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It takes a village to raise a family; advice and tips to make the most of yours.
Secrets of YOU
I mean, WOW! As a mother of 10 children, you look damned good woman! Our life wasn’t always easy but you always made nothing out of something. You are STUBBORN in your own right and all of your children have inherited this trait. It was not a talent you taught us but it was demonstrated through your actions. Daddy wasn’t there but because of you I don’t feel that void like so many others do. Maybe it was partly due to the fact that your father was a veteran that you didn’t have the opportunity to meet until you were an adult. It didn’t help that your mother moved you and your sister with your grandparents until your adult years.
By Cassie Smilez5 years ago in Families
On the Road Again: Planning a Smooth Move for Children with Diverse Needs
On the Road. Again. We’re posted. That’s armed-forces-speak for transferred and Willie-Nelson-esque for “on the road again.” When you’re a military family, change is a constant. With each move, you learn to reinvent yourself, and then you do it all over again. But what’s that like when you have young children? And how about when one or more of those children has diverse needs? What then?
By Teresa Hedley5 years ago in Families
For Mommy, My Mom
You are more than enough. I wish you knew that more truly. I have grown now to see your personal pains, bruises you thought you'd covered neatly. I see the cries for help draped across your windows. I see the weight you bare on your shoulders. I wish to ease you, but I know my words cannot reach you. Mother I wish I could heal you. I salute your strength and courage. I respect your sense of faith. I just wish you could see that I see your pain. Strong Black Woman is a term coined to the mothers of suffering. It's not a title anyone should be forced to bare. For to be strong one assumes the position of pressure and endurance and resilience in struggle and war and battle and you- mother, I wish you never had to know that. I reflect on things that passed in our lives as mother and daughter and I know for certain that it didn't pass through you to me without your pain.
By Aqeedah Mujahid-Gaines5 years ago in Families
Today
As I woke up this morning heart broken and sad, I tell myself I am the only person to change how I feel. Life has thrown so many challenges at me and so far I have crawled out of every deep dark hole I've been in. They say only the strong can survive sometimes I don't feel strong at all I feel weak, I feel so venerable but, I'm still standing so I got to be strong right. As look in the mirror and see my reflection, I say today is going to be a different, I'm going to let the heartbreak go and let go of the sadness and build happiness with my children. I don't want them to see negativity. I want them to learn the same as I am trying to learn, I want them to turn negatives into positives as well. This is for their future, for any mother out there we never want to see our children suffer with sadness. As I'm looking into my reflection I know other women are out there suffering the same as I have, I have conquered my past of abuse, mentally, physically, and verbally. It has taken me a long time to become who I have become. I lost myself many years ago thinking I had to stay for my children. But I am here to encourage and help anyone I can man or woman. I have learned how to delete any negatives out of my life, this can conclude people and social media. Anytime a negative person, quote, and comment is said to me I try I delete it right away, that saying in one ear out the other. That's right, I pretend I didn't even hear it. If there is a negative around it will automatically have you thinking negative and change your mood. Delete the comment or even the person. To be happy, you have to hang around happy people that have similar goals as you. Rewire your brain or redirect your thinking, these will be benefits to your life and bring positivity and happiness. We all fall down but with just a couple of the right people around we have the support and strength to get right back up. In today's world people fall and that's it, they failed and can't move forward. you have to look at failure as a lesson learned. Its like a log in the road you have to move it to continue driving, we get up, get out and we move it and then we continue our journey. Nothing is going to stop us from happiness. So, today as you read this set yourself a goal of two weeks of blocking out negativity, Do whatever you got to do to steer clear of negative people, thoughts, comments and social media See how you feel after two weeks of nothing but, happy people laughter and happy thoughts. It changes your perspective on so many valuable things in life. One last thing before I end this today. My daughter came to me a week ago and said mom I know how I want to dress but no one dresses like that, I said delete your social media and quit looking at these women you want to dress like, because you are not shaped like them, you do not look like these models or these girls your age. Later that night I was out driving and she had text me and said guess what mom, I said what is it darling, she said I deleted my social media because I want to be me. I'm going to dress like I want to dress and listen to the music I like and I'm going to be happy how I want to be happy. This made me smile, she has now recently dressed how she wants and seems happier not competing with the girls and women on social media. This was her first sign of happiness. Being herself.
By Lizzy Allen5 years ago in Families
Would You Find The Idea of Raising Free Future Adults Tempting?
If the answer is yes, then you might need to start paying attention to the story you’re telling your kids. Instead of discriminating against their intrinsic worth and pushing them to compete with others, breaking their hearts to accomplish what would make them deserve your love, be a responsible parent by keeping them connected to their original great being.
By Myriam Ben Salem5 years ago in Families
