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Optimism that has experienced pessimism is the real optimism

Optimism that has experienced pessimism is the real optimism

By XuChaRmPublished 3 years ago 3 min read

One day I asked my daughter, "Do you think it's okay to laugh and cry? Or cry and laugh?" She thought for a moment and replied, "Crying and laughing, because this is the last laugh." Children also know how to look at results. I think life may live is a feeling, seven emotions and six desires, in addition to love and joy, the other five emotions are uncomfortable. So happiness becomes a spiritual pursuit.

Smile to others, tears sad for their own taste. In my heart, I am afraid to be crowned with the hat of pessimism. I want to hide my true emotions, and I do not want to reveal anything bad or unpleasant in life, for fear that others will have a spectator mentality and judge the model, so as to mold myself into an optimistic appearance in the eyes of others. That's what I thought and did when I was twenty. So much so that people think I am optimistic, happy and alone. After the excitement, alone in the face of unhappiness, loneliness in a group of people, memories often make me feel uncomfortable. The result is a short-term loss of confidence in life, can not find the meaning of living. Now I think I loved acting! Inner play more, often self moved. It is called delicate mind.

Too delicate that is poet and writer, healthy state of mind needs rough sense. Unfortunately, this truth is not understood until you are old.

Crying to vent their emotions, laughing is not good in the discovery of happiness. In the movie "Take My Brother Away", the heroine finds that her brother's "hurt" to her is actually a way of love. After complaining for so many years, she is relieved. Got brother-sister affection, felt the warmth of love.

I was unhappy in primary school. I seldom thought about it when I was young. It would make me unhappy and not worth thinking about. After the age of 30, I began to face up to those years, in fact, I was lucky, although was downgraded, but met a good teacher, she helped me progress to establish self-confidence, love to learn. Although the year of the sixth grade was not good, but it is those hone, just in my twenties, was hit by people, did not collapse, finally fight down.

Those hurt in time gradually weak, and those warm twenty years of time, still can warm me now.

I learn dialectically to see a thing, choose to be hurt, is the victim; Who chooses the recipient is the lucky one. Life is like this, will meet noble support, help move forward, will also meet villain lash, help you grow up.

Once the failure hurt people heartache tears, I try to find those hidden in the dark light, choose to meet those light. I learned to accept the results, find meaning in them, and summarize the lessons learned. I learned to appreciate, to look at it from a different Angle, to see other people's perspectives, to understand why they do and say what they do, and it makes sense. After some consideration, I choose to compromise or insist, and learn to find a balance between others and myself.

As a person, is born to be labeled, what will be judged, the only thing to do is not care, don't care about what won't be hurt, self-blackness is a blunt sense of the senior situation, is also a kind of self-belief. Learn about life together www.yiqig.con

Don't be optimistic to see who, don't please the world, please yourself first. Learn to live with your emotions, work with your negativity, accept your vulnerability, and gradually become truly positive and strong. The optimism produced by seeing realistic pessimism is the optimism of the heart. It can also be said that - experienced optimism, is the true sense of optimism.

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XuChaRm

Running with a smile, losing, looking for, but remind me that tomorrow is better.

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