How to get rid of the control of others in interpersonal communication

In life, everyone aspires to be the best version of themselves, but many people are invariably influenced and controlled by others in their lives.

Many people even live their whole lives in the eyes of others, invisibly manipulated by others who just do not know it themselves. So how do we get rid of the invisible control of others, please keep in mind the five mindfulness methods and learn to be the best version of yourself.

Listen to your feelings and get rid of emotional blackmail

In the process of growing up in life, many times we are used to being kidnapped by others, especially the loved ones around us.

When they are used to kidnapping you from their perspective, you will realize that the ego is severely tied up. In psychology, there is a term called emotional blackmail.

It is about when family members are used to demanding you with moral kidnapping, that itself is no longer love, but a kind of control. When we are used to treating ourselves and others in a controlling way, then our inner life is limited.

Although our lives come through our parents, we never belong to them. What we need to understand is that there is a mission for one generation.

As Kahlil Gibran said, your children never belong to you, but to a tomorrow that you cannot see. What is important for each of us is that in the face of our parents' emotional kidnapping and bondage, the most important thing we can do is to ask ourselves how we feel, whether we are comfortable or uncomfortable.

Everyone can only be responsible for themselves throughout their life, so in the face of others' reproach, we need to get rid of others and return to the center of our self-growth. If you understand that you are responsible for yourself, you can by and large get rid of those people's control over you and instead say no to their demands and take back your dominance once and for all.

Keep thinking keenly and respect your thoughts

We have an old poem about, I think, therefore I am. If we want to make life better and better, the most important thing we can do is to learn to keep thinking keenly.

People's feelings are often unique, as are their thoughts, and we need to respect that our thoughts and feelings are the keys to forming ourselves and being who we are.

The reason many people in life go with the flow is essential that we give up on our thinking and then use other people's ideas as if they were our own.

Respecting our thoughts and feelings, on the other hand, often starts from the perspective of our own experience, incorporating everything at the moment, and recording our feelings and insights at the moment as we engage in each event.

Respecting our feelings is not rejecting the feelings of others. Respecting our feelings is reading ourselves as independent individuals and understanding that the essence of life is a journey of experience.

We gradually complete our personal growth and sublimation through our own experience and deep participation in life. We need to keep our independent thinking and respect our feelings, which is essentially the greatest respect for ourselves.

When you no longer underestimate your feelings, you will know that others use their thoughts and feelings to replace your feelings you will say NO loudly and thus find your dominance.

Learn to reject and fight back against others

Many people in the process of growing up in life, habitually treat themselves and others in an obsequious way this way makes it difficult for us to find our dominance.

Oftentimes, we put other people's affairs ahead of our own, and when we don't consider ourselves important, then our growth is frustrating.

So we need to awaken the voice of ourselves, we need to stay connected to ourselves and listen to our inner feelings, especially when we are having a hard time, we need to reject others appropriately, our body is our first signal, and we need to listen with our mind and body feelings to hear them.

When we hear your inner voice, we can take a step toward being controlled by others and thus find our confidence and our voice.

Fighting back does not mean we are rude or that we are not good people. Fighting back is a way to maintain the boundaries of self and to let others get to know us.

We don't need to be perfect people, but we need to be real people, and being real is more important than being perfect, so properly countering others and rejecting them is the key to being good at what we do.

Learn to negotiate and pursue win-win

The best way to escape from a life of control is to pursue a win-win life. Many times we are invisibly controlled by people because we ignore our voice, so it is important to learn to express your opinion, and when you know how to express your opinion, you will be seen.

The most important thing in a person's life is to learn to see yourself, to see heaven and earth, and to see all beings. The most important thing to be seen by others is to tell them how you feel. If our inner feelings are seen by others, we will be able to negotiate better.

The most important thing for people is not to sacrifice themselves, but to know how to complete the journey of self meaning building from within. When you know how to complete the journey of self-building, you will know that only when we fully understand each other's position, we will be able to resolve the conflicts and contradictions of others.

When faced with emotional kidnapping and blackmail from others, we can speak our feelings and opinions from the heart to gain the understanding of others. This is also the key to ensuring that we can be ourselves.

Everyone is unique in this world. Knowing how to get rid of the invisible control of others in our relationships, we will understand how good it is to be ourselves. We can be responsible for our own life, we can respect our feelings, see ourselves, and read others, then we can live for ourselves and thus become the master of our own life.