Love Shouldn’t Feel Like a Puzzle – If It Fits, You’ll Know!

Have you ever been in a relationship where everything felt like an endless quarrel? One minute things seem perfect. Another, you analyze the lyrics and wonder if you said the wrong thing and question where you are standing. It's exhausting, isn't it?

Love should not feel like a puzzle that you have to force together. When it's right, pieces just fit.

Love that feels like work is not love

Relationships require efforts - ensure. But effort is not the same as the fight. There is a big difference between the cooperating two people and one person trying to hold everything together. If you are constantly feeling as if you were decoding signals, walking on the shells, or trying to get someone to remain interest, something is gone.

Real love will not leave you confused. This does not mean that I argue your value for others. And it certainly doesn't feel like a battle uphill every day.

When love feels forced

🚩 You are always the one who initiates. If you stop sending text messages first, do you call first or make plans, will something happen? If not, you are chasing - you don't love.

🚩 You feel you have to "earn" your time. Love is not a reward for good behavior. You should not prove your value to pay attention.

🚩 Their words and actions do not match. They say they care, but they show it? Or will you leave your actions unimportant?

🚩 You still hope to change. If you wait for someone to finally give you the love you deserve, they are not right. The right person does not force you to wait.

🚩 You don't feel safe to be alone. Love should feel at home, not audition. If you can't be real, what makes sense?

When love just suits

Now imagine that love that does not feel complicated. No exaggerated. No other guessing. Only two people who choose each other - fully, openly and effortlessly.

Such a kind of love exists. And if you find it, you'll know.

✔ You feel safe. There is no anxiety about where you stand. You know they're here for you - today, tomorrow, always.

✔ The conversations are easy to flow. You don't have to force the connection. You enjoy talking, even about small things.

✔ You don't have to question their feelings. You never think if they care because they show you every day.

✔ Be with them is light. Love is not supposed to release you. When it fits, it adds peace, not stress.

✔ You grow together. You don't have to shrink to fit in their world. Both are doing, side by side.

Stop trying to force the wrong piece

If you have ever tried to force a piece of puzzle where they don't belong, you know how frustrating it is. No matter how much you push, turn or modify, they just don't fit.

This happens when we try to make a bad person. We ignore the discomfort, overlook the red flags and make sure that if we just try harder, it will work.

But love doesn't work like that. The right person will not cause you to work for their love. It will be free and voluntarily there.

If they feel good, you don't have to ask

You don't have to play every text. You don't have to ask if you like enough. You will not feel that you are dealing with an endless puzzle.

You'll just know.

Because love - really love - is not a puzzle. It is a feeling, consciousness, security. And when it's right, you won't have to force anything. 💖