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Treating Sexual Paranoia
Though many of our parents' and grandparents' sex fears hardly affect us any longer, love and sex continue to be uppermost among the anxieties revealed in clinical consultation. Few still think that we will drive ourselves to the loony bin by masturbating. Not many lie awake nights worrying about the possible horrors of syphilis, illegitimate pregnancy, or abortion. Even regular run-of-the-mill thoughts of participation in acts of fornication and adultery have largely ceased to make us prepare ourselves for the fires of hell. Old sex fears have virtually vanished. This is not to say that sex education conquers all, for every contemporary sex survey conclusively proves that erotic ignorance is still widespread. But the worst mass misinformation seems now to be over. Only those adults who cannot or will not read seem to be as sorely ignorant as were their not-so-distant ancestors.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
Stripper Problems
Since everyone seemed to absorb so much enjoyment from my 'Pornstar Problems’ I thought I would continue the theme. Shortly prior to taking my clothes off on camera, I took my clothes off on stage… and on the laps of strangers. Stripping was my initial introduction into the sex industry, and I have to admit, I fucking loved it. I still miss it. Every time I walk down Shoreditch High Street in East London, I’m filled with sadness that The White Horse, my favourite strip joint to work in, is now closed due to gentrification meaning they could not afford the rent. I am waiting for it to be turned into some sort of snooty elitist hipster pizza place or coffee bar with one solitary table inside, with some off hand, try to be cool reference to how it once was a strip club.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Sexual Boredom Advice
When passion wanes and love lives on, you have reached the sexual boredom phase. Most intimate relationships begin with the rare propinquity that makes it possible for a man and a woman to take the first difficult steps toward joining their lives. It is sexual exaltation—not a shared interest in Chinese cooking or tennis or foreign travel—that makes pleasure out of the hard work of accommodating oneself to the needs and idiosyncrasies of another adult. When this exaltation wanes we often seek out guidance from others. My advice? Seek advice and guidance from sexual therapists, not your mom or dad.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
How to Start a Love Affair
One of the most exciting things about being single is that you never know when fate is going to set an enticing man within eye contact. He's checking out your assets at the supermarket while reaching for a box of Cheerios, or he's squinting at you from the other end of the bar, or locking glances when he's getting out of his green Volvo just as you're getting into your blue Volkswagen. You feel a certain something–a tingle at the nape of your neck–a signal. Yet you do nothing. You walk on. The opportunity is lost. After a moment's small sadness, most such incidents are forgotten–but a few haunt you forever.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
Absurd Asian Women Relationship Stereotypes
In 1980, interracial marriage was fairly rare in the United States, with only a small percentage of all marriages occurring between people of different races. Nowadays, the intermarriage rate is nearly 15 percent overall, but 29 percent of the interracial marriages are among Asian females. According to studies, when Caucasian men marry Asian women, the couple is twice as likely to both be college educated and will make on average 20 percent more money than a white-white couple. Sociologists talk about all sorts of possible explanations including the desire of Asians to assimilate, the increasing acceptance of interracial marriage, and the sexualization of Asian women as docile and submissive. All these explanations are probably wrong. Research shows many caucasian men attracted to Asian women have a very stereotypical view of dating Asian women. The research further shows that what men tend to do is let there particular needs or desires manifest themselves as perceived stereotypes of women that they are actually just physically attracted to. But these men sure do make Asian women out to sound like the perfect partner for your average Joe.
By Lenny Legman9 years ago in Filthy
Sex Aids Are for Experts Too
In the course of sexual events, it often becomes necessary or more so desirable for individuals—male and female, of both greater and lesser erotic aptitude—to enhance their sex lives with battery operated devices, sensitizing creams, or erogenous potions, commonly referred to as sex aids.
By Lenny Legman9 years ago in Filthy
History of Chastity Belts
Is your money safely locked up at the bank? Then why isn’t your vagina locked up as well? From Mad Max to Robin Hood: Men In Tights, this historical garment has been appearing in pop culture in the 20th and 21st centuries. It has also become a popular accessory for BDSM enthusiasts, with a wide variety of both male and female chastity belts available from sex toy manufacturers. In fact, the chastity belt that society knows and portrays did not actually exist in days past. Instead, they are a myth drawn from allegories of purity and faithfulness which were exaggerated throughout time by historians who have the same fantasies as many men—fantasies of female sexual appetites so extensive that only lock and key can contain.
By Caesar Finkle9 years ago in Filthy
Do Body Stereotypes Define Sexuality?
I'll bet you've spent a lot of time looking at women's bodies, and will continue to do so. Every woman has a unique personality, but some personalities have been found to correlate to aspects of the body. Stereotyping is generally a bad idea, but it is best to understand the perception of stereotypes if we are ever to eliminate them.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
How to Get Close to Rich People
Think about it. Everybody you know wants more money. Endless series of books have been hacked out explaining foolproof systems on how to pile up more of the green stuff. Of course, after reading all the experts, it always comes down to an awful lot of hard work. And many of us are very lazy, so there's the rub. People who have made their own fortunes will tell you it was mostly by the sweat of their brows. The truth is that the vast majority of all people of wealth were born with it … married it … or got so close to it that it rubbed off. Aha, you say something like that should only happen to me. Well, it can. The simple, super dependable, flawless system described below is infallible.
By Frank White9 years ago in Filthy
Rough Sex - The Right Way
I’m one of those girls that has absolutely no problem admitting she likes being choked during sex. Actually, I don’t need to admit it, because there are close to 500 movies of me, on pretty much every porn website known to man, that proves my point. Rough sex, and in particular rough sex in porn, gets a bad name. It is the kind of thing that those who don’t like or understand it believe it is abusive, destructive and non-concensual. The problem with the kind of black eye and nose bleed sex that I (and so many others) enjoy, is that it can be those things if its not done correctly. So here is your guide to rough and tumble love, from deep in the vaults of my sexually devious brain.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Why Every Woman Wants an Alpha Male
I never put much thought into what being an alpha male consists of. Honestly, it wasn’t until I became addicted to my kindle and started reading hundreds upon hundreds of erotic and romance novels that I really began to appreciate and understand this hot ass, in charge, take no prisoners type of man. When I used to fantasize about a man it would usually involve some baby-faced asshole with a lot of tattoos and a shitty attitude, but now, as I have gotten older, that imaginary arrogant dick wad is no longer able to dampen my panties. What turns me on these days is a confident, hard working, respectable, and stable man (who of course is still colorfully tatted and a filthy bedroom talker, duh).
By Jus L'amore9 years ago in Filthy
How to Use a Double Sided Dildo
Double. Sided. Dildo… Now that I have your attention, or at least part of it, how about having a discussion surrounding the ins and the outs of how to use a double sided dildo, and perhaps answer some of the other notable questions that have been asked in reference to how to use a double sided dildo. One would probably be remiss if they did not warn the reader that the content of this article is sometimes thought taboo; however, after reading the first three words, and making it to this disclaimer it should be obvious that we are about to embark on a conversation that delves into a deeply sexual discussion. In other words, we are going to discuss having sexual intercourse while utilizing a sex toy, as well as masturbation utilizing a sex toy.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
