Stop blaming yourself for being anxious, you just care too much

Have you ever had such a moment?

You couldn't sleep the night before the meeting. You knew you were well prepared, but you still rehearsed every sentence in your mind;

Other people's unintentional comments echoed in your mind for three days and three nights, and you couldn't get rid of them;

Before a small matter was resolved, you had already rehearsed ten worst results, and finally you were exhausted as if you were beaten by reality.

We are always trapped by "anxiety", and then fall into the secondary self-blame of "why am I always so anxious".

But have you ever thought: anxiety is not your fault, it is precisely the proof that you care.

If you don't care about your work performance, don't care about other people's opinions, and don't care about what the future will be like-you won't be anxious at all.

The neuroticism of repeatedly chewing on details and worrying about not doing well enough actually comes from your expectations for life, things you want to achieve, and people you don't want to disappoint.

Anxiety is an emotion that only people who have been loved, lived hard, and had a lot of things in their hearts will have.

The real problem is not that you are "anxious", but that you try too hard to be a "non-anxious" person.

Try to look at it from a different perspective:

Anxiety is not an enemy, it reminds you "what you care about".

Next time, when it comes, you don't have to run away, and don't scold yourself for not being competitive. Just say to yourself-

"I will be fine, thank you for reminding me: I haven't given up yet."

📌 I hope that when anxiety comes, you will no longer blame yourself, but learn to embrace the self who lives seriously.