible.

Emotional separation from your partner can occur when you no longer feel loved, even though you give love. When your partner behaves quite indifferently, he forgot about words or gestures of love and only you try to rekindle the affection between you, you reach a limit and you also start to distance yourself emotionally, to become indifferent.

If you feel that the other person is moving away from you, if you try to keep him close, but you fail, then you too will soon distance yourself, to suffer as little as possible.

To love and to show the love constantly to a partner who behaves indifferently is too difficult, so you build a defense, you form a wall between you and him so that he will hurt you as little as possible…