Lena Bailey
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Georgia born writer. Specializing in dating and true crime
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Wine
So I just started the journey of tasting and enjoying wine this past October. So like a good nerd, I did my research about the best type of wine and the benefits (and risks) of drinking wine. So before we talk about the benefits or the risks, we need to talk about the proper glass size. Experts say that the proper serving size is about a 5-ounce pour and women should have one glass a day while men can drink two. So let's dive into the benefits first.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Proof
Ted Bundy
Recently Ted Bundy has gotten some attention thanks to a Netflix documentary, and an upcoming movie staring Zach Efron as Bundy. Women have been tweeting about how hot they think Ted Bundy was. It has gotten so bad that Netflix and Cosmopolitan made a post reminding women what this guy was accused of. Here is a reminder of who was and what he did.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Criminal
Relationships or Dynamics
A dynamic and a relationship are similar things. Dynamics are sometimes a type of relationship. The difference between a relationship and a dynamic is that a relationship includes more than just sex and dynamics may only be about sex. Dynamics don't always have to involve sex though. I consider stuff like play buddies or friends with benefits to be under the dynamic umbrella, whereas a dom/sub situation can be considered a relationship or a dynamic. A relationship is where you date and spend time with someone, whereas a dynamic can be more about sex or other stuff. Sugar baby and sugar daddy relationships are more dynamics in my opinion.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Poly and Similar Dynamics
Monogamy is not for everyone and that's fine, but other dynamics have to be done right. If polyamory and similar dynamics aren't done right you're breaking trust and possibly cheating. Polyamory, swinging, and open relationships can be done however you are comfortable with it — as long as it's talked about prior. Condoms and common sense need to be used during any of these dynamics. Make sure you are being tested and being safe. You also have to trust and communicate with your partner. Jealousy and certain feelings can come into play with any relationship or dynamics. Always talk and have a plan for when certain feelings come into play. What if you fall in love? What if you get jealous? Have a plan for all of it. Also have a plan for pregnancy and STDs.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Me Too and Time's Up
I was sexually assaulted by an ex-boyfriend, so I understand what people are going through. I was lucky because my assailant wasn't a boss or someone I needed in my life. He also wasn't someone who could fire me, get me fired, or get me kicked out of school. There was nothing bad he could do because I hid from him and he blocked me on social media. He thought I wronged him. In sexual assault or misconduct cases, "lucky" or "fine" are relative terms. I recently ran into someone who made fun of the Me Too movement because he didn't believe most of the stories. A low percentage of stories are made up. Because of people who don't believe the stories and the fact that sexual misconduct actually happens, the Me Too movement became popular in 2017. After the popularity of the me too hashtag rose, the Time's Up movement was created.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Too Controlling BDSM vs. Vanilla
Vanilla and BDSM are similar in some ways when it comes to what is too controlling. The main difference is rules and boundaries. In a vanilla relationship, you have boundaries and maybe rules to keep the relationship on the right track. The vanilla boundaries and rules may also be there to make sure there are no hurt feelings and everyone involved is on the same page. These rules and boundaries can be like monogamy: no being alone with certain genders (or people), and texting or calling when you arrive safe somewhere. In BDSM, some of the rules and boundaries can be similar to vanilla ones, but they go deeper than that. Part of the reason that the boundaries and rules go deeper in BDSM is because it's a power exchange lifestyle and the stuff we do is a little different. People have soft and hard limits and that's part of our boundaries and rules.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
BDSM Protocol
So protocol means different things to different people but everyone can agree that a lot, if not all of it, has to do with respect. Respect and protocol are very important in lifestyle. If anyone that wants to be in your BDSM circle as a friend, play buddy, mentor, or whatever doesn't understand respect or protocol, then they need to keep it moving. Boundaries are a big part of protocol but we will talk about boundaries in another post because boundaries are a vanilla topic too.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
Dating Older
I sometimes date men who were 10+ years older than me. My ex-fiancé actually told me that his dating age range was four years older or younger, but when I messaged him, he threw it out of the window. He was really surprised by me, but he was also happy that he loosened up his age guidelines. He was only 7 years older than me. I don't know if I will end up in an age gap relationship, but I would be open to it.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Little and Middle Aesthetic
Baby girls are submissives in the realm of DDlg (daddy Dom/ little girl) or age play. There are also a group of subs called baby boys. Littles (baby boys and girls) come in all ages. There is also a group called middles who are like littles but they identify as teens instead of like 12 or younger. Some people just like age play but don't consider themselves submissives.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
Sleeping with Someone on the First Date
I'm not a prude by any means, I promise. I just want to help my readers through dating and kink. There are people who are not interested in relationships and that's fine, keep doing your thing. If you are sleeping around, be smart and protect yourself, although that maybe a no duh to most people. The thing about it is that, if you are looking for a relationship, sleeping with someone on the first date could hurt that. I had a guy friend who slept with a girl on the first date. After he drove her home, he regretted it because she said something that offended or scared him and she was overwhelming to him. So he regretted it and she felt used. If you don't want to feel that way, why do it? You're a grown ass woman, tell the guy no. If you do sleep with him and he makes you feel used, the person you really should blame is yourself. You could have said no and avoided all of that. Not sleeping with someone on the first date is the only way to save yourself from hurt feelings and other issues. Sex complicates things sometimes and it may get in the way of getting to know someone.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Humans
Collars
Please note when I talk about subs I may use the pronoun she but I am aware that people of all genders can be subs. I had to look up these meanings to make sure I was getting these right and then I realized there are so many. I had no clue that there were so many. I know about day collars and protection collars but there are so many styles and types.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
