Why Trust a Counselor Over Friends for Personal Problems?

When you need a solution to the problems that are bothering you, why not talk to a professional counselor and get a solution instead of looking for solutions from someone with two ears somewhere??

I have seen some people in the group post their problems and some people have commented

"When you have a problem, tell a friend.. You don't have to pay money to a counselor.. There is no such thing as a counselor. A counselor is a mind that is shaken.. Everyone in our office tells me everything.. If you need to talk to me.. Anyone who can listen is a counselor.. Someone who has a heart that understands your pain is a counselor anyway.. Why pay money to a counselor when you can solve it with a friend?"

They said..

Yes .... If you want to talk to someone about your problem, you can tell a friend, a relative, a teacher ...

You can talk to them and get a solution from what they say..

But like this..

What is your belief? About the confidentiality of the issue..

What is your belief that when you tell someone that you are having an affair or that you are thinking about someone else or that you are doing something that is considered bad by society, they will not think of you as a bad person..

You will say..

"He doesn't tell anyone that, he is my best friend..

He has been with me since childhood, he is our close relative..

That's why they keep my secrets,"

But when will the relationship with them end.. Because of a misunderstanding or when will you and him get angry.. Can you tell me.. When the relationship ends and you get angry, are you sure that they are good enough to keep your secrets...

In many places, people have to share their most personal things for their own peace of mind. When they get angry with their secret friends, they get sad when those secrets come out..

Those are the things that happen when you pay money to a counselor and don't get proper counseling, and go to get free counseling from someone..

But that doesn't happen when you pay money and get a qualified counselor.. A counselor takes the fee you pay him for four parts.. The fee you pay is divided into the following four parts that he gives..

1.. To listen to your problem for hours.. (He gets paid for it, so he does it with interest.. He doesn't keep other things in mind, problems at home are not on his mind, because this is his job..

2.. Instead of giving you a stupid answer to your problem, a counselor gives you the right solution.. (That's the result of a counselor having studied psychology and counseling.)

2.. Don't label you as someone else after listening to your story.. (The counselor doesn't have time or desire to label you because you are just another client, he works for money, so he doesn't think about you strangely and doesn't want to label you, even if your story seems strange to someone else, it's just a story for the counselor to solve for himself.)

4... He gets paid to keep your secrets for life.. (The counselor gets paid to keep your secrets, so even if he's angry with you, he has no right to tell anyone about your problem..He deals with you for money, so he won't reveal any of that for any reason. Because of such special character traits, he has given a license to a counselor for it..

Now you understand why, when something'' bothers you, you should not tell anyone but a counselor to solve it.. You can think of this as an ad to promote my job because I am a counselor, Or you can think of it as a community service. Anyone.. Anyone..