Manipulation and Misunderstanding: The Faithless Narcissist’s Mind

Manipulation is what you will always get when a faithless person approaches the problem of ‘trying to get anything’ or ‘give anything’.

A faithful person will harmonize with you.

The path of harmonization requires uncovering.

Harmonization goes with innocence, which causes them to want to first reveal all their cards because they trust you.

They will reveal why they want that thing that they seek.

They will ask openly, without pretensions, without twisting or stretching truth.

They will leave it in your hands whether to give or not.

But most importantly, they will have faith that either

you will simply give them what they asked for; or

you have good reasons not to and will gently explain why you would not give it to them (so if you don’t give, they won’t hold it against you, and they may explicitly as you ‘why?’)

Faithful people function on good reasons.

They believe they have good reasons to ask for what they seek. And they do, because they don’t come from a place of dishonesty or subversion. Also, faithful people naturally have empathy, so what they want doesn’t tend to be self-serving or ruinous.

They believe you have good reasons to give it to them.

Or they believe you have good reasons not to give it to them.

Hence they do not get resentful or hung up if they failed to get it from you. Because they kept faith.

A faithless person will aggress you. They will subvert you.

The path of aggression or subversion requires concealment, hence gaslighting, twisting, dishonest reframing, withholding or concealing information, misdirections, double think, second guessing, strategizing and forecasting.

Aggression goes with filthy agendas. Whatever is filthy tries to hide as much as possible, because filth is inherently ugly and disagreeable.

They will never reveal why they want that thing that they seek. Often they won’t even reveal to you what they seek, they seek to obtain it incidentally. They may not even reveal that they seek anything. For example, they want a free ride to the city, so they inform you that they need to obtain important school supplies that can only be obtained near there. They never bought the supplies, but they got the free ride.

They will never ask openly. It will all be some form of bait and switch. They expect you to punish them for asking openly.They will never leave it in your hands whether to give or not. They will use subversion to get it, either through concealment, outright lies, theft, violence, snatching, double dealing, betrayal, selling you out, or they will weaponize self-sufficiency, obtaining it through their own effort, but somehow at great cost to both you and themselves (when just openly asking and getting it from you would have been much cheaper for both parties)

weaponized self-sufficiency

ruinous self-sufficiency

going behind your back for everything

unilaterally leaving you out of their decisions regardless of the negative consequences their choices have on you

disregarding you in their decision making

throwing tantrums from not getting their way

non-consultation, anti-communication, anti-understanding, anti-cooperation, anti-mutualization

no consideration of harm or negative consequences on you

taking everything into their own hands, double dealing, double crossing

Faithless people believe

you will never give them what they sought if you knew what it is

you never have any good reasons for doing anything, whether you give or not

Faithless people function on bad faith, ill will, paranoia, the assumption that everyone else is equally faithless, equally filthy, equally filled with negative agendas. They always assume weaponized withholding.

Faithless people never believe they have good reasons to ask for what they seek. And that’s usually true. If you knew what they truly wanted, you wouldn’t want to indulge them, they’re that bad. Everything they want is ultimately self-serving, pointless or ruinous.

Whether you give to them or not, a faithless person believes you would never have good reasons to (this applies even if you give and they got).

Hence a faithless person seeks to obtain everything through subversion, through some sort of betrayal.

And they are never grateful.

Because they believe they obtained everything themselves, through subverting you, the dragon, the gatekeeper. They always function from the mindset of being behind enemy lines. You are the enemy (the beanstalk giant). They are the clever hero saving the day (Jack).

Faithless people function on the unquestioned belief that everyone else are also faithless, filthy scoundrels who need to be subverted in order to even obtain any little thing in life. So they go around in life scamming everyone. And they assume everyone would scam them, including their own spouse and children.

When a faithless person fails to get what they want, it’s the end of the world to them, literally their demise. Which is why they will become a smouldering volcano, and hate you, and seek to take revenge on you later. This is how toxic not keeping faith makes someone.

When two faithful individuals seek to obtain things from each other, all’s well with the world.

When two faithless individuals seek to obtain things from each other, all’s well with the world.

It’s when a faithless person and a faithful person have to obtain things from each other that things just go wrong.

Manipulation of the narcissist’s mind:

It’s the automatic assumption that they, the faithless narcissist, is always dealing with a faithless counterpart, and to do whatever it takes to subvert you to obtain the goodies. And to never be grateful after obtaining it.

This is most problematic if you happen to be a faithful individual, because the subversion the narcissist unconditionally practices will ruin you daily, but it won’t ruin another faithless individual. Faithlessness is inherently good as a self-defence mechanism against other faithless individuals.

It’s having faith in spiritually worthless people that is problematic.

Manipulation is the act of concealing negative agendas to subvert you and obtain things against your will. It is always a sign of faithlessness. It is harmful only to faithful people.

Keep Asking, Seeking, Knocking

7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!12 Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

Bible Gateway passage: Matthew 7:7–12 — New King James Version

The faithless version is

ask, reveal what you seek, and I will make sure to weaponize withhold it from you, and you will never obtain it, now that I know what you want

knock, and your requests will irritate me, and I will lash out at you and make you regret annoying me

everyone who asks will never get from me, I practice weaponization to bring about unhappiness in others

if your son asks for bread, give him a stone

if he asks for a fish, give him a snake

I will make sure I give bad gifts to my children, I will never give them what they ask, but I will annoy them by giving them things they never wanted, and I will spend a lot of money on those things too

the key to understanding my weaponized withholding is that I never give good things

therefore because I am faithless, I expect everyone else to do the same to me also

That’s the creed of narcissist manipulation.