"How to Win And Lose People" : Is it really tiring to praise others?

How would you compliment your mother if she cooked a meal for you? She'll be smiling from ear to ear when you tell her how good the food is, and that's even better than saying she's young, because that's what she expects.

Someone said, if you pretend to be a grandson outside, do you pretend to be a grandson at home? If you feel like you're faking, you're not practicing enough. If these are spontaneous reflexes, how can you still feel tired?

Wang Yangming said to "practice in doing things", emphasizing the unity of knowledge and action, politicians will say: practice is the only truth to test things, emphasize is to do. We should not ignore the family as a training ground, the worst relationships are often with family. If you can handle your family, you can handle your professional relationships, too.

Everyone is waiting for compliments. Try complimenting someone you don't have a good relationship with once a day for 30 days. Enemies will turn into friends.

When we go fishing, we all bait the fish. It's a universal rule of society. The little white rabbit took the turnip to go fishing, is not successful, life many people make the mistake of always thinking about what they want, but not to insight into the needs of others.

For example, when you see your child smoking, swearing will only trigger his rebellious psychology. Then you tell him that smoking won't make him into the basketball team or win the 100-meter race, so he will quit smoking.

Don't try to force things into your relationship. Anyone who has ever owned a pet knows that coaxing an animal with food is better than hitting it, and the same goes for relationships.

If your child has puppy love, you can tell him that the biggest attraction is getting good grades. If you get good grades, the whole class will admire you and you will win their heart.

When you try to persuade someone, start with what matters to him. In the TV series, Su Daqiang was cheated tens of thousands of yuan by a financial company and ran to the roof to jump off a building. Then his daughter came to him and said, "Your pension is 5,000 yuan a month, which is 60,000 yuan a year. If you are as healthy as you are, you can live for another 10 years. That's 600,000 yuan. As soon as Su Daqiang heard the reason, he no longer jumped off the building.

When you ask your boss for a raise, don't talk about how much you need the money or how hard you are working. Your boss cares about how much value you can bring to him. If you can make him $10 million a year, you can make $1 million a year. Hard work is worth nothing, only merit counts.

As a salesman, why can't you sell anything? Because you don't have insight into user needs. When a girl buys a car, you tell her about the transmission, the horsepower, the engine, and all she wants is a pink car.

Great Wall has done a good job in recent years, knowing that some customers can't afford a Hummer and buy a Great Wall to decorate the appearance.

Xiaomi is doing the same thing, knowing you can't afford apple, telling you to live for fever, giving you a reason to buy cheap stuff, so you will feel good about yourself.

If your child is bullied at school, you need to tell him to eat more and be stronger so he won't be bullied. A lot of people go to gyms, do they go for fitness? It's really about meeting hot guys. It's just a social place.

Do business travelers really need five-star hotels? No, all he needs is a bed, a bathroom and breakfast.

Most of the time you feel that the other person and your temper, in fact, they are downward compatible with you, you know.

People will tell you what you want to hear. For example, there are leaders who can name every employee and tell you how well they've done, which brings tears to their eyes.

In the first class cabin of an airplane, stewardesses are allowed to call passengers by their first names, which is much better than addressing them as "Sir".

Flight attendants will know the details of first-class guests, including appearance and preferences, which will shorten the distance with first-class guests. When you pay for first class, you are actually paying for others' attention. You will be very satisfied with a little respect.

During Chinese New Year, I received mass text messages, which I regarded as harassment. If someone uses my name in a text message, I feel valued and I will respond politely.

If you want to have good relationships, you need to pay enough attention to them. Interpersonal relationship is also a savings account, we should be able to do small savings, accumulated little by little, when used can be useful. If you spend too much money on this account, you'll end up spending more than you earn.

Haidilao food is much more expensive than the food stalls, is their food better? No, actually, what Haidilao sells is respect. The moment you enter the restaurant, the considerate care of the waiter and the deep bow when serving the food make you experience your own nobility.

When you work, you may be a small staff, used to see the face of others, here you can obtain a sense of superiority, although you pay money, but also willing to.

How to make a good first impression? In fact, no money, the author tells you, is a smile.

Smiles are cheap. They don't even cost you a cent. But a smile is expensive, and many people would rather pay money than smile at you.

In Carnegie's business class, he gives business people assignments to smile at people all the time. Even if deliberately made to smile, will guide your mood, will also infect people around, will make your world more beautiful, others will be less suspicion and exclusion to you.

If you don't have a good relationship with people in your life, start with smiling. We all know the importance of smiling, and everyone can do it, but many people just don't do it. This is the failure of knowing and doing.

90% of people have it, they all know how to do it, but they just don't do it, so it's the other 10% who succeed.