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7 Things That Attract Toxic People Into Your Life

Are you a magnet for toxic people?

By Lee BookerPublished 4 years ago 4 min read
7 Things That Attract Toxic People Into Your Life
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We are surrounded by different people. Someone wants to be a part of their life. Someone doesn't like your company at all. Some people maintain relationships just because it is beneficial. Sometimes, even realizing that you are used to it, you can't do anything about it. This is because it is very difficult for you to say no.

If a person fails to use you, he will constantly look for flaws in everything you do. Nothing will ever be done well (from his point of view) well enough. You seem to be constantly doing something wrong. This person will never say a good word about your accomplishments. Such people only bring negativity into your life, but you allow them to do it yourself.

Why is this happening? Because you attract such people to you. You can be an amazing person, but there will always be people who will easily step on you.

Be the best version of yourself. However, don't let others change who you are. Share your positive with those who truly deserve it. Learn to see when you are used to and end relationships with these people.

Below we will tell you about seven reasons why you attract negative personalities who absorb your power and energy:

1. You are too good a listener

You understand how important it is to listen to a person. However, this tactic does not always work.

A person can talk incessantly without giving you a single chance to say at least one word. He will ignore all your polite instructions to end this monologue. And so it will always be when this person suddenly has the urge to talk to you.

You must not listen to such people at all! Try to stop them in the early stages of the conversation. Tell him you have other meetings or activities. Yes, it can be unpleasant because you abruptly interrupted him. But sometimes it is necessary to do this.

2. You always find time for other people, even if it's to your detriment

It's nice to know that someone appreciates you so much that they are ready to devote all their time and attention. However, excessive generosity on your part can lead to negative personalities taking over your life.

Realizing that you are always there and always ready to help them, they start to exploit you to the fullest.

If you're not ready to do something or you just don't have the time, it doesn't make sense to agree. Learn to put your needs first, you have only one life.

3. Do not hesitate to talk about your dreams with others

As you tell toxic people about your dreams, they only secretly wish you the worst.

The root of the problem may lie in their envy and self-doubt. Therefore, they will ruin your mood in every way possible. They will make you doubt yourself. They will try to discourage you from conceiving.

Everything I say at the beginning may sound like a real concern. In time, you will realize that this is not the case.

4. You are a pretty gentle person

You are a person with whom no one has problems. In a few minutes, you can change the negative into the positive. People like to spend time in your community. But some want to take advantage of your gentleness and simplicity. Such people can manipulate others, and they will do the same to you. Whatever the problem, they know you can't refuse.

Everything is just as simple. Start learning how to say no. When someone asks you something, they don't answer right away. Give yourself time to think and only then decide if you can do it.

5. As a rule, you are always in a good mood

Who doesn't love a person whose smile shines on their face? If you are always happy, then you will surely attract people to you. Among them will be those who try to use your positive for their selfish purposes.

Communicating with such a person drains you emotionally. You have to spend a lot of energy to make such a person happy. But no matter how hard you try, it's impossible. Therefore, it minimizes communication with such a person.

6. You always strive to solve everything

If you become a participant in the conflict, you will do anything to resolve it constructively. Usually, people appreciate such efforts. However, some cannot live in peace. They need continuous drama.

People who want drama often create it themselves. If you are surrounded by such personalities, then you will only dream of peace. Conflicts will follow one after another. All because you are always there and strive to solve everything. Stop acting as these people expect of you.

7. Always try to see only the best in people

You always try to surround yourself with good people. You are successful because you are a good person. At the same time, you have enough power to understand the faults of others.

And even when you simply witness disgusting behavior on the part of people, you continue to believe in them. You expect a person to change their behavior over time. However, this cannot happen.

Don't ignore what you see. Although each of us deserves a second chance, everything has its limit.

Don't let negative people poison your mind, soul, and life.

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