Narcissists and Problems: Why They Can’t See the Mess

Joy hates problems.

Problems destroy joy.

All people who understand joy don’t want to create problems.

All people who have never experienced joy don’t understand this.

The path of joy lies in solving problems, reducing them.

The path of filth lies in creating problems, accumulating them.

People who love creating and accumulating problems are made of inner chaos, disorder, filth.

Anyone in joy doesn’t want to cause problems for themselves or for anyone else because it would be counterproductive, they are harming their own joy, which would be stupid.

This is the fundamental effect joy has on our orientation, and on every single little choice we make when interacting with others.

It makes us inherently peaceful, harmonious, obedient, willing to agree or please.

2 Then Jesus called a little child to Him, set him in the midst of them,

3 and said, “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.

4 Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

This is what joy probably looks like.

This is what inner filth looks like. It is more trash than home.

Why do narcissists make problems out of nothing?

What problem? They can’t recognize the problem. They don’t know what you are talking about. Narcissists ARE problems. So they cannot see problems.

Can you tell if I add one more piece of trash to that pile above?

Can you tell if I add 10 more items?

Creating problems would be like adding more trash to a pile of trash. They can’t perceive themselves adding to it, they are not adding to it, it is not happening, can you find that added new trash for me? Prove that I added trash to the pile. They cannot perceive the difference from the addition. If they cannot see the difference, there is no new trash added. ‘Whatever problems they don’t see doesn’t exist’, that’s the narcissist ethos. So they refuse to see anything. Blindness, perverted perceptions, wilful ignorance. So shut up already. Why do you keep harping on problems? You’re so negative!

They ARE the trash.

They are walking problems.

They do not create it.

Moral disorder.

Spiritual filth.

Spiritually worthless.

Problems.

Crazymaking.

Troublesome relationships.

Difficult people.

Degradation.

Aggression, Disregardance, Rebellion.

Unrepentance.

Reacting badly to rebuke or constructive criticism or wrongdoings being pointed out.

Short circuit ness, disconnection, incoherence.

Refusal to process life experiences and emotions.

Refusal to reflect.

Wilful ignorance.

Moral revisionism.

There are all related.

Refuse to houseclean your inside your whole life and it will look like this. Unrepentance is never-housecleaning. Unrepentance accumulates toxin, filth. Unrepentance is toxic. Unrepentance is filthy. Toxic people and filthy insides are highly correlated.

“The unexamined life is not worth living”

The unexamined life is not worth living — Wikipedia

My paraphrase of that is the unexamined life is filthy. Self-reflection is spiritual housecleaning.

All narcissists are the same.

All narcissists do the same things.

All narcissists did not go to Narcissist College but act the same.

Why?

They are all filthy inside.

That’s what’s causing the same things.

The same cause is causing the same symptoms.

They is a joyful coherence and symmetry that naturally springs from being obedient to the right things.

The more powerfully ordered you are in lawfulness (to the right laws), the more acutely you detect lawlessness.

As soon as a person speaks, out of their mouth comes either lawfulness or lawlessness.

Given sufficient context, a highly lawless person is immediately obvious.

As soon as you detect such a person, close your heart off to them, for everything they do is some form of attack or degradation. They have nothing good to offer you.

Their only spiritual goal is to cause everyone to sink to their level, to morally ruin everything.

That’s why there is no point being earnest with narcissists.

They offer only degradation, and more degradation, and even more degradation, until you eventually get it.

Get it early and save yourself some degradation.

What’s flawed about how narcissists see things?

It has variously been described as twisted, delusional, dishonest, faulty, blind, etc.

To explain that, I need to resort back to that filthy hoarding house analogy.

It may not be a well know fact, but hoarder houses tend to stink. The stink may be so great that it escapes the windows and gets reported to the council. Sometimes, people report a hoarder house mistakenly believing a corpse is decomposing in there, only to discover that to not actually be the case.

Why do they stink?

It’s because, living is associated with biological material. Waste biological material has to be taken out and disposed of. When it instead accumulates, it produces stink.

When a hoarder house is finally vacated, it may take up to a year to get rid of the stink, as it has seeped into the walls, the roof, and the floorboards in that time.

What’s the point of telling us all this?

People living in hoarder houses, amidst all that stink, can’t smell it. They are living within their own homeostasis. It has become natural to them. They cannot perceive the smell.

And in a similar way, being spiritually filthy inside, narcissists cannot perceive degrading, abusive, injurious behavior correctly.

Initially, they perverted their perceptions through moral revisionism to protect their unnaturally fragile egos. Over time, this became an all-encompassing habit such that they cannot perceive anything correctly anymore, even when there is no morality involved. Their perceptions became utterly perverse in every way. And that is what’s responsible for their word and conceptual salads — a mind made of pure crookedness and incoherence, incapable of minimal truth, order or beauty. An all-pervasive psychosis that started with perverting morality but subsequently escaped and became a metastasized cancer on their entire perception.

They wear filth tinted glasses.

This in no way exonerates them.

In the same way that a hoarder who can’t smell their stink isn’t exonerated, because it takes a thousand individual choices to create that mountain of trash. This cannot be unconscious.