What I've learned along the way

Life has been anything, but easy. By the age of 28 I had lost both of my parents, have known loss and trauma and pain, every year since, I was about 7. I have taken care of my handicapped brother my entire life, so to say that I grew up quickly is an understatement. I have taken care of the elderly and disabled since I was 17. I have learned so much from so many. My mother had Psychosis and was in and out of hospitals since I was 16. She died in a terrible car wreck, while completely sleep "walking". In losing her, I lost myself. But, where there is great pain, there is great healing underneath. I learned at a very young age that everything is a lesson, and the sooner you realize what that lesson is, the sooner your soul growth and expansion takes place. I grew up it a very metaphysical/spiritual family with gifts that I thought everyone had. We are all arguing over the same thing. All we need to know, is LOVE will win, Unconditional love is literally a frequency and it flows through us all. I know GREAT pain, But I also know great LOVE. The lessons I've learned, I want to share with others in hopes that maybe it could help others to navigate their feelings and thoughts. I know that everyone has to go through the process, no one can do it for you. BUT maybe just maybe this could be a cheat sheet to get to that lesson a little easier.

Things that I have learned along the way..

*People do not break your heart- the expectations you set, maybe even subconsciously, are in fact the reason for said broken heart. When you have expectations, you have an emotional

attachment tied into the expectation, and whenever that expectation isn't met, disappoint, hurt, and anger tend to be the only thing left after the illusion is shattered.

So others don't break your heart, you break your own heart, when you expect anything. So LET GO of expectations, and be in your NOW moment, just breathe through the process.

*Healing never ends: it is ever going. You will have small things to heal from, big things, past things, things in the now, trauma, heart break, loss. etc- and when you are going through

a very a painful time or event in your life, FEEL it- feel it as quickly as possible, let it flow through you, allow yourself to FEEL whatever it is, but then let it flow and let it go.

You will feel physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually lighter. You then have room in your being, for other things to fill in the place of where the unhealed event was kept.

Putting a blanket over the pain, or sweeping it under the rug, or finding a "band-aid" in other people or things, only prolongs the healing and the growth and expansion that takes place

after the "letting go". Pain and heartache are inevitable, but so is healing, and when you heal, and you truly let it go, you feel as if you've "leveled up" in your mind, in your heart, in your soul, in every part of your being down to a cellular level.

*Self-Love: Self love is important for every relationship. Obviously the relationship you have within yourself, but even beyond that. Self- Love is what will change this world.

When you have so much love of self, it starts from a deep internal place and exudes onto everyone around you, and if each of us take that time to focus on self- love, then we would

all be exuding so much love- Love is our greatest gift!

So love yourself, so you can love others. And to love yourself you have got to go inward and love and heal all that has been left behind , not only from this lifetime, but from any and every life you’ve ever lived, in any other realm or universe, and not only yours, but your ancestral lineage as well. Heal to break the cycle that has been placed upon you for generations upon generations.

Remember that you can only love others, as much as you love yourself, and you can only truly love yourself, when you realize your worth.Your perception maybe completely different but the fact is still the same, We are all light beings and the frequency of unconditional love flows through all of us.

We truly accept the love we think we deserve, so think highly of your self worth, and love yourself so hard.

*Forgiveness: Forgivness is SOOOOOO important on your journey in life. People often think or feel that forgiveness is for the person that caused you so much heartache, it is NOT..

It is and has always been for your own well being. For your heart and soul to be able to continue to grow and expand, if you aren't able to forgive, you give that other person complete control, not only over your emotions, but over your whole being, and NO ONE should have that kind of control over you, EXCEPT for you. Forgiveness frees your heart and mind, of all that non -forgiveness, takes away. It goes back to self- love, love yourself so much that you are able to forgive for YOUR growth and expansion, for you heart and mind, for all that YOU deserve.

Dont stand in your own way.

*Prayer and "setting intention" are the same things. I grew up in a very spiritual and metaphysical family, I grew up very connected spiritually. I grew up with the "setting intentions", "affirmation", "bringing things to fruition" type of reality. In Janurary of 2018, I lost my mother in a terribly trumatic car accident, I got married later that year and then divorced the following year. August of 2019, I finally realized; "THE TRUTH".. Everything FINALLY connected.

I have always "known" that when you believe something with 100 percent of your being, that things happen- that is setting intention. Praying or setting intention with 100 percent faith and zero doubt moves every mountain, literally.

We are meant to simply be love and light to others, we are light beings, we have the frequency of love ever flowing through us. Share it. Share it with everyone. Kindness seems to be a lost art but it’s really easy when you allow love in.

Turn your pain into positivity. You don't have to stay in that victimized space of being, that hinders your spiritual growth, and that's what we are all here for. We are spiritual beings living a human experience. So manifest the life you want. Envision the life you want as if you are living it NOW. Everyone and everything is energy. Our thoughts, wants, beliefs are all energy- and the frequency that you send out, will come back to you, like a bat echoing in a cave, it sends those echos out and it comes back to them so they can "see" where they are going.

Have sight by faith, not faith by sight. Believe whole heartily that what you want will become and watch as it happens. You are the co- creator of your life. Make it the best one that you can, because life is way to short to be anything, But HAPPY.

Do the things that scare you, love the life you WANT not the life you HAVE. If you aren’t happy, change it. If you don’t see change around you, create it. Maybe the world is waiting for you to step up and take charge.

Whatever you’re passionate about, do it more. Make time for those things, it gets you out of that robotic way of living, and sets your soul on fire.

Create- whether it be art, in whatever form, friendships, relationships, happiness. Just create life, within yourself and others. Just make sure to keep that balance of give and take.

Balance-:You have to keep the flow going, and it takes equal parts of give and take, with others and within yourself. Everything is a balance. Make sure not to give to much of yourself or take too much from another, keep it equal.

Friendships/ relationships: will come and go, don’t beg for them to stay, don’t put yourself through heartache and pain and disrespect yourself by letting another have power over you. What is meant to be yours, will always gravitate back to you. And what is meant to be taken away, you let happen, don’t fight it.

Grieving: Is for yourself. You don’t grieve the loss of someone because they have passed, you grieve YOUR loss of said person. But feel everything you’re feeling, honor it, let it flow and let it go!

So be kind to everyone, show love to everyone (even if it isn't returned) help others out of the kindness of your heart without expecting something in return. Show so much love. Have faith that moves mountains. And LIVE truly live, don't just exist, life is too short. Forgive- for yourself. Healing never ends, you level up and learn to face your pain as soon as possible for your soul's growth. Do what sets your soul on fire, whatever that may be. Be so happy that everyone around you feels happy to. Live your best life, for yourself and help as many people as you can. You are so loved, You matter so much and you are far more important than you will ever know.