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Many people think that the workplace is similar to a school, and as long as they work hard, they will be able to have a place in the workplace. In school, we only need to study hard and our grades are the only criteria we can rely on, but not in the workplace.

The workplace is more like a complex vortex of human interaction, and it is not just a matter of having good working skills. Because the people in the same work environment as yourself are not that much different from your ownworkabilityhere is no way you can achieve absolute prominence in these people.

So, good interpersonal skills are often the reason why we are invincible in the workplace. However, many people are in a state of excessive inferiority complex because of their reasons, such people not only have no way to get along well with their workplace colleagues but also may kill their future because of inferiority complex.

01 Bad workplace relationships because of low self-esteem

Anyone who likes to watch sitcoms probably won't be able to pass up "The Legend of Wu Lin". As the oldest of the sitcoms, "The Legend of Wu Lin" has done a great job in portraying its characters, and among the characters it portrays, the one with the most inferiority complex in the workplace is chef Li Dazu.

How can Li Dazui have low self-esteem? There is only one cook in the inn, and Li Dazui has a firm grip on his position in the kitchen. But in fact, a person who is truly confident in their abilities does not have an attempt to be firmly in control of something. For they know that with their abilities, even if they don't fight, these things belong to them.

Not so Li Dazui, who knows that he is neither educated nor a good cook, and that his bones contain a deep inferiority complex, which is why he takes his place in the kitchen so seriously. When Zhu Wushuang came to the inn who also knew how to cook, felt that his authority had been provoked, so he guarded his kitchen as firmly as an old hen guards her cubs, refusing to let anyone into his kitchen.

He was just afraid that when such a person better than himself appeared, he would be replaced outright. Most people with low self-esteem in the workplace share this trait. They feel that they are not capable enough, so they guard their position with open teeth and claws, not letting anyone get close, whether they mean well or maliciously.

However, this approach of theirs makes others feel that they are unreasonable and that they do not have the slightest bit of an aggressive mindset. As a result, their workplace relationships can become extraordinarily bad.

02 The more inferior you are, the more difficult interpersonal relationships become

It is said that Korean dramas can always dig out the sore spots in people's lives, but this is not without foundation. Many Korean dramas are very realistic, even the ones that seem fantastical, but they are also based on people's real lives.

In the Korean drama 'oh, my goddess of ghosts', the heroine, Ro Bong-sun, is a typical representative of someone with low self-esteem in the workplace.

Because of her peculiar physique, Roh Bong-sun always approaches life with caution, and no matter what happens, whether it is her fault or not, she quickly bends down and repeats over and over again that she is sorry.

Luo Fengxian worked in a restaurant and once a child ran amok in the restaurant and bumped into her, spilling soup from the bowl and burning her hand. It was not her fault, but when the child's mother accused her of not having eyes, Luo Fengxian immediately bent down and apologized.

Even the owner of the restaurant couldn't stand it and said she was too weak, but Luo Fengxian didn't take the owner's words to heart, she still said sorry over and over again, taking all the blame for her mistake.

It was because of her low self-esteem that she dared not let her life fluctuate even a little bit, hoping to put things to rest with the most peaceful approach to everything she encountered. Even when her colleagues in the restaurant bullied her and made her do work that was not her part of the job, Luo Fengxian still put up with it in silence, hoping to get people to accept her in this way.

But it is easy to be a good person, it is harder to be a very good old person all the time. So, once Luo Fengxian transforms a little at the back, with the slightest hint of rejecting her colleagues' unreasonable requests, her colleagues all draw swords, thinking that Luo Fengxian is challenging her authority.

People in the workplace with inferiority complexes like Luo Fengxian always attempt to make others accept them by ambushing them, which only results in others' appetites getting bigger and bigger until they finally find it difficult to close. What's more, such carefully maintained workplace relationships are unhealthy and fragile, and the slightest misstep can make their relationships even worse.

And their oily attitude will also make those who want to help them feel cold-hearted, and even more so, no one will want to associate with them. Gradually, both those they deliberately ingratiate themselves with and those who genuinely want to help them will stay away from them.

03 How to overcome low self-esteem?

1. Find the source of low self-esteem

Every person has a reason for having low self-esteem in the first place. Some may be due to their inability, while others may be due to their personality. But if we want to overcome this inferiority complex and work on our relationships, then we must learn to find the source of our inferiority complex and overcome it at the root.

If it is due to your abilities, then spend more time and effort on improving your abilities. If it's your personality, try to refuse to do what you don't want to do, knowing that no one can force us to do anything, not to mention that holding back and backing down will only make others bully us more and more, making our inferiority complex even more entrenched.

2. Do more things that have a sense of value

Many people have low self-esteem because they fundamentally deny their value, that is, they feel that they are useless and have no way of creating more value than others, so they deny themselves and even put themselves on an extremely low pedestal. Then, if this is the case, we can try to make ourselves do more things that have a sense of value and overcome our low self-esteem by enriching ourselves internally. We can set small goals in our daily life and work, and accomplish them one by one. In the process, we will gradually discover our abilities and be able to gradually perceive our value.

Low self-esteem has a profound impact on people in the workplace and can make our relationships extraordinarily bad, so we must learn to find the root cause of our low self-esteem and try to overcome it while doing more things that have a sense of value and feeling more of what we are capable of. Know that there are no exceptions to the saying, "I was born with it".

What do you think about the impact of low self-esteem on people in the workplace? What do you think can be done to overcome low self-esteem? Feel free to leave your views below.