Elaine Sihera
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British Empowerment Coach/Public speaker/DEI Consultant. Author: The New Theory of Confidence and 7 Steps To Finding And Keeping 'The One'!. Graduate/Doctor of Open Univ; Postgrad Cambridge Univ. Keen on motivation, relationships and books.
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How To Make Friends With One Simple Thing
It seems that most of us want to make friends, but find it difficult, as revealed by a Pew Research Center study which found that 72% of adults say it is 'somewhat' or 'very important' to have close friends, but only 44% say it is easy to make new friends. Our ability to make friends seem to depend on our personality, especially as some people are naturally more outgoing, confident, friendly, and good at putting others at ease which tend to draw others to them. Others who are introverted may find it more difficult to put themselves out there.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Psyche
How Task Responsibility Decides 'Fairness' in Relationships
Many men are often blind to the connection between how few chores they do and how their partners feel about them! Yet if a woman feels like a servant in the relationship, it will affect her perception of her value and the intimacy of the union. Being the sole person to clean the toilet and wash the floors is definitely not an aphrodisiac, or any kind of turn-on! The message you send to your spouse when you do very little around the house is mainly one of a lack of respect for her or him. When there is a feeling of mutual respect and appreciation, both partners tend to give more and the relationship prospers.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Families
Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?
Well, it has certainly worked for me on a couple of occasions. The second was when I set eyes on my ex-husband at an event and knew that the attraction was mutual immediately I saw him with his friend and spoke to him. We lasted nearly 30 years and were still in love by the finish, except that we had diverged so much in our values and expectations, we could not sustain the relationship on love alone because too much resentment and anger had crept in.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Humans
What's In A Name? The Enduring Language Of Bias
The language we use to speak and to write is not accidental. It is the essence of our identity - a powerful indicator of who we are, and what we stand for. Language defines us, as it shows how we see ourselves. We will only ever use words we are completely comfortable with; the words that come easily to us without thinking; the ones our family and friends use; the words that tell where we are coming from and where we are going. Thus the language we use identifies us and our mindsets, revealing what we value and care about by the specific words we choose to utter.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Critique
Next Chapter - Magnetic Love?
I have fallen deeply in love three times during my life so far, and they were all intense affairs that ended with unresolved feelings. The first time was with my ex-husband. It lasted over 28 years and was a rollercoaster of incredible proportions, marked by some great loving, caring and appreciation at the beginning, and resentment, anger, and frustration at the end. When we finally parted there were still a lot of attraction, but much sadness between us.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Chapters
An Unforgettable Interview With An American Icon. Top Story - September 2023.
In 1984 I was an education manager, and English teacher, in a secondary school. Though I loved my work I yearned to write, too. I had scribbled down all kinds of ideas that I felt would give voice to my creativity, talent and aspirations, but they had all ended up in the bin, being roundly beaten by low confidence, a lack of self-belief and simple fear about how my efforts might be received. But the yearning to have my writing seen by others only intensified as time went by.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Writers
How Anthony Robbins Awakened The Giant Within Me
I love to read books by others who have faced adversity and devised their own way of dealing with it; to learn how they found the courage to get through it; about the people who inspired them in their crisis times, and the advice they might give me that could suit my situation, too. For that reason, I owe my confident and positive state to Anthony Robbins, the American author, coach and speaker who is known primarily for his seminars, and self-help books, including Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in BookClub
10 Key Symptoms Of Early Diabetes That Shouldn't Be Ignored
I have had diabetes for over 20 years now (Type 2). It can be lethal in all sorts of ways, if it is not managed effectively, but with good management and a sensible diet, one can lead a normal, satisfying life, as I've done, despite its potential for disaster. Unfortunately, diabetes is on the increase because of our changing lifestyle, especially changes in diet. Currently, nearly 5.5 million people in the UK have diabetes, either Type 2 - the most common type that accounts for around 90% of all cases, or Type 1, the more serious kind, that affects 10% of cases. Overall, diabetes costs the UK economy £12.5 billion per year - that's £184 for every single person in the population each year!
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Psyche
The Sure Signs That You Don't Like Your Job
People are always changing their jobs, especially when they believe that their current situation is untenable for a variety of reasons, or they simply need a change. Known as 'voluntary turnover', such movement between jobs is accepted practice, only becoming noticeable when there is a particular spike.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Journal
Ditching The Fear Of Speaking to Someone You Like For The First Time
We are all nervous of speaking to strangers, especially those whom we might like or fancy. There is usually some apprehension of how the other person might react: whether they might be wondering about our real motives for contact; whether we are doing the right thing in seeking a friendship with that person and, deep down, a fear of being ignored or rejected by them.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Humans
Feeling Disappointed In Love After A Break Up?
It is very easy to feel disappointed in anything when it doesn't go as we expect, especially when we love someone else and it doesn't work out for them. It is also tempting after the first break up we experience to regard the whole concept of Love as something we cannot trust, or to be avoided. But that approach is actually treating Love as a static, unchanging thing that we've tried, that hasn't gone well, and now we don’t like it, instead of accepting that we’re all different as people in our actions and reactions and not everything will work out first time.
By Elaine Sihera2 years ago in Humans
