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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
The Shadow Creeping In
The shadow, the dark, the bleakness of the demon on my shoulders. Pushing me under the stillness of the water, forcing me into the depths of my mind. Even though I’m surrounded by the light the darkness takes over. My eyes become tunneled and fixed and all the awful feelings come flooding in, causing me to take deeper breaths and receiving little air. This demon knows me well, it knows where to poke and prod and to get maximum torture in my mind, an expert of its craft. It lets me become clear for moments at a time. Then it pushes me under, again and again, sinking its jagged teeth into my thoughts making my vision darker showing little to no light. The memories come flooding in to provoke a response, tears begin flooding from my eyes. My chest begins to contract and ache with the weight of my burdens to bear. Regrets pile in from the past and familiar faces of those I wronged whisper in my ears “you're to blame”. “ This is your fault”.
By Ian J Roberts 5 years ago in Psyche
Innocence
I would simply do anything for my innocence back. Even for a piece. I crave it like I am having a withdrawal, almost like I need it. Truth be told I do not remember what it feels like to be innocent. I had my innocence stolen from me at such a young age. From being exposed to many horrible things it left me scared. Through many battles and invisible battle scars, the trials and tribulations, somewhere along those lines I lost it all. As if my innocence packed its bags and moved far away, never to be seen again. I felt so lost, like I was sailing a ship without my compass. Even though I was young I was grown because I matured from pain not age. I believed there was something wrong with me, this left me feeling empty. I tried to fill the void with anything I could. With the wrong guidance I went spiraling down a path no young girl should go down. Once I realized that the empty could only be filled temporarily. I was so broken I gave up for a long time. Thinking back to those times I do not even remember anything. Until I got to the age where I knew enough was enough, I could not keep going through the same toxic cycle. I had to learn from my losses and take those lessons and not repeat my mistakes. It was time I make something out of myself. So, I took time and really discovered who I was, I am no longer lost, and the trials and tribulations made me the person I am today and for that I am thankful. If I can do it so can you. My purpose for writing this is for you. Whoever is reading this and is going through this right now and feels empty, lost, or even hopeless. I hope somehow this message will find someone who needs to hear it. I am here to tell you that the pain does not last forever, one day what you are going through right now will make you who you are meant to be. Life may not always be easy but it sure is beautiful. So please do not waste one second more dwelling on whatever it may be that comes to mind when you read that. Healing takes time, so be patient with yourself and keep one foot in front of the other as you choose to heal from what broke you. When you are ready to say I am no longer a prisoner to my sorrow, is when you will be totally free. I believe in you because you are capable of changing your life right now. You can get up and say that you will never let your mind control you. Instead control your mind and find peace of mind from within. Let these words inspire you and may you find the motivation from within. Remember that the healing process looks different for everyone only you know what you need healing from. Forget all about your past because it does not exist anymore, look around in this present moment and notice that the only thing you have is this moment right now. So, live in it and do not waste a single moment more. You have this one life to be or do anything you want. So go out and get it and remember that you will never see success without failure, use your failures as motivation instead. Count to 10 and take a deep breathe on every count, and remember that everything will be okay.
By Vanessa Marin5 years ago in Psyche
What does ADD feel like?
"So, what does ADD feel like?" The title illustrates a good question--an imperative one, actually. But what frustrates me--I mean really frustrates me!-- is that when you Google that very same question, the results are too ambiguous or too technical to comprehend.
By Melissa Armeda5 years ago in Psyche
Scattered....
The hardest part when feeling the urge to write is the actual writing part. The desire is there, the need is present, but sometimes the brain is slow to spit out the right words. Correction, any words at all that make sense. This probably explains why many of my intros are so terrible because it’s like an old engine that needs a second to get going. I’m not sure where I want this piece to go, hence the title.
By The Omnipotent Deity5 years ago in Psyche
Psychologist: Women’s "Sexual Psychology" Development Law | "First Time" Unforgettable
There are countless firsts in life, the first time to learn words, the first time to leave my hometown, the first time to face the world alone, and the first time to surrender my body. Perhaps for most men, giving up their body for the first time is not worth remembering.
By Jonathan Yankie5 years ago in Psyche
Psychologist: Whether boys or girls, the messier the room is, it may be the performance of these 3 abilities
In the eyes of many parents, if the children’s room is always messy, the parents will think that the children are lazy, and sometimes they will often talk about them.
By Phillip Ware5 years ago in Psyche
What is the psychology of middle-aged women who don't pay attention to food and clothing and don't like to buy cosmetics?
There are many definitions of beauty, and women of different ages have their own understanding of beauty. However, as many women grow older, their definitions and needs for beauty are also changing.
By GWENDOLYN RODGERS5 years ago in Psyche
5 Tips for Navigating Summer With an Eating Disorder
Summer is especially difficult for me as someone who has multiple eating disorders . So many of summer’s activities involve food — barbecues, festivals, etc. — and as the world opens up more than it has in over a year, I am finding myself having increased when it comes to my body and food. While food seems to be a big part of summer activities, there is also the added stress of exposing more of our bodies through cooler clothing and swimwear. I admit that I have been struggling with eating disorder behaviors, and I have been extremely anxious about how my body looks as it has changed since I have been in treatment for a little over a year. I am still getting used to how my body looks and feels now and having to wear cooler clothing and swimwear often sends me into a panic and makes it especially hard for me to maintain recovery.
By Ashley Nestler, MSW5 years ago in Psyche
A smile on the outside is only smile
A smile is just a smile on the outside because people see an illusion, when I smile it’s because I have too because, in reality no one cares about how you feel or how you think. This picture was taken in New Zealand back in 2015, and before I came to New Zealand I was going through an experience that no one else could understand. My parents had separated and I was more than happy about it because, they were just not right for each other. My Mother, had always smiled because she had too, she didn’t have the skills to adapt to a new country, so she married someone back in the 80s. My Father, had gone to a new family or wherever he was going and it was hurtful but it was okay, nothing knew, so I would just smile and say, he left for work overseas – which is what he always did, worked overseas but was doing something else.
By Frances Helena5 years ago in Psyche
Please Remember, Unless I Say Yes, I DO NOT Consent.
Many times in my life, I have dealt with unwanted sexual touching and rape. I haven't said or done anything to bring this on myself, and as I was covered most of the time, I soon learned that what I was wearing made no difference. These weren't just men, they were women too. There is an obvious difference between someone who wants you to touch them, and someone who does not. If a person whether male or female pushes you away but doesn't verbally say stop, then she or he is telling you that they do not want touching in that way. It is NOT an incentive for you to carry on, just because that person did not verbally say it. I have seen both men and women get mad when a person rejects intimate touching and say some offensive things like:
By Carol Ann Townend5 years ago in Psyche
